In the TV series "Human World", Zhou Bingkun has a sentence that touches the hearts of many children who are not favored by their parents: "They are all raised by one father and one mother, but I have no future. Do you know how uncomfortable I am?" My biggest wish in this life is

In the TV series " Human World ", Zhou Bingkun has a sentence that touches the hearts of many children who are not favored by their parents: "They are all raised by one parent and one mother. I am worthless. You know how much I have." Is it uncomfortable? My biggest wish in this life is to satisfy my parents. "

has the same father and mother, and enjoys the same parents' hard work and family resources. Brothers and sisters have become human beings and have a glorious ancestor. , has become the pride of his parents, but he has no future. Not only does it make his parents look good, but also does not let his parents worry about him, it is good. Such a sharp contrast is indeed very painful.

There is a big gap between brothers and sisters of the same father and mother. This situation is very common. Faced with this situation, smart parents and unclear parents will have different ways of handling it.

Smart parents will neither rob the rich and give to the poor, nor force their children who are doing well to help those who are not doing well, nor will they dislike the poor and love the rich, and look down on their children who are not doing well. In the eyes of parents who truly love their children , no matter whether their children are doing well or not, they are their biological flesh and blood and their hearts and minds.

Parents who are confused do the opposite. They either rob the rich and give to the poor, hurting their children who are doing well, or they look down on their children who are doing poorly.

Psychologist Shi Qijia once said: "The price of childhood trauma is a lifelong desire for love. In addition, there is no other desire."

Among all the injuries, the ones that come from relatives, especially parents The hurt is definitely the most severe, and it makes people feel heart-wrenching. The hurt caused by the original family often takes a lifetime to heal.

"It is normal and human nature to dislike the poor and love the rich, to flatter the superior and to despise the inferior. If this happens to my relatives and friends, I can still accept it. However, the people who dislike me are my parents, and the people who look down on me are my closest relatives. Man, I’m really in pain.” When

mentioned his family of origin, Mr. He, a man who has always been strong, couldn’t control his tears.

01. Growing up, I was the most unpopular child in my family because I was dull, dull and not as promising as my younger brother;

Mr. He is 35 years old this year, has been married for 9 years, and has a twin brother.

In a family with many children, it is easy for parents to prefer a certain child, and the He family is no exception.

“Growing up, my parents, grandparents, and other relatives all liked my brother and ignored me because I was honest, dull, and not smart. I couldn’t say nice things to please my elders, and I didn’t The ability to read. "

Mr. He's younger brother is not only better at pleasing his elders, but also smart. He doesn't seem to study hard. Anyway, he can't compare with his elder brother who studies questions until two or three in the morning every day, but his grades are always better than his elder brother's. good.

In the end, my younger brother was admitted to a key university and became the pride of his parents. Their parents specially set up a running water table for three days to celebrate his younger brother. They sent him to school in person and took a lot of photos to show off to relatives and friends. But why My husband was only admitted to a second-level college, and his parents were extremely disappointed. Not to mention the entrance banquet, no one even accompanied Mr. He when he registered.

After graduating, Mr. He, like his younger brother, stayed in his hometown. The difference was that his younger brother joined a state-owned enterprise with a good salary. After working for three years, he relied on his own savings and the help of his parents to buy a home in the provincial capital. He bought a house, married his colleague, and had a good career and family.

After graduating, Mr. He worked in a studio with a low salary. Although he wanted to buy a house, he couldn't come up with the money himself, and his parents said that they had given the money to his younger brother and were powerless. In desperation, Mr. He had no choice but to continue living at home and marry his college classmate.

02. My daughter was wronged because of my nephew, so I gave myself a slap in the face. As a man, I can’t protect my wife and daughter. How can I be a human being?

After marriage, Mr. He had a daughter, and his younger brother had a son. As a result, Mr. He's parents liked the younger son's family even more, and their dislike of the older son's family of three became more and more obvious.

"At the beginning, I was very grateful to my parents for allowing us as a family of three to live at home without having to endure the pain of displacement. I am an adult and still living at home, which is really embarrassing. However, I found that, In this way, the person who is aggrieved is none other than my wife.”

The reason why my wife was willing to marry Mr. He was for love, so she accepted the request to live with her parents-in-law. However, while Mr. He's parents were picky about their eldest son's family of three, despising them for not living up to their expectations, not making as much money as their younger son, and having no offspring, and having no sons, they also confidently bossed around their eldest daughter-in-law.

