There is a saying that goes well: "In love, there is no perfect partner, there are only perfect lovers in each other's eyes." However, the world is too big and no one wants to make do with it.

There is a saying that says it well:

"In love, there is no perfect partner, only perfect lovers in each other's eyes."

However, the world is too big and no one wants to make do with it.

So, some men and women can’t have a piece of each other, but neither of them gives in, so it’s not suitable, so forget it; if they can’t have a piece of cake, then maybe it would be better to be friends; if they don’t have feelings for each other anymore, then, just forget it. End it, after all, you can't be sorry to yourself...

However, when a person gives up so easily, it is estimated that even if he lives to old age, it will be difficult to carry the relationship with him until he is old. His current partner will always become his predecessor. .

Therefore, true love requires cultivating the ability of two people to fall in love with each other again and again.

Especially when people reach middle age, there has been a long-term relationship between husband and wife. The romance has long been gone, and the days will become duller. If they still dislike each other, after conflicts, no one will Not wanting to give in, even blaming each other, always poking at each other's weaknesses...

Then, it is estimated that even if they have been together for many years, either the idea of ​​"divorce" will arise spontaneously, or one party will set his sights on it. To someone outside of marriage.

Therefore, when you observe carefully, you will find that those middle-aged men and women who can keep their love going all the way will stick to these four trump cards, find the most suitable way to get along with each other, and carry out this intimate relationship. in the end.

When getting along, give each other "respect and recognition"

Many couples cannot reach the final source. In fact, most of them come from the fact that the more they go by, the less they can identify with each other.

In movies and TV dramas, we always hear such arguments. Women say: I don’t know why I chose you in the first place. I’m so blind.

We also always hear men complaining about women: They can’t even wash their clothes. It’s really embarrassing. Do you know why I married you?

Yes, it is obvious that both of them are contributing to this family, but neither of them gets respect and recognition from each other. It seems that after being together for a long time, it is natural to ask for things from the other party, but everything the other party has done for the family has been ignored.

But think about it, when you first got together, if a woman cooked a bowl of clear soup noodles for a man, the man would be happy for a long time and eat all the noodles; if a man gave a woman a rose, the woman would immediately find a vase. , plug it in carefully and be sure to leave it open for a few more days.

Why will it change now?

has a good saying: In this world, there are no quiet years, but there are people who take the blame for you and move forward.

Those middle-aged men and women who can carry their love to the end all have this kind of relationship: the woman will recognize the hard work of the man to make money outside the home, the man will understand the difficulty of the woman raising children at home, and the two of them will work together to run a good home.

Therefore, don’t always focus on your lover’s shortcomings. Think more about how “good” he is to you. Don’t always think about transforming the other person, and think more about the companionship he has given you.

You must know that the direction of an intimate relationship comes from the degree of respect and depth of recognition between the two of you.

When arguing, give each other "understanding and tolerance"

In fact, it is a terrible thing to argue with each other.

It will make many peaceful things be broken in an instant, it will make the originally gentle people become extremely fierce, and it will make the originally strong feelings become crispy and break at the slightest touch.

Although it is normal for couples to quarrel, after people reach middle age, trivial life and various work problems will inevitably come from time to time. Therefore, a home must not become a battlefield, but should be a harbor. A place where two people can recuperate and recuperate under the protection of each other in this small harbor, while the violent storms can be blocked outside.

Those couples who are good at managing marriages will know how to be submissive and tolerant, and they will give their lovers the greatest tolerance and understanding.

You must know that if two people cannot resonate mentally, there will be many differences.

In our free time, we can also have arguments when we watch a TV series together. Men insist on one opinion, while women insist on one opinion. Going on a trip is obviously a happy thing, but men want to see scenic spots and historical sites, while women want to integrate into nature. In the end, let It is up to the children to decide where to go...

Only when each other can bow their heads to each other can we see what happiness looks like and make a home full of happiness.

There is a saying "do it and cherish it". Although the origin is absurd, it is not the best attitude for middle-aged couples to treat their relationships.

Marriage is not easy, only by taking a step back can we meet the beauty.

Give each other "support and dependence" in the wind and rain

Yingtai once wrote in dear Andre :

"The partner you need is preferably the one who can stand side by side with you on the bow of the boat, pouring a shallow drink. She sings about the beauty of both sides of the Taiwan Strait and can hold your hand tightly in the stormy waves. In other words, it is best that she is not the stormy sea you have to deal with."

Yes, good love is holding someone's hand for a lifetime.

Only when husband and wife support each other, stand side by side, and become each other's support, can they turn the hardships into joys and get through those difficult years together, no matter what storms they encounter or how many difficulties they experience.

As the saying goes, "The years are quiet and good, and I am with you. When the prosperity is gone, I grow old with you."

There will definitely be bumps and bumps in life, and it is impossible to have a smooth life. Those middle-aged men and women who can carry out an intimate relationship to the end will never say goodbye casually, let alone share the sweetness but not the same. In times of adversity, they know deeply: In this world, only the person next to your pillow will be your support until you grow old; only your family can be with you through thick and thin and tolerate you infinitely.

When you return home at night, a bowl of clear soup that has been simmered for a long time is a sign of care; when you wake up in the morning, the fragrance of porridge wafting from the kitchen is a sign of dependence; when you are tired, having a hug when you go home is satisfying; when you are sad, When someone gives you gentle words of comfort, it means peace of mind...

The dependence on each other in ordinary days is the spiritual connection when the storm comes, and it is also the confidence to walk through life together.

When you are bored, give each other "romance and love"

In life, there are always people who think that romance means flowers, candles, red wine, singing and dancing on the seaside... In short, it is all kinds of romance and poetry.

However, true romance is actually the love given to each other when life is boring and boring.

It’s like giving each other a kiss in the morning before going to work; in the evening after get off work, we go to the street to eat skewers sweetly; in our free time, we lie on the sofa together, he plays games and you read a book; on weekends, we get together Take your children to the amusement park...

Romance for middle-aged people, to put it bluntly, is to add some fun to boring life.

Zhang Ailing once wrote in "Love in a Fallen City":

In this turbulent world, money, real estate, and everything that lasts forever are all unreliable. The only things that are reliable are the tone in her mouth and the person sleeping with her. This person next to me.

Therefore, being able to accompany each other and spend every boring moment is romance.

Romance is not a fantasy, but a down-to-earth practice of love, and practice is to see the charm of true love in ordinary places in every moment of life.

A blessing on a birthday, a "Thank you" when your lover is working overtime, a glass of red wine to brighten the atmosphere at dinner, a smile when friends are being teased at a party, going to a movie together hand in hand, going with your children Participate in parent-child activities...everything is romantic.

Romance is the carrier of love between two people, and because of this person, there are a lot more colors and a lot more joy around you.

Life is long, but in fact, what middle-aged couples want is no longer rich and wealthy, but a peaceful, happy and healthy family.

Therefore, the love of middle-aged people means that even if there is no candlelight dinner, it is good that the family is sitting together and the lights are friendly.

People are alive, holding hands and growing old together with their children is not a fantasy slogan.

Rather, in real life, you and this person can rely on each other, take care of each other, understand each other, tolerate each other, be grateful for your company, and never leave each other throughout your life.

Only by adhering to these four trump cards can happiness bloom like a flower and the moon bloom, carry the intimate relationship between two people to the end, and let love flow like a trickle and flow into the heart.

author, calm fox

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I hope you can find the deep affection in the ordinary years in my words! Thanks for attention!