Marriage is not the result of an impulsive slap on the forehead, nor is it the result of parents' endless urging, but should be the solemn commitment of two people who are in harmony with each other and decide to stay together for a lifetime. The confidence and courage to prepare for marriage mainly come from the temperament and compatibility between lovers who have been together for a long time. However, many couples now break up, but they focus on the pre-marriage preparation stage. Many men and women have weathered the storms hand in hand, but they "died" in discussing marriage. Why is this?
Why couples tend to quarrel before marriage
Wedding photos, honeymoons, gold jewelry, weddings, wedding dresses, etc. involved in marriage will test two people's understanding of things.
Some people care about the sense of ceremony, while others are fine with anything; some like comparisons, while others value reality more; some value parents' opinions more, while some like to make their own decisions...
Marriage - reflects the fact that two people can both think independently and be able to The ability to consider each other’s ideas. This matter is really not easy, and if you are not careful, it can rise to the topic of "to love or not to love".
How to deal with premarital anxiety
It is defined as worries and worries about the relationship formed by oneself and his spouse, fear and worry about the pressure on marriage and family, including all aspects that exist subconsciously and exist objectively in reality.
For example: worries about getting along with the family, worries about the couple's life in marriage, worries about giving birth to the next generation, etc. Panic is generally caused by social factors and personal or family factors. Not knowing how to face marriage is a symptom of lack of life experience or lack of preparation for starting married life.
Marriage is a big event for traditional Chinese families, but pre-marital anxiety has a huge impact on the psychology of many young people. Premarital anxiety disorder: Defined as worries and concerns about the relationship formed by oneself and one's spouse, fear and worry about pressure on marriage and family, including subconscious and objective aspects of reality, etc.
1. If you can't seem to take any time off, and you feel uncomfortable when you do, then do something more mechanical, effortless and without thinking, such as putting the prepared invitations into envelopes and washing them. bowl, clear the table, organize your collection, reminisce about old times, etc. Of course, it is best to be completely idle and do nothing, just be in a daze and daydream.
2. Use a little wedding budget to do something extra, buy some aromatherapy oil and an exquisite aromatherapy stove, it is elegant! Watch the smell of lavender or rosemary follow the light smoke in the light candlelight. Disperse in the air, take a deep breath, let your body and mind dissolve in the air and relax completely.
3. Sit down cross-legged on the floor of a warm room, with your palms up on your knees. Imagine a thread-like thought extending from your spinal cord, rising from the top of your head, and then slowly raising your head. Drive the upper part of your body upward toward the ceiling, close your eyes, and breathe quietly.
4. Light your favorite scented candle in the bathroom, fill the bathtub with hot water, put on some Enya (Enya) music, take a good bath in the bathtub, and put Your tired nerves are soaked.
5. Do some leisurely things with your fiancé(e) that have nothing to do with wedding preparations. Play the DVDs you want to watch most at home. Watch the ones you like first, then the ones he likes. While watching, help each other rub their feet. Rubbing shoulders, chatting, talking, and loving each other, the affection is boundless.
6. Medication adjustment is an indispensable and important method for alleviating and treating premarital anxiety. Currently, there are a wide variety of anti-anxiety drugs on the market. However, years of clinical practice has proven that pure Chinese medicine preparation can calm anxiety and relieve stress. The tranquilizer should be the most effective and the shortest medication time among anti-anxiety drugs.
7. Exercise is also a good way to relieve anxiety. Choose a sport you like and start sweating. If you are sports-illiterate, then choose a sport that you don’t hate less. Running is the best, simplest and most convenient exercise. If you find it monotonous, just listen to music while running. In addition to relaxing your mind, exercise can also help you lose weight, killing two birds with one stone, right?
Performance of premarital phobia
Premarital phobia is a special manifestation of phobia. On the one hand, it is related to the patient's mental and psychological factors, and on the other hand, it is also related to the patient's personality characteristics, such as introversion, sensitivity, and lack of self-confidence. Or they feel fearful and frightened about the changes in their roles after marriage, or the family responsibilities or social responsibilities they have to bear, making the patient uneasy and anxious. Some may have symptoms of autonomic nerve dysfunction, such as sweating, heart palpitations or body trembling. In severe cases, patients may regret their marriage in order to escape.
The above are the reasons why men and women quarrel and break up before marriage and their solutions. In fact, many feelings can last until death through ups and downs, but they are often exhausted by the firewood, rice, oil and salt that last forever. If pre-marital issues can be properly resolved, you will be more confident in staying together for a lifetime; if pre-marital issues and opinions remain unresolved, you may not be destined for each other in this life.
