When the resource is obviously inclined, when the parents are obviously treating each other differently and favoring each other. Will the relationship between brothers and sisters be good? As a daughter, as she grows older and has diversified her ideas, can she still accept her parents' ideas as always and spend her life with her original family? The answer is actually obvious. Brothers and sisters who grow up in families who prefer boys over girls generally have no good relationships, and this kind of bad will basically become more and more serious as their parents grow older.
It was natural. After the daughter left her original family, she saw that her parents treated her children equally from the normal family around her. She will realize the inappropriateness of her original family, and what follows is the separation of her original family for her own life. Zhou Qian went through this process and finally decided how far away from her original family and how far away she was to be with her original family, and to be responsible for her life.
Zhou Qian was born in a family of ordinary families. She has an older brother. In the eyes of her parents who prefer boys over girls, her birth is an accident. Of course, it can also be said to be the choice after weighing the pros and cons. After all, someone persuaded that even if you have a girl, there would be one more person to take care of the only son in the family. Of course, these things will naturally not be known to Zhou Qian. We all know how much the atmosphere of the original family of and the guidance of parents on a child have on a child. It can be said that it is deeply rooted in .
So during Zhou Qian's growth, facing her parents' favoritism with her brother, even though she was uncomfortable at the time, she still chose to accept her parents' explanation . In this way, Zhou Qian was obviously a sister, but at a young age he took on almost all the housework at home. At the same time, my brother didn't even need to help him up after pouring the soy sauce bottle because it was not his job. Zhou Qian did a lot of things and listened to her parents, but in daily life, the food between her and her brother is still very different.
Parents said that my brother is a boy and is growing up, so he naturally needs to be more nutritious. Zhou Qian accepted it, but forgot that she was growing, so didn’t she need nutrition? In terms of educational resources, her grades are obviously much better than her brother, and her brother is unwilling to continue studying. But she was still forced to stop her studies after graduating from junior high school. My parents said that my brother was in the countryside and had no conditions, so it was difficult to get married. It is said that Zhou Qian only has such an older brother, so she must help.
Zhou Qian accepted it, but didn't think about it. Her brother only has her own sister. Wouldn't he consider his sister's future? In this way, Zhou Qian went out to work, and the money she earned was given to her parents in addition to leaving enough living expenses. Zhou Qian's parents naturally hoped that their daughter would continue to listen to the two of them, but as Zhou Qian's time working outside increased, she also came into contact with more and more people and things. I also gradually realized that my parents’ words and deeds towards me are unreasonable, that is, I prefer boys over girls.
But with this awareness, there is still a difference between really deciding to change. It really made Zhou Qian realize that her parents never considered themselves, but only considered her brother, because of her relationship. Zhou Qian is a girl who lacks love, so in the concept of love, she puts gentleness and consideration first. Her boyfriend Xiao Zheng has an average family background and his personal conditions are also average. But the kindness to Zhou Qian is real, so Zhou Qian fell in love quickly.
However, this relationship was unanimously disagreed by parents. The mother ran over and did countless incompetent things, which made her daughter return to singleness. Zhou Qian also understood that if she was not obedient and gave all the money to her family, her parents would treat herself sincerely. In the hearts of parents, I am a money tree. Therefore, your marriage must naturally meet the needs of the family. Having money is the key, nothing else matters .
and other things, one after another, made Zhou Qian gradually feel disheartened about her parents' home. Naturally, the thing that made her give up completely and decided to change was actually a sentence from her mother. This sentence was like the last straw, completely crushing her feelings for her original family. It was a good thing for brother to have a marriage partner, but it was a bad thing for Zhou Qian. Because Zhou Qian's mother and Zhou Qian said, "Your brother is at his age, it is not easy to find a marriage partner, so we agreed to the conditions proposed by the other party."
Zhou Qian was so amused and crying, but her parents were simply responsible for agreeing, but in the end they asked Zhou Qian to bear it. Zhou Qian gritted her teeth and took out the money she earned from her part-time job. The money was originally intended to be used as a dowry for herself. And he borrowed all his friends, and under the "forced" of his parents, he agreed to sell the foundation distributed to her in the village, which was considered as having barely enough to cover up the expenses of his brother's marriage. During this period, my mother's tone to her on the phone has improved a lot, and she also thought that her brother got married and got married, so she would lose her burden.
But just as she felt relieved, she wanted to go back to her hometown to attend her brother's wedding during the holidays and communicate with her parents. I decided to stay in my hometown after I went to find a more relaxed job, and I no longer work so hard as I am now. As a result, she told her mother that she was going home, but her mother disagreed and said, "Holding 3 is not back. The fare is expensive. Make money for your brother. Anyway, you can't help with your brother's wedding. "
Zhou Qian's mind was blank, like falling into an ice kiln. She finally found her voice back. He said, "Others go home during the holidays, but I don't go home alone and I don't have money, where can I go?" As a result, my mother's response was taken for granted, saying, "You should find a part-time job quickly. The holidays are all and . It's so cost-effective. You have to be obedient. There are more and more places for money at home?" As soon as my mother finished speaking, Zhou Qian subconsciously hung up the phone. How can she not be sad and how can she not be desperate?
I thought I was so obedient and gave so much to my original family, so my parents would be a little sincere to me. I thought that after my brother got married, his "responsibility" would be over, but now it seems that it is not the end, but the beginning of a more cumbersome and greater burden. Zhou Qian was discouraged. After all, her parents had never thought about the future of her daughter and had never considered herself at all. She remembered all the things she had experienced since childhood, the brother took her for granted, and the coldness of her parents.
Zhou Qian decided that she would not go back this holiday and would not attend her brother's wedding after listening to her mother. But it was not to continue making money for my brother, but to change the number, rented house, and job. She decided not to spend money on her brother in the future. As for her parents, she had made so many years of hard work. The grace of raising a child is not much worse even if it has not been paid off. So I won’t continue to pay now, so I’ll see if the situation is going to happen later.
" Knows ", Mama Kong once said: "For families with many children, parents must be at peace to stay at home." She agrees deeply that the quality of the relationship between brothers and sisters in , especially the relationship between brothers and sisters after adulthood, has a lot to do with whether parents can achieve equality. Jia Yi also said: "Whoever comes out loves to return, and blessings come out." People are mutual, and family affection is no exception.
If parents treat their children with exploitation and harm, then what is given back to their parents will basically not be a blessing. Parents’ bias is a kind of harm that will accompany children throughout their lives. As the saying goes, all things are empty, cause and effect are not empty, and parents' bias will not only affect the feelings between brothers and sisters, but also indirectly affect the parents' future retirement problems. Children fight, family restless, elderly people lie in bed, no one to support them, these are the prices of parents' partiality .
Zhou Qian’s current decision in the article actually began to explain her parents’ future pension problems, and there will inevitably be problems. If parents cannot wake up and make changes to make up for the lack of family affection. The problem of miserable years in his later years and his son's unfiliality is very likely to occur to Zhou Qian's parents. What do you think?
--END--
Picture|Network
