There has always been a question lingering in the hearts of many people with diet: Why are men not bad and women not loving? Why are good girls always attracted by scumbags? Many good men are heartbroken about this, but often they are unaware of it. But women often blame themselv

There has always been a question lingering in the hearts of many people with diet: Why are men not bad and women not loving? Why are good girls always attracted by scumbags?

Many good men are heartbroken by this, but they often don’t know the key points.

But women often blame themselves, why do they fall into the gentle trap of bad men?

British writer Maugham tried to give his own answer in " Veil ".

"Veal" tells the story of Katie's desire and loss, redemption and self-salvation of a rich British girl, Katie. Maugham used a sharp pencil sharpener to cut open Katie's heart layer by layer, allowing readers to get a glimpse of the truth.

1 Bad man is well versed in female psychology

Katie, who has a beautiful appearance, has been regarded as a strange thing by her mother since she was a child. The strong mother hopes to use Katie to get a good relationship and further cross the class.

The spoiled Katie was dazzled among the suitors, but she didn't want to drag herself into an older young woman. Seeing that his unpretentious sister Taodi was looking for a good marriage because of her youth, she was still waiting for her name.

At the urging of her mother, Katie hurriedly grabbed Walter, a taciturn and introverted bacterologist, and got married in a hurry.

After marriage, Walter took Katie to Hong Kong, China, where she met the married woman Charlie Townsend.

Boring marriage life, stereotypical and boring husband, Katie feels lonely, lonely and lost.

The eternal bad man saw Katie's loneliness at a glance. Under Charlie's temptation, Katie had an extramarital affair with him.

You should know that bad men have the natural mind reading , and have learned this skill from their own childhood.

Many bad men do not have the ability to empathize and can only imitate some human emotions through continuous learning, so they create strong ability to recognize people and perform. They can accurately judge prey, prescribe the right medicine according to their preferences, and perform the type of personality the other party likes.

There is such a man who is right for his own taste, and who is not moved?

. Good men are taught to be responsible and responsible since childhood. They spend most of their time and energy on study and work, and they are slightly inferior in interpersonal relationships, and they have no way to talk about their understanding of women's psychology.

They often lose from the beginning because they show the real side, which may not be the state that women like.

2 Love reduces IQ to zero

Walter's love for Katie is deep and silent. He is not good at expressing himself. He is obviously a humble and wise scholar, but he seems clumsy and dull in front of his beloved woman.

This made Katie feel that he was very boring.

On the contrary, Charlie often boasts about his work and abilities in front of Katie. He speaks sweet words, knows what women like to listen to, and is also good at displaying his charm.

Katy was confused by him. The two often had affair with each other. What's more, they actually came to their home and were discovered by Walter, who came home early.

Walter was heartbroken and decided to take Katie away from Hong Kong and work in Mei Tan Mansion where the plague was raging.

Walter's move is not only to retaliate against Katie, but also to hope that Katie will recognize the truth. When the love is exposed and she is desperate, will Charlie be responsible for Katie?

However, the result disappointed Katie, and Charlie had never thought of divorce and marrying her. Looking at his selfish and indifferent face, Katie was completely disappointed and was determined to die, so she agreed to Walter's request.

As long as you are a human being, once you fall in love, your IQ will drop sharply, regardless of men or women. And bad men will not fall in love with anyone except themselves. Therefore, there is no problem of decreased IQ.

Therefore, when they get along with women, they can observe calmly, judge women's thoughts and behavior rationally, prescribe the right medicine, adjust their strategies, and respond in a timely manner, so women are often prone to getting up.

However, for a good man, once he falls in love with a woman, he will become humble, worry about gains and losses, his IQ will decrease, and he will do some stupid things and say some stupid words.

Most women have a strong desire and hope that the object they love is smart, capable and powerful. Therefore, if they didn’t have a good impression of the other person from the beginning, it would be difficult to get moved immediately when they see the stupid look of a good man.

This is the fundamental reason why "men are not bad, women do not love them".

3 The power of mental control

Katie, who had just walked out of love injury, still remembered Charlie at the beginning. As time passed, she gradually woke up and realized that what she loved was just a cowardly and selfish villain.

In Meitan Mansion, Katy discovered the other side of Walter.

It turns out that this man who is not good at speaking is actually a smart, wise, responsible and noble person in the eyes of nuns and officials. Katie was surprised that everyone admired him and respected him.

If she had discovered this side of Walter earlier, she might have fallen in love with him.

Kate was deeply moved by Walter's dedication, so he decided to go to the monastery to help.

Just as everything was going well, Katie found out that she was pregnant, but she was not sure who the child was.

Walter hopes to tell from Katie that the child is his. Even if it is a deception, he accepts it. He likes the child and always loves Katie deeply. He hopes to have a child that they share.

But Katie is unwilling to deceive him.

Walter was heartbroken. His overload and high-intensity work made him less immunity. During the work, he was infected with cholera .

Katie buried him in Mei Tan Mansion and returned to Hong Kong, but fell into Charlie's gentle trap again.

Katie sees Charlie's character thoroughly and secretly hates that he will repeat the same mistakes. After the tempering of life and death, Katie matured. This time, she took the initiative to leave Charlie and returned to England.

Bad men are well versed in mental manipulation.

They know how to test a woman's bottom line, control her mental state, suppress and belittle her moderately, and then give a little sweetness in time. This cycle is repeated, controlling the rhythm and process, just like taming an animal, taming a woman without trace, and thus completely manipulating a woman.

After such operations, some women with low self-esteem are easily tamed, lose their self-confidence and self-esteem, and cannot get rid of each other.

And good men feel inferior when facing their beloved women because of their rich feelings. They may even be "low down to the dust".

Because of love, we tolerate a woman's bad temper. Because of love, we give her all the best things, and sometimes even spoil her because of it.

The loved one is often fearless and does not know how to cherish it.

4

Men are not bad, women do not "love". This kind of "love" is false and unsustainable.

Maybe women will be blinded for a while, but nothing false can last forever, and it will eventually be exposed like a painted skin.

and time is the best prosecutor.

The best way to determine whether the other party is a companion or a hunter is to lengthen the timeline. Just like those predators in the animal world, bad men will patiently wait for their prey to relax their vigilance and hit it with another blow.

During the hunting process, they will immediately change the target if they miss a hit, because it is impossible to last for a long time without any reward or reward.

And companions can accompany each other for a long time and walk a long way.

So, when you are in love, don’t determine the relationship too quickly. Give more time to get to know each other.

In addition, the standard for judging whether you meet a good or a bad man is that this relationship has made you better or worse?

Bad men are here to consume your energy, enthusiasm and energy. They will not invest any money and energy in their relationship. Even if they spend a lot of money to win you at the beginning, they will try every means to get it back later.

So, if you feel that you have become bad in your relationship, don’t hesitate, stop loss in time is the best strategy.

And true love is the growth of two people and the sharing of storms.

True love is companionship, mutual support, unyielding in the trough, and mutual respect and love in the highlights.

Real love will make you a better self.

If you encounter it, don’t hesitate.