In 1993, a special wedding was held in a hotel in Beijing, just because the protagonists of the wedding were not all Beijingers. The gentle and elegant bride was the daughter of Beijing, while the handsome groom came from distant Africa, Uganda.
The bride's name is Wang Lihong. She is not an ordinary girl. As early as 1986, she was admitted to Tsinghua University with her excellent grades. She is a famous talent among relatives and friends.
The groom is named Suma . He is an African student who came to Tsinghua University to study from Uganda . He not only has excellent academic performance, but also has a humorous and funny person.
Looking at the loving newlywed couple on the stage, the guests present sent their best wishes. But there were only two people who were happy, and their eyes revealed concern.
They are Wang Lihong's parents. Although their daughter kept promised: " found love by themselves! ", for this marriage, the two parents were still worried that their daughter would be wronged.
It has been 29 years since Wang Lihong married away from Africa. She has followed her husband back to Uganda, is her life going well? Did she regret her original choice?
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Wang Lihong is a native Beijing girl. Her parents are intellectuals. She has received a very traditional education since she was a child. Since she had a memory, her parents have transmitted a thought to her: " Reading is the best way to change her destiny !"
Under the education and influence of her parents, Wang Lihong has worked very hard since she entered school. She never needs her parents to worry about her studies. She can get back the transcripts that make her parents proud every time she takes the walls.
Wang Lihong is a typical " Other people's children ". Whether it is a relative or neighbor, he will give out his thumbs up whenever he mentions Wang Lihong.
In addition to being excellent in academic performance, Wang Lihong is also very sensible. She has never disobeyed her parents, and she has never let her parents down. She has a filial daughter who is overbearing her, so her parents are naturally very proud.
By 1986, Wang Lihong ushered in one of the most important moments in her life. She entered the college entrance examination room and studied hard for ten years, it depends on whether she can perform stably this time.
There is no surprise in the world of academic masters. After the transcript was released, Wang Lihong successfully passed the score line of Tsinghua University, and her parents held a lively school entrance banquet for her daughter.
But when the guests disperse and the family returned to their past tranquility, their parents still did not forget to remind their daughter: "Having admitted to to Tsinghua can only prove that you were excellent in the past, but Tsinghua University is full of talents. Don't relax when you go to university, you must have a further goal! " Wang Lihong remembers his parents' teachings.
After the official start of school, Wang Lihong entered the century-old Tsinghua Park with excitement. She always remembers her parents' words. She dare not relax at all times after entering university. Every day, she lives in three points and one line like dormitory, teachers and libraries.
Wang Lihong proves with her strength that she can still be a top student even at Tsinghua University, and Wang Lihong is also very talented and a veritable talented woman. Girls like
are naturally the objects pursued by the opposite sex. However, when faced with the olive branches thrown by others, Wang Lihong decisively refused on the grounds that "mainly studying and does not consider falling in love with ".
Four years of undergraduate degree, Wang Lihong remained single for her quiet study. In fact, judging from her actions that made her desperate for love, it was not that she really refused to fall in love for her sake, but because she did not meet the person who made her heart moved.
In 1990, Wang Lihong successfully completed her undergraduate studies. At that time, she faced two choices: either continue to study or start her career like many classmates.
This choice Wang Lihong had the answer before graduation. She wanted to continue to study for graduate students at her school, so when she got her undergraduate diploma, Wang Lihong also obtained the postgraduate admission qualification.
Wang Lihong probably never thought that this choice would allow her to encounter a relationship that crossed the line. She also didn't expect that she would sing a rebellion with her parents for the first time for the other party.
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Shortly after studying for a postgraduate degree, Wang Lihong attended a school association. Wang Lihong was enthusiastic and generous that day, and was very eye-catching among the crowd.
Wang Lihong like this attracted the attention of a man named Suma.
Suma comes from Uganda, a distant Africa. Although Uganda was very backward and poor in the early 1990s, Suma is the son of the chief and his family is better. This is also an important reason why he was able to study at Tsinghua University.
Of course, it is naturally not qualified to come to Tsinghua University by relying solely on his family background. Being able to come to China's top academic institutions proves that Suma himself is also excellent, especially his Chinese level has surpassed many people.
When Suma saw the enthusiastic and generous Wang Lihong, she was instantly attracted by her unique temperament. He was extroverted and took the initiative to come forward to say hello to Wang Lihong.
