Today, when feminism is gradually strengthening, more and more women realize that they should not rely entirely on men, whether before or after marriage. Not only due to the pressure of contemporary life, but also realizing that in the relationship between two people, economic st

Today, as feminism is gradually strengthening, more and more women realize that they should not completely rely on men, whether before or after marriage. Not only due to the pressure of contemporary life, but also realizing that in the relationship between two people, economic strength often determines the right to speak.

Stephen Chow 's classic line in "The King of Comedy ": "I will support you." Many women hear this as a very touching love quote.

But the reality is that no matter how much a man loves you, if you no longer have financial strength, your right to speak will become less in his eyes and in your own eyes. It can be said that if you don't have any say at home, it will be a very distressing thing.

However, there is still a big difference between real life and ideals. Many women continue to work and take on family responsibilities after marriage. However, after giving birth to a child, you have to face the problem of taking care of the child. Many times, couples make a trade-off and let the woman stay at home and be a full-time housewife.

However, surveys show that the family happiness index of stay-at-home wives is much lower than that of women who work normally. There are even many families that are ultimately ruined because the wife works full time.

Liu Shuwen is an only child and has been taught since she was a child that girls should be independent on their own and not rely on anyone else's ideas. So she has always maintained this concept, whether it is work or love.

However, some things are not something you can insist on if you want to. After Liu Shuwen graduated from university, she was introduced to a company by her father’s friend, where she met her husband Fang Han, and the two also experienced 2 After years of dating, they got married.

At first, Liu Shuwen's parents were not very in favor of the union of the two, because Fang Han had two sisters and a brother in the family, and her parents were not in very good health. But later I found out that this young man was really outstanding and motivated. He was very diligent at home and often helped with housework. In addition, my daughter liked it, so I agreed to the marriage.

When they first got married, the two were still in love and were very sweet. However, during the first year of the New Year, some minor conflicts arose. Because during the Chinese New Year, her husband gave 3,000 yuan to his parents, but only 2,000 yuan to her parents.

In response to this, the husband’s explanation was: “My parents have suffered a lot in raising us since we were young, and the conditions at home are not good, and they are still selling vegetables. But your parents are going to retire and get their retirement salary, so what are you going to do? Why do we have so much money? Our money is not brought by the strong wind. We will have children and raise children in the future, and there will be many places where we need to spend money."

After hearing her husband's explanation, she still felt dissatisfied. In the end, nothing was said.

Later, she became pregnant, and Fang Han said to her: "Why don't you become a full-time wife, and I will support you!" She thought that her family would not be under much pressure to get a loan anyway, and because it was inconvenient to be pregnant, she was moved by her husband. Then he agreed.

The money was enough at the beginning, but later on the money became less and less. He said in a beautiful way, I often have entertainment and so on, so more money can help me deal with things. Liu Shuwen didn't say anything, just put the money given by her parents.

After half a year like this, Liu Shuwen spent all the money she took from her parents. In desperation, she could only ask her husband for money. However, her husband would never give too much, which gave her the illusion that her husband was two people in normal times and when he was giving money.

Since she doesn’t have much money, she also feels uncomfortable every time she asks for money. She just saves money when she can buy food and clothes. This made her very angry, and every time they discussed things, her husband's attitude became like that of the head of the family, condescending.

Once, her husband’s sister came to the city to see a doctor, so she lived with her parents at her house. Although she was not happy during the pregnancy, she had to accept it.Only once she discovered that her husband had given her parents a large amount of money behind her back. Not only that, he also gave his sister five thousand.

saw this situation and asked her husband in the evening: "Why do you give so much money to your parents and also give money to your sister? She has no family and no income, so why does she need you to give money? Why don't you have so much money? Give me more, do you want me to come back to you when I have no money?"

Fang Han said, "I earn all the money at home, and I can give it to anyone." She immediately asked after hearing this. You said you wanted me to work full-time and support me! But now you treat your sister better than me. "

" I don't want to tell you that it's not easy for me to go out and make money. It's enough if you don't. Your mother." After saying this, Fang Han fell asleep.

Not long after, Liu Shuwen could no longer stand her husband's behavior and decisively filed for divorce. However, Fang Han always disagreed, and Liu Shuwen had no choice but to silently endure living in her parents' home.

After the child was born and the situation was basically stable, Liu Shuwen decisively filed for divorce. This time, even Fang Han was helpless. Looking at his children and the decisive Liu Shuwen, Fang Han shed tears of regret!

In fact, in marriage, both men and women must be considerate of their significant other. You must understand the truth that there is always a different division of labor in family work. Those who choose to sacrifice themselves love you. You cannot deny the other party's efforts just because of your own selfish desires. Such an approach will only lead to lifelong regret.