We may always feel that life is very difficult, and it seems that there are thorns everywhere, making the way forward even more difficult. What we feel every day is heavy work, crying children, and elderly parents. Even if we feel tremendous pressure, we still use a forced smile to cover up our helplessness, and pretend to be strong to escape our vulnerability, but we are the only one We know that our hearts are already full of burdens and exhausted. Many people have actually suffered from depression and anxiety, but they are still suffering from it.
We always ask ourselves in the dead of night, whether this state of anxiety and depression can be changed? When can we regain the inner peace we once had?
With this question, let's look at a short story:
A believer accidentally fell into a fast-flowing river. But he was not in a hurry because he believed that Buddha would definitely save him. At this time, someone happened to be passing by the shore, but the believer thought: I am so pious, Buddha will definitely save me. So he didn't cry out for help. After a while, the river washed him to the center of the river, and he found a driftwood in front of him, but he still firmly held the thought: Buddha will definitely save me, and I don't need to worry at all. So he continued to flutter in the water, floating and sinking for a while, and finally he was drowned. After the believer died, his soul asked the Buddha angrily: "I am such a devout Buddhist believer, why didn't you save me?" The Buddha asked strangely: "I gave you two chances, why didn't you? Seize it? "
Many times we are like the believers in the story. We are always entangled in some obsessions, and the more direct and effective methods are around us, but we turn a blind eye.
When you are falling into depression and anxiety, maybe these two "cognitions" can help you:
1. Tell yourself: Only you can truly help yourself.
Maybe we are used to complaining about everything around us, making things difficult for our bosses, unfriendly colleagues, inconsiderate lovers, and naughty children. These are enough to trouble us. Therefore, we expect people around us to have an empathetic character. , the commute to and from get off work can be smooth, and the weather is always sunny and sunny.
Have you noticed? In this way, we place our emotions on external things, and these external things are so uncontrollable. Therefore, we can easily fall into disappointment with them and cannot calm down for a long time.
read this passage in the book "Emotional Self-Help": "A victory, an increase in salary, recovery from an illness, the reunion of a long-lost friend, or other pure things make you happy and make you feel that there are countless things before you. Good days, then please don't believe it, it can never be like this. Because no one can make you enjoy peace except yourself. "
(It is highly recommended to read this book, the ideas in the book and " Breathing Method". " is of great help to friends who suffer from depression, anxiety, and insomnia.)
Therefore, instead of placing your hopes on uncontrollable things, it is better to let go of these obsessions, keep yourself calm, and face this situation more calmly. world.
2. Ask yourself: What makes you feel tired?
Psychologists have found through research that most fatigue is caused by mental and emotional factors rather than physical causes. In fact, the proportion of fatigue caused solely by physical factors is very small.
Here, I would like to share an interesting story with you:
Zen Master Shiwu went out and met a stranger. During the conversation, they realized that it was getting late, so the two of them stayed in a hotel. In the middle of the night, Zen Master Shiwu heard a sound in the room and asked, "Is it dawn yet?" The other person replied, "Not yet, it's still late at night." Zen Master Shiwu thought to himself that this person must be a Taoist to get up in the dark and explore in the middle of the night. The very tall man asked again: "Who are you?" However, the man replied: "I am a thief.Zen Master Shiwu said: "Oh, it turns out to be a thief. How many times have you stolen before and after?" The thief replied: "I can't count them." Zen Master Shiwu asked: "Every time you steal, how long can you be happy?" The thief replied: "Then it depends on how much the stolen thing is worth?" Zen Master Shiwu asked: "How long can the happiest time last?" The thief replied: "It's only a few days, but I'm still unhappy after that." "
Zen Master Shiwu asked again: "Then why don't you steal it once? The thief asked: "Do you have any experience?" How many times have you stolen? Zen Master Shiwu replied: "Only once." The thief wondered: "Only once?" Can this be used? Zen Master Shiwu replied: "Although it is only once, it can be used in a lifetime." The thief asked anxiously: "Where was this thing stolen?" Can you tell me? "Zen Master Shiwu pointed to his head and said: "This is endless protection. If you can obtain wisdom and truth, you will be able to use it throughout your life. Do you understand? "The thief had an epiphany, and then took refuge in Zen Master Shiwu and became a Zen monk.
The book "You Are Your Own Psychologist" says that we inevitably live in various negative emotions, such as: worry, irritability, regret , anger, hatred, loss, hesitation, etc. When there are too many negative emotions, we will feel mentally exhausted. We can think about what things can easily trigger these negative emotions in us? That treasure - our wisdom, let's find out, are the things that make us tired actually what we are pursuing in our hearts? Are they the things that we try our best to achieve, and can our happiness only last a few days? , a few hours, or even just a few minutes?
When we have the answer in our hearts, I think we can face the difficulties in life more objectively and move forward more calmly towards the life we āāexpect.
Back to us. The original question: When will the current state of anxiety and depression change? Maybe we are on the road to change now?
Are you right?
