There was a mother who took her twin sons to the zoo to see tigers. She was very happy at first, but she didn’t know what was wrong with the tiger and suddenly rushed towards the glass. The children were so scared that they hid behind their mother. The crotch is already a little wet. What about the other child? But he didn't move at all, and asked his mother if he could throw stones inside to teach the tiger a lesson.
Two children with the same genes have completely different reactions to fear? In fact, the answer lies in the fact that the brain's programming of fear is different. In fact, many of the acquired manifestations of each of us, such as confidence or inferiority, positivity or negativity, bravery or cowardice, are all programs that you continuously program your brain based on external stimulation and feedback.
So many people are concerned about low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence. To put it bluntly, it is a hole dug by oneself. Of course, sometimes this is a good thing. If you think about ancient times, you would be brave and confident and just feed the tigers. There was no glass at that time. But now many people find that being more confident and brave is more likable and can lead to more opportunities.
How to change low self-esteem? The first one is to clean up after yourself. There are too many things in our lives that make us feel inferior, such as things that are easier for you to correct, such as teeth that are too yellow, clothes that are too ugly, buttocks that are too big and fat, looks different, etc. Don’t underestimate these things. Your influence, no matter what caused your low self-esteem at this moment, may be your unfortunate childhood, ridicule from some people, embarrassing experiences, etc., but many people attribute themselves to certain experiences in childhood. I feel low self-esteem, and then I start to break things. I don’t care about these things. After that, I become more and more low-self-esteem, forming a vicious cycle. So if you don’t want to have low self-esteem, you have to break this cycle, list all the things that cause you to have low self-esteem, and then make the same changes. If you are ugly, go for plastic surgery, if you are uneducated, go to school, if you are not tall, go to the gym, if you have no money, go to the gym. Just risk your life to make money. In fact, sometimes change is that simple. It just requires you to take the first step after awakening.
The second is to spend more time with friends who can make us feel good. Each of us probably has four or three types of friends around us. One type is ferromagnetic, the kind who sincerely wish us good things, and the other type is harmful friends, the kind who are sarcastic and scolding you all day long. There is also a type of mutual support in business. This does not mean that we should abandon that kind of friends. Everyone is important, but considering that we are a type of people with low self-esteem, we especially need to be with friends who make us feel good. Being with such supportive friends actually starts a positive cycle. For example, if your friends praise you for being knowledgeable, you will study harder to make yourself worthy of this title, and then you will be praised by more people. This is a cycle. When you wake up, you will feel confident before you know it, and the program in your mind will be rewritten.
The third is to rely on meditation to reprogram your brain. This is the most important step because it can be used to quiet the negative voices in your head. If you magnify your own advantages in your mind, some people may say that this is not Ah Q. But the problem is that 99% of people with low self-esteem have such a common problem, that is, they like to take other people's praise of themselves seriously. They are used to taking every success they achieve for granted, but they take every time others praise them. I take my own ridicule, criticism, and sarcasm to heart, and the disordered programming in my brain is like this over and over again, torturing myself.
So if you have low self-esteem, you might as well set aside a few minutes every day to magnify your achievements in your mind, and at the same time delete those unpalatable negative comments. Therefore, in the future, if someone appreciates our words, we hope to look into his eyes and sincerely say thank you. If someone mocks and ridicules us, we can also look into his eyes and despise him.
Of course, it is impossible to become confident in a short period of time. The vicious cycle has been circulating in your mind for 20 or 30 years. I hope my friends will take the first step towards self-confidence.