Wang Lihong doesn’t have a particularly good impression of Africans, but she responded to Suma with a smile out of politeness. In Wang Lihong’s eyes, this was just a very simple exchange, but Suma was secretly determined to pursue this Chinese girl.
In the days that followed, in order to get close to Wang Lihong, Suma always deliberately created many "accidental encounters", including the school's canteen, library, tree-lined paths, etc. Wang Lihong found that she could meet Suma on many occasions.
Every time I meet, Suma greets Wang Lihong enthusiastically and will stop and chat for a few words. After a long time, Wang Lihong found that Suma is a very optimistic and funny person, and they also left contact information.
Soon Suma expressed her love like Wang Lihong, and Wang Lihong, who knew more about Suma, also decided to accept this transnational love.
Because of the same values and the same interests and hobbies, Wang Lihong feels very relaxed and happy with Suma. She feels that she has met the right person.
But when she told her parents about her love, the parents broke out instantly when they heard that their daughter was in love with an African, and insisted: "It's absolutely not possible!"
But once a person encounters true love, it is difficult to turn back. Wang Lihong, who has been sensible since childhood, did not obey her parents' opinions this time. She also said firmly in a tone: "I love Suma. Whether you agree or not, I decided to be with him."
In order to express her determination, Wang Lihong even went on a hunger strike to protest. The parents were panicked. They didn't expect that their daughter was a love brain. They actually joked about their health for an African man.
Since it is a bad luck, let’s change the way to break them up. After the parents discussed, they sent Wang Lihong directly to Japan to study. Suma was very sad when she learned that her girlfriend was going to Japan, fearing that they would really separate.
Wang Lihong is the same. On that day, the young couple shed tears, but Suma said: "Don't worry about studying, I will wait for you!"
originally thought that distance would dilute feelings and longing, but Wang Lihong was wrong. When she arrived in Japan, she was screened in her mind with Suma, and she had no intention of studying.
Suma, who stayed at Tsinghua University, is not the case. In the end, Suma made a decision. He wanted to go to Japan to find Wang Lihong. He was too tired of this feeling of living like a year.
When Suma appeared in front of Wang Lihong, she could hardly believe her eyes. After a few seconds, the couple, who were not blessed by the woman's parents, hugged each other and cried.
When learning that Suma is going to Japan to find her daughter, Wang Lihong's parents were also shocked. They began to let go of their prejudice and tried to accept Suma. Soon after, they were moved by Suma's sincerity and finally nodded to agree to their daughter's date with him.
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In 1993, Wang Lihong and Suma held a wedding ceremony in Beijing. Shortly after the marriage, Wang Lihong became pregnant and gave birth to her and Suma's first daughter.
With his little grandson, Wang Lihong's parents revolved around the children all day long, enjoying the joy of family. Suma was grateful to his wife's efforts and became more considerate to Wang Lihong.
In a blink of an eye, in 1996, Suma also completed her studies as scheduled. They were facing new topics again, whether to stay in Beijing or return to Uganda.
Wang Lihong's parents first gave their opinions, letting them stay in Beijing, and the living conditions and employment opportunities in China are incomparable to Uganda.
But Suma also has his own responsibilities. He is one of the few top students in the local area. Now that he has completed his studies, he hopes that he can go back to build his hometown. This is also the responsibility and obligation he should fulfill as the son of the chief.
Seeing her husband’s embarrassment, Wang Lihong was also very sad. If she stayed in Beijing, her husband would feel guilty towards her motherland.
But if you go to Uganda, it means that she cannot be filial to her parents, and it means that she will go to that strange place that is not rich and start a new life.
After thinking about it, Wang Lihong decided to return to Uganda with Suma. Although her parents disagreed, they had already given their blessings and seemed to be unable to do anything.
One day in 1996, with the reluctance of his parents and the unknown about Uganda, Wang Lihong and Suma boarded the plane to Uganda. Suma took good care of his wife's emotions along the way and told her: " No matter where you go, I am your strongest support and harbor."
Although I did a lot of psychological construction, when my feet really stepped into the land of Uganda, Wang Lihong was still shocked by the dilapidated houses and dirty streets here.
Fortunately, she has a husband and daughter, and her lost heart is a little more comforted. Suma's family is very enthusiastic about this Chinese daughter-in-law, and they sincerely accept her arrival.
