What is the most important thing between husband and wife? Is it love, understanding, consideration, or empathy?
In fact, the most important thing between husband and wife is that after marriage, you can treat my parents as my parents, and I can treat your parents as my parents, treating each other equally and impartially. As long as one party has even the slightest selfishness, the marriage will not be able to survive.
Husband and wife should have been the two closest people in the world, but because they each had their own selfish intentions and could not empathize with each other, you were wary of me and I plotted against you, so in the end they had no choice but to divorce.
01, Phoenix Man has no house, no car, no gift
Lin Qi and her husband got married in a free love relationship. They thought it was true love, but it wasn’t until her husband refused her parents to move into his home that Lin Qi understood that some men are ungrateful to their core.
My husband’s family background is average, my husband’s family’s conditions are very poor, and he also has a younger brother who is studying. Therefore, when Lin Qi and her husband were in love, her husband began to use his salary to support his parents and younger brother. Even after getting married, her husband did not stop providing poverty alleviation to her husband's family.
Due to the large difference in family background, when the two parties were discussing marriage, any request made by their parents could not be fulfilled by the husband's family. Lin Qi didn't want to embarrass her husband, so she had to persuade her parents to give up the bride price and also asked them to pay for a dowry house.
In this way, with the help of Lin Qi, the Phoenix male husband, who had no house, no car, and no betrothal gift, married his only daughter Lin Qi as he wished. After the marriage, the parents subsidized the family from time to time, and the young couple lived an even more enjoyable life.
02, "I am not a son-in-law who comes to the house, and I have no obligation to support my parents-in-law."
Later, after Lin Qi became pregnant and resigned at home to raise the baby, her parents took the initiative to take over the mortgage, and Lin Qi and her husband no longer had any worries.
I originally thought that if my parents worked hard to support them, my parents would be able to sleep peacefully in their later years. But who knew that with her father's wrestling , Lin Qi would also completely see the indifference and selfishness of people's hearts.
When she saw her father wrestling and her mother getting old, it was difficult for one person to take care of her, Lin Qi proposed to take her parents home to take care of her. As a result, as soon as she said it, she was opposed by her husband: "I am not a son-in-law, and I have no obligation to support my parents-in-law."
Lin Qi thought her husband was joking. After all, she was an only child, and her husband enjoyed the benefits brought by her parents, so it was natural for her to do so. The corresponding obligations and responsibilities must be fulfilled, otherwise her parents would not have to spend money and effort to support them, which would be a thankless task.
But my husband refused to allow his parents to live in the house. He also said that his parents-in-law had retirement wages and were really too busy. He could spend money to hire a caregiver or nanny to take care of him. There was no need to bring his parents-in-law home.
03. The Phoenix man refused to move in with his parents-in-law, and his wife took over the house and evicted them.
After saying that, the husband seemed to be unsatisfied. He even confessed to Lin Qi: My parents are getting older. It has not been easy for them to raise me for more than 20 years. Now it is very difficult for me. After getting through this, it’s time for me to take my parents over to live in peace and happiness. If your parents move in, what will happen to my parents? Who will take care of them?
Lin Qi did not expect that her husband refused to accept her parents because he wanted to take in his own parents for retirement. But the dowry house was bought by her parents and was her pre-marital property. Her parents were the most qualified to live in it.
As for her parents-in-law, who had no money to pay, Lin Qi could tolerate her husband's monthly contribution of 2,000 for living expenses, but she could not fulfill her filial piety under her nose. It's not that she is selfish, but whose parents feel sorry for whom.
Her husband's rejection made Lin Qi frustrated. She thought she had made a big mistake all these years. At first, she was interested in her husband's filial piety, but now she wants a divorce because of her husband's foolish filial piety.
Although she really didn't want to get divorced, her husband's selfishness still made her determined to take back her house, drive her husband away, and let him reunite with his parents and family.
Today’s topic:
Do you support Lin Qi’s divorce?
Pinxia explanation: Analyze marriage emotions and teach you to understand human nature!
