Introduction
Marriage is not a joke.
What is marriage?
in the Eastern Han Dynasty period Gu said in his compilation "Baihu Tong": "Marriage means rituals at dusk, so it is called marriage. Marriage is made by women because of husbands, so it is called marriage."
A sociologist pointed out that marriage is the mutual nourishment, mutual fulfillment, and mutual dependence. It is you respect me, and I also respect your life journey.
A historian pointed out that primitive humans have no marriage. People at that time were the same as the primates we could see today. They were not bound by marriage, and men and women could interact at will. After clan society , in order to prevent the need for ethnic degeneration due to casual interaction between men and women, people began to implement the "collective group marriage system", that is, women of one clan collectively marry into another clan.
After the emergence of private ownership society, the basic prototype of marriage appeared. Since men at that time were the main body of private ownership society, men generally regarded women as their own property. Rich men adopted polygamy, while non-money men adopted monogamy.
According to historical records, in the private ownership society of , the phenomenon of robbing marriages and selling wives and concubines is very common. If a man has money, he can buy multiple wives and concubines; on the contrary, if a man has no money, either he can only buy one wife, or he will become a "bachelor".
According to the information, after the emergence of tribes and states and other social organizations, marriage has become a political bargaining chip. People will use "tribal intermarriage" and "national marriage" to achieve their political goals. Even today, in some Western countries, marriage is still used by wealthy families to form their own alliances.
A marriage and love expert pointed out that in ancient my country, there was no saying "divorce". In ancient times, men generally had a higher status, and men could "get off" women, but women could not leave men at will. There are records of " divorce" compiled by
people in the Han Dynasty. The records say that when a woman has " unfilial to her parents ", " childless ", " promiscuous ", "jealousy", "having a bad disease", " talk too much " and "theft", the man has the right to "get off" his wife; and when a man has these behaviors, the woman needs to endure it and cannot "get off" the man.
With the development and progress of society, the status of women has been greatly improved. After the status of women has improved, a divorce system has emerged in society. After the divorce system of
appeared, the remarriage system also appeared.
The so-called "remarriage" refers to an act of men and women who have divorced on the basis of voluntarily asking to restore the relationship between husband and wife.
An expert in marriage pointed out that Because there are often non-principle problems in marriage, some couples will choose to divorce under impulse. However, the relationship between the couple has not really broken down. After the divorce procedures and after a period of "cooling", their thoughts have changed, so they will choose to "remarry".
Of course, some couples have a certain "purpose" remarriage. This kind of "remarriage" is difficult to make the relationship between husband and wife as before, and this kind of "remarriage" is often rejected by one party.
In fact, this marriage expert has a very correct view. Look, on October 7, something like this happened in Zijiang, Sichuan -
incident
Sichuan Zijiang woman Zhang Yan (pseudonym) is 29 years old this year and is a very beautiful woman.
Four years ago, Zhang Yan worked in a bar in Chongqing. By chance, she met Feng Mouen, a man one year older than her. Because Feng Mouen was handsome and elegant, and had extraordinary conversation, Zhang Yan actually secretly fell in love with Feng Mouen.
As the saying goes, a man chases a woman across the mountain, and a woman chases a man across the layer of yarn.Since Zhang Yan fell in love with Feng Mouen, she just asked Feng Mouen for WeChat and chatted with Feng Mouen a few times before she chased Feng Mouen.
Zhang Yan, Feng Mouen, realized that Feng Mouen did not have a formal job. He worked hard for a year and could not make much money, which was far from his income from working in a bar. However, Zhang Yan, who was blinded by love, married Feng Mouen shortly after they fell in love. The second year after marriage, Zhang Yan gave birth to a daughter.
Because Feng Mouen's job is unstable and his income is not high, he cannot meet Zhang Yan's daily expenses. Zhang Yan, who could not stand the poverty life, filed for divorce from Feng Mouen in the third year after the two got married. At first, Feng Mouen did not agree to the divorce, but with Zhang Yan's insistence, the two divorced. After the divorce, her daughter lived with Zhang Yan.
According to an insider, because Zhang Yan is getting older and she is taking care of her children, high-income industries like bars no longer want her, and she doesn't like industries with lower incomes. Although Zijiang's consumption level is not very high, living a life requires money, and you cannot live without money. In desperation, Zhang Yan decided to remarry.
insider then introduced that in view of the lessons learned from marrying Feng Mouen, this time, when Zhang Yan remarried, she refused to get a marriage certificate with the other party. In her terms, it was " trial marriage ". After a period of time, she evaluated whether she got a marriage certificate with the other party. Since Zhang Yan's remarriage this time has very high requirements for the other party, she has "tried marriage" five times in just one year. However, her "trial marriage" was not successful. She felt that these five men were not as at ease as her and Feng Mouen! After all, Feng Mouen can rely on himself everywhere and still takes great care of himself.
insiders continued to introduce that since they could not find the man they liked for a while, Zhang Yan took a wrong path for life. In just half a year, she had dated several men who were in disguise.
In late September, it was time for Zhang Yan to have her period, but her period did not come. So, Zhang Yan quickly went to the hospital for examination. After the doctor's examination, he confirmed that Zhang Yan was pregnant. However, Zhang Yan didn't know who the child in her belly belonged to.
Originally, Zhang Yan wanted to remove the child in her belly, but the doctor told her that after evaluation, if she removes the child, she might never be able to have children. Since Zhang Yan felt that raising one daughter is "single insurance" and raising two children is "double insurance", she decided to give birth to the child in her belly. But what should I do if I don’t have a father when I give birth to a child? After repeated consideration, on October 7, she decided to remarry her ex-husband Feng Mouen, but what she didn't expect was that Feng Mouen refused her request for remarriage.
Feng Mouen said: "Although I have divorced Zhang Yan, I always pay attention to her movements. I almost know what she has done during the period when we have divorced. Now, it is impossible for me to be a father when she doesn't know whose child she is pregnant. I will be a bachelor in my life and will not remarry a snobbish woman like her." The above mentioned in
is a general process of this incident.
When many netizens learned about this incident, netizens started a heated discussion.
Netizen voice
Many netizens believe that whether it is a man or a woman, they should have a rigorous attitude towards life and should not be too casual. Otherwise, your ending may be miserable.
Lao Hu’s opinion
What exactly is marriage?
In fact, marriage is just about food, food, food, food, food, food, food, and food. Marriage is about living poor, and living rich, and living rich and poor.
However, some people always interpret marriage differently, which leads to themselves losing direction. When their lives are rich, marriage still exists, and when their lives are poor, they will abandon their marriage. Little do they know that this kind of disoriented behavior is very dangerous.
In this incident, Zhang Yan made a disoriented mistake. Although I am a little poorer to live with Feng Mouen, at least, Feng Mouen is not bad to her.And this kind of "good" is very rare and should be cherished. However, Zhang Yan did not realize this, which led to her losing hope for remarriage. It should be said that Zhang Yan’s lesson was very profound.
What do you think?