But when I met family members, something embarrassing happened, because Suma's father was the chief, and he actually had ten wives and called ten daughters "mothers", which made Wang Lihong feel a little embarrassed.
In addition, Suma has more than 40 siblings. This huge family and polygamy feudal system made Wang Lihong very uncomfortable. Of course, what she was most worried about was that Suma would marry many wives like her father-in-law, which she could not accept.
But Suma promised Wang Lihong that day: "Don't worry, my wife, I have only one wife, she can only be Wang Lihong!" Her husband's words made Wang Lihong feel at ease.
Since she came, she would be content with it. Although she had many discomforts with Uganda, especially her lack of parents and friends, which made Wang Lihong feel lonely occasionally, she still integrated into her new family as much as possible and accepted local customs and habits.
Within a few years, Wang Lihong gave birth to three children for her husband. On weekdays, Suma is busy with work. In order to help her husband work with peace of mind, Wang Lihong took care of her family in an orderly manner.
Although Suma's family has a driver and a nanny, Wang Lihong still likes to do many things by herself. For example, making delicious Chinese food for her husband and children is what she likes to do the most.
Suma was also very considerate to Wang Lihong as promised at the time, and she always abides by monogamy. For this reason, she was not understood by people around her, but Suma ignored it. In his heart, Wang Lihong is unique and his small family is very happy.
But something that happened in 2008 brought a heavy blow to Wang Lihong and their small family. Wang Lihong was immersed in grief for a long time.
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This year, Wang Lihong's one-year-old youngest son unfortunately suffered from malaria . The couple came to the largest hospital in Uganda with their high fever. But the doctor looked at the child with a high fever and gave a regretful answer: "I'm sorry, the child cannot be cured!"
If he was in China, his son would definitely not be taken away by malaria. Wang Lihong, who has always been strong, could no longer hold back and lay on her husband and cried bitterly.
Since his son passed away, Wang Lihong felt that she had been hollowed out and she had lost more than ten years in a few days. Suma felt sorry for her son's death and his wife's haggardness.
During that time, the family was very concerned about Wang Lihong, especially Suma, who took leave to take her wife to travel alone, hoping that the scenery could wash away the sadness in her wife.
Domestic parents also call every day, caring about Wang Lihong's health, and carefully advised her to be more open.After a while, Wang Lihong realized that she could not be immersed in grief forever, so that everyone would worry about herself.
One day, Wang Lihong said to her husband: "Suma, it doesn't matter, I will cheer up !" Through her son's experience, Wang Lihong also felt how terrible it is to lag behind in local medical conditions, and she suddenly had the idea of helping more people.
In the end, Wang Lihong decided to open a school so that more children can get the opportunity to receive education so that they can build their hometown and benefit their descendants. Suma supports his wife's decision very much.
In 2010, the couple took out all their savings and bought a local school. Wang Lihong named the school "Lu Yangzi Middle School".
Although it is easy to buy a primary school, it is actually very difficult to manage. The school’s infrastructure does not meet the standards at all. Wang Lihong also found ways to raise funds and renovated all tables, chairs, classrooms, and dormitories.
Although all the savings have been spent, Wang Lihong was very pleased to see the new teaching environment. At the same time, the school is also equipped with a computer room, a library, etc.
In the course, in addition to traditional subjects, Wang Lihong offers Chinese courses, which not only conveys Chinese culture, but also enhances cultural exchanges between the two countries.
Wang Lihong gradually got rid of the pain of losing her son and devoted all her energy to teaching. At the same time, in order to solve the problems of school teachers and student employment problems, Wang Lihong directly asked some graduates to directly serve as teachers on campus.
Lu Yangzi School has become more and more famous in the local area under Wang Lihong's painstaking management, and even spread to China. Some educational philanthropists donated materials to the school to support Wang Lihong in teaching in a foreign country.
Two years ago, Wang Lihong, who was over 50 years old, returned to China to visit relatives and was gathered with Tsinghua alumni. Looking at the talented Tsinghua girl who was once young and beautiful, now she has some vicissitudes. A classmate asked her: "Do you regret your choice? "
Wang Lihong said firmly: " does not regret it. If you do it again, I will still follow Suma to Africa, because I can help many people there."
Although Wang Lihong has been married to Africa for the years, she has been disappointed and experienced life changes, but after the storm, she has lived out herself. She lives in that barren land and illuminated more people. Isn't such courage and courage worth learning from?
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