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Who will people rely on when they are old? In people's hearts, children are definitely the first choice. " Raise children to prevent old age, accumulate grain to prevent hunger." This is the reason.
That’s right, I worked hard to raise my children to adulthood, just wait until I get old and have a support to live in my old age.
However, you should also know that times have changed. Children have their own careers and families. How can they take good care of the elderly in all aspects? Therefore, as an elderly person, you must settle yourself. In this way, you can feel at ease and your children can feel at ease.
Why not listen to the voice of this 77-year-old man: When you are old, don’t do these two things.
Uncle Yuan, 77 years old
I am a retired teacher, my surname is Yuan, 77 years old. My wife and I have raised a pair of children, and they have all started their own families and careers.
My wife has passed away for 7 years, and I have not lived at all in these 7 years. I have to move home every six months without a sense of home; I have a pension of more than 4,000 yuan a month, but I have to talk to my children for money; I have been hospitalized twice, and I leave the hospital in advance to spend less money.
Life in his later years was so embarrassing that we should not blame our children for being unfilial, because it was all because of our wrong decisions.
. Sell the house
My wife and I have a three-bedroom house in the old city. We live on the fourth floor and there is no elevator. After my wife passed away, because of loneliness, I lived like years and often cried secretly.
Sometimes when I talk to my old friends, they suggest me to find another wife or live with my children.
I don’t want to find my wife again. I still want to follow my children to support me and raise them to adulthood. Now that I am old, it’s time for them to respect me.
That day was Mid-Autumn Festival. I told my children about this and they were happy to accept it.
Next, things came. They said that the house could not be empty for a long time, either rented out or sold.
I thought about it and just sold it while the housing prices are pretty good. My children said they respect my choice.
In less than a month, my house was sold and I even sold it for a good price. I originally wanted to deposit the money for selling a house in the bank, but then I thought, why do you need so much money when you get old? Anyway, when you are old, you have to rely on your children. If you have a house, I will live in. It is better to share the money with them and relieve them of financial pressure. I even thought that if I gave them money, I might be more filial to me.
So, I distributed the money for selling the house to my children without leaving a penny.
I lived in my son's house with peace of mind.
My son lives in an elevator room. I am very happy because my legs are not good and I no longer have to climb stairs.
After living in my son's house, I realized that this home does not belong to me. My own things can only be placed in storage box . There is no special wardrobe. Sometimes, I have to take out all the clothes to find them before I can find them. The toiletries are also packed in a plastic box and placed in the cabinet under the toilet table; the clothes I changed are washed separately; even the dishes and chopsticks for eating are separated. What makes me even more uncomfortable is that I sleep in the study every day, and it is a small single bed.
My grandson is in high school and studies until late at night every night. Even if I am sleepy, I have to wait until my grandson finishes studying before I can sleep peacefully.
I try my best to endure these things and don’t want to destroy family harmony because of my arrival. After living in my son's house for half a year, my daughter picked me up and moved into her house.
Although I live better at my daughter's house, I feel extremely uncomfortable every day with my mother-in-law.
No matter how good or not you live in your children's homes, I still don't make any requests. No matter what, I still have to live there, otherwise, where can I go to live? These unpleasant things are all caused by one's own discomfort and cannot blame others.
2. Take out the pension
I believe that parents hope that their children will live a good life, and those who can help must be selfless help.When I lived at my son's house, my son and daughter-in-law didn't talk about money, but I felt that I had a pension and could not eat and live for free, so I wanted to take out some living expenses myself, but after thinking about it carefully, I didn't have many places to spend money anyway, so I just wanted to ask them for money, so I could just take out my retirement card, so I felt at ease.
Sometimes I want to gather with my old friends and have no money in my hands, so I ask my son to speak. I always feel a soft hand and feel uncomfortable. I wanted to take back my retirement card, but I felt it was inappropriate.
To be fair, I lived at my daughter's house and handed over the retirement card to my daughter.
Some people say I am stupid, and some people say I can be an old man. To be honest, I regret it. The house has been sold. If I take back the retirement card I handed over, I will be worried about causing family conflicts. However, it was still because of money that the cause was very unpleasant. My son said I was not mindful, and my son-in-law said I was partial, and I was so helpless.
I can only comfort myself like this. Anyway, I am getting older every year, and the pension is still in the hands of my children. I am not given to outsiders, and I just need to have food and drink.
Unexpectedly, I was hospitalized for stomach disease and , and I was discharged early every time. The children said in unison that stomach problems should be raised at home. In fact, they are all afraid of spending more money.
I have medical insurance, and I can’t spend much money during my hospitalization, but they always have reasons to convince me.
007, I have lived this kind of life without autonomy. Think about it, my life is true. When my wife was alive, she listened to her husband in everything. She was gone, and everything was listened to her children. Are you wronged?is here, I just want to advise the elderly friends not to live the same old age as me.
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was written at the end
Uncle Yuan did not consider doing this.
People are old and lose their husbands. Regardless of whether their children are filial or not, they must keep their house and the money in their hands. In this way, they will live a happier life in their later years.
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