Text | Miss Ziwei, distance creates beauty, and time creates love. The secret to a long-lasting marriage is simply to know how to manage it. However, marriage is the "first time" for everyone, especially those who have insufficient conditions and rarely get married. For many peop

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Distance creates beauty, time creates love

The secret to a long-lasting marriage is simply to know how to manage it. However, marriage is the "first time" for everyone, especially those with insufficient conditions. , for people who rarely get married, protecting their marriage has become a top priority.

In fact, it is not difficult to run a marriage. It is to respect and care for the other person. You must not exist. Once you marry the other person, she is your own personal property. You can drive or enslave the other person according to your mood without considering the other person's feelings. Remember, equality of personality in marriage is important.

The husband has frequent sexual intercourse every day, and the wife cannot bear to run away from home.

Event review: Li Xueqing (pseudonym), who lives in Zhejiang, is 36 years old this year. She has been married to her 34-year-old husband Zhu Qiangjian (pseudonym) for 2 years. , the relationship was very stable at first, but as time went by, his wife Li Xueqing couldn't bear it anymore. The reason was that her husband Zhu Qiangjian was really "too clingy" .

In Li Xueqing's view, there must be a certain sense of distance between husband and wife. The so-called distance creates beauty, and the relationship between husband and wife must be smooth and smooth, so that a marriage can last. However, her husband Zhu Qiangjian's view is different from that of his wife. He believes that frequent Sexual intercourse, such a married life, is fun.

Therefore, a week ago, his wife Li Xueqing couldn't stand her husband anymore, so she ran away from home and rented a hotel alone. Later, Li Xueqing felt that continuing was not an option, so she hired a mediator to intervene.

As soon as she met the mediator, Li Xueqing expressed her grievances in one breath. While speaking, she kept crying: "He is not a human at all, he is a beast, he is a beast."

Seeking help Li Xueqing kept scolding her husband. Without explaining the reason, the mediator asked them about their circumstances before marriage and whether they had children. It was understood that Li Xueqing was in her second marriage and could not have children, while Zhu Qiangjian was in his first marriage. They are 2 years apart in age, married for 2 years, and have no children;

It stands to reason that men have the idea of ​​​​carrying on the family line. However, his wife Li Xueqing is infertile, and Zhu Qiangjian still refuses to divorce. He even ran away from home for a week and was still looking for her. , it can be seen that Zhu Qiangjian deeply loves his wife Li Xueqing.

Sure enough, after his wife cried, her husband Zhu Qiangjian sincerely apologized on the spot. As long as his wife could forgive her, Zhu Qiangjian agreed to do whatever needed to be done, even kneel down and kowtow.

However, no matter how the husband apologizes and begs his wife to forgive, his wife Li Xueqing always accuses her husband "He is a beast!"

So, what is the reason for the situation between the couple, one is deeply in love and the other is disgusted?

Regarding this question, her husband Zhu Qiangjian said that the reason for the couple's quarrel was mainly about money, which caused their unhappy mood;

However, his wife Li Xueqing, who was sitting on the bed, denied it with tears in her eyes, accusing her husband of not telling the truth. Then, the wife Li Xueqing told the real reason:

"Because he doesn't let me sleep every night. He asks me to sleep with him every night. I really can't stand it. I can't walk. He doesn't care about my life or death." , He still wanted me. I took me to the hospital for a checkup, and he wanted me again that night. "

After hearing what Li Xueqing said, the mediator looked surprised on the spot, and when he was about to reprimand Zhu Jianqiang, Zhu Jianqiang retorted. , saying that while his wife Li Xueqing was ill, they did not have conjugal life that night.

When Li Xueqing saw that her husband refused to admit it, she immediately yelled: "Didn't it happen that day? Really not? You got off me. I kept crying and shed tears. You said I'm sorry,"

As a result, this remark As soon as he finished speaking, the husband still refused to admit it and swore a poisonous oath on the spot. His wife Li Xueqing was not to be outdone and also swore a poisonous oath on the spot.

The wife accused her husband of being rough during sex and asked him to castrate herself into a "eunuch"

Afterwards, the two parties argued about the frequency of sexual intercourse between the couple; verbally, wife Li Xueqing always accused her husband of wanting it "every day";

The husband Zhu Qiangjian denied it, claiming that it was not every day at all, but at most twice a week. In response to her husband's rebuttal, the wife said firmly: "If you have it twice a week, I will be satisfied."

This At this moment, the mediator finally understood that the root cause of the couple's conflict was that the husband had sex too frequently, did not care about his wife's feelings, and lacked consideration for her.

Seeing this, the mediator persuaded Zhu Qiangjian, hoping that he would pay more attention to his wife when it comes to managing the marriage, and try to exercise restraint when it comes to sexual matters;

In response, her husband Zhu Qiangjian said that he had promised to make corrections, and he would not do it in a week. After exceeding a certain number of times,

never thought that as soon as her husband Zhu Qiangjian said that he would restrain himself and change his bad habits in the past, his wife immediately said: "I would rather believe that the dogs in the world won't eat shit than you will." Change."

Husband Zhu Qiangjian heard that his wife didn't believe him, and he sincerely asked his wife again how to make her believe him.

After seeing Zhu Qiangjian’s determination to get rid of the bad habit of frequent sexual intercourse, the mediator also did the work and said to her husband Zhu Qiangjian: “As for couples, in fact, as a man, it is normal to have needs at this age. , but if you insist on it when the woman doesn’t need it, it will hurt the woman’s mood. Secondly, it violates the woman’s will and violates the law.”

After the mediator criticized her husband Zhu Qiangjian, the wife was still unwilling to forgive. Husband, for a while, the mediation reached a deadlock.

After a while, Zhu Qiangjian’s friend suggested that the two of them calm down for a while and not disturb each other. However, his wife Li Xueqing was still not happy. firmly stated that she wanted a divorce and could no longer stand her husband. If they did not divorce, she would return to her hometown to live. , each doing his own thing.

Judging from the wife's determination to divorce, what her former husband Zhu Qiangjian did has indeed broken Li Xueqing's heart. So, does the mediator still have a chance to resolve the marital conflict?

At this moment, Li Xueqing made a request to live a lifetime with her husband Zhu Qiangjian, and this request shocked everyone present. Li Xueqing's request was to let Zhu Qiangjian castrate himself and become a "eunuch" .

As soon as these words were spoken, Zhu Qiangjian’s friends immediately came out to smooth things over, claiming that the two parties would be separated for a period of time, and that in the later period, under the control of the couple’s life, they would be allowed to live twice a month.

However, his wife Li Xueqing said with tears : "I don't want to do it even once now, you know? Not only does he want me, but he also touches me with his hands, do you know? Do you know how far it goes?"

Wife Li Xueqing repeatedly accused her husband of his rough behavior towards her, and said that this marriage had left a shadow on her and that she would never let any man touch her in this life. In the end, the mediator hoped that Li Xueqing would test her husband for another year. If it is true, If you can't make it, respect her decision to divorce.

Author's emotional summary

Good love and marriage are based on mutual respect and care; on the other hand, Zhu Qiangjian ignores the feelings of his wife Li Xueqing and frequently forces her husband and wife to live together. This behavior is completely wrong.

It is true that married life can increase the relationship between husband and wife, but it must be mutually willing and not unilateral; to run a marriage, first of all, both parties must be in a happy mood, and there must be no fear or disgust for the marriage. The lover loves you, or is considerate in every possible way. .

Marriage is not about living together, but about having such a person who loves you, loves you, becomes your safe haven, and protects you from wind and rain. If not, this kind of love is just to make a living and use your body to exchange it. Ruin yourself.