"My wife also has to go to work. Just like me, she has to leave at around eight o'clock in the morning and take the subway for half an hour. She gets off work at around seven o'clock in the evening and can't arrive until nearly eight o'clock. As soon as she gets home, my wife has to cook non-stop. During the meal, my parents yelled that they were starving and disliked my wife’s lack of flexibility while sitting motionless on the sofa. Also, except when my brother and sister-in-law went out to socialize, they would always come over during meal time to follow me. My parents also wait for my wife to prepare the meal. Not only that, after eating, they either continue to watch TV, or go for a walk, or go back to their respective homes. The dishes and chopsticks are washed by us as a couple, and the clothes are also washed by us. "Hold on."

During the Chinese New Year, something happened that made Mr. He finally realize how incompetent he was and how much he had wronged his wife and daughter.

"Dad, why does my brother have 15 red tickets and I only have 1?" The red tickets in the daughter's mouth are New Year's money . The nephew got 1,500, of which Mr. He's parents gave 1,000, and Mr. He and his wife received 1,500. 500 was given, and the 100 yuan in the daughter's hand was given by Mr. He's wife. Neither Mr. He's parents nor his younger brother's family gave their daughter a single cent of the new year's money.

Although this was not a big deal, his daughter felt very wronged and kept crying in her mother's arms, which made Mr. He feel very uncomfortable. Seeing his wife who kept comforting his daughter, Mr. He felt more and more incompetent.

"I understand, as early as when I got married, this was no longer my home, but my parents' home. My wife and daughter were actually living under someone else's roof."

03. We moved out and let me My wife cooked for them, which was a nice idea;

So, after the Chinese New Year, Mr. He immediately found a house and moved out with his wife and daughter. Although he had to pay 2,000 yuan in rent every month, he still had to work when he returned home. Housework, but Mr. He’s wife is obviously much happier, and his daughter is very happy to have a bedroom.

When Mr. He's family moved out, Mr. He's parents did not stop him and just watched with cold eyes. However, they still didn't want to cook. They always sent messages to the eldest daughter-in-law, asking her to go to them first after get off work. The family cooked for the old couple and his brother's family, and then went back to cook for his granddaughter, but Mr. He flatly refused.

So, Mr. He’s parents and younger brother’s family of three came uninvited. Mr. He and his wife had just come back from get off work, bought groceries and talked and laughed. They also arrived and ate at Mr. He’s house confidently.

Mr. He wanted to get angry, but didn't know how to do it, so he and his wife prepared the meal and served it to the table full of resentment. Unexpectedly, before they could get angry, the sister-in-law who was waiting for dinner woke them up first.

“When my wife and I cook, of course the first thing we consider is my daughter’s preferences. What we cook is what she likes to eat. My girl is growing, so what if she doesn’t eat more?”

“Every dish is made for your daughter. We love food, what should we do with the five of us?" After hearing his sister-in-law's words, Mr. He was no longer as good-tempered as before and pointed directly at the door: "If you don't want to eat, then get out and come to my house to eat. We don’t contribute money and are picky. What do you think of us as your free nannies?”

Mr. He’s father couldn’t accept it when his eldest son, who had always been weak and honest, said this. At the table, Mr. He did not show any weakness and accused his parents of favoritism, including their parents' double standards in the marriage of their two sons and the insult to the eldest son's family. Mr. He's parents and his younger brother's family were so angry that they rushed out of the door.

Now, neither his parents nor his brother's family come to disturb the couple anymore, and Mr. He's family also lives a peaceful life.

04. As a man, it is your responsibility to ensure that your wife and children are not wronged.

Hugo once wrote this sentence: "The greatest happiness is to be sure that someone loves you, that someone loves you because you are you, or more precisely, that someone still loves you despite who you are."

as Men, it is your responsibility to keep your wife and children from being wronged. Your wife does not despise you and entrusts you with her life. If you treat her well, even if you are not rich in the end, having a happy family is another kind of lucky life.

As a father, you must give your children a sense of security and treat your children well. Don't become an unqualified parent like your parents and let tragedies continue to happen again.

In the second half of a man's life, he is fighting for his wife and children. Having a warm family and having someone by your side who understands both cold and hot is your greatest happiness.

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