Friends who have just embarked on the path of psychological counselors always hope that they can shine.
But in fact, the professional foundation of psychological counseling cannot be achieved overnight in a short period of time.
The term "accumulation of sand into a tower" also applies to a novice consultant.
Only through years of hard study and training, and by solidifying the basic skills of counseling, can we lay a solid foundation for long-term psychological counseling.
In order to help everyone practice the basic skills of professional counseling, on June 25, led by Mr. Chen Hongju, the head of Naben’s Psychological Technology Department and consultant, a special training on “Basic Skills of Psychological Counseling—How to Establish Good Counseling with Clients” was held. "Visit Relations" theme salon.
In this salon event, Teacher Chen led more than ten students to explain and practice many basic skills such as psychological counseling listening, empathy, and how to build a good counseling relationship.
After the session, the students agreed that they had gained a lot from this salon and hoped that Naben Psychology would conduct more similar professional training and growth salons.
Good consultation depends on the establishment of a good consultation relationship
Most of the students who participated in this salon have the intention to engage in the psychological counseling industry.
Their original intention of coming here is that some are middle-aged and want to successfully transform their careers, some want to solve problems in the parent-child relationship through learning, and some are to understand themselves better, understand human nature better, and achieve spiritual growth...
In general, Teacher Chen has prepared a full class of professional basic skills training and growth tips for everyone.
At the beginning of the activity, Teacher Chen said: "I have done more than 4,000 hours of case consultation in total, and many people asked me why the dropout rate is so low. In fact, a very important reason is that I have established a good consultation relationship with the visitors. .”
The process of psychological counseling: establishing relationships-determining goals-formulating plans-implementing consultation-evaluating effects.
Judging from this consultation process, the first step is to establish a relationship. When there is a good consultation relationship, the client is willing to open his or her heart. Only then can the consultant better understand what happened to the client and accompany the client on their journey together. Working towards a common goal makes it easier to achieve the consultation results that clients want.
Therefore, the most important thing in psychological counseling may not be the specific treatment techniques you use, but whether you can establish a good counseling relationship with mutual trust and cooperation with the client.
Listening and empathy are the most important techniques in psychological counseling
Whether the counselor can work well with the client is very important, that is, whether the counselor can listen to the client attentively.
What does it mainly listen to?
Teacher Chen said: "Listening is to obtain the visitor's information, such as the personal background information told by the visitor, the current psychological dilemma, emotional state, and the needs and expectations behind it, etc."
On the basis of this listening , the consultant can make a correct assessment and judgment of the visitor's problem and find a solution to the problem.
Another point is that the use of empathy is also very important.
Whether the counselor can put himself in the client's shoes and understand the client's mood and give the client the empathy he wants is directly related to whether he can gain the client's trust.
Subsequently, under the leadership of the teacher, the students conducted group exercises on these two important technologies.
Each group of students takes turns playing the roles of counselor and client, and practices by imitating actual consulting work.
Through this practical exercise, the students gave each other feedback on their feelings.
One student said: "I feel that I am very nervous when I am a counselor, which makes the client opposite me also very nervous. Therefore, the counselor should relax himself so that the other party can relax."
Another student said: "It seemed that the client opposite me was not looking at me, so I was wondering if there was something I didn't do well that allowed the other person to defend me?"
Of course, some students said: As soon as they saw the consultant opposite, they felt that the consultant was very friendly. , worthy of my trust.
In this way, students who take on the role of counselors can combine their own feelings with the feedback from the visitors to know whether they are listening and empathizing well during the consultation.
This process may also make novice consultants doubt themselves when they see their own problems.
But Teacher Chen said:
"Consultants should not be afraid of making mistakes, because mistakes will naturally occur in professional growth. Any mature counselor has been honed by stumbling like a baby.
Professional skills To improve, you need to continue to strengthen your consulting skills through personal experience and supervision."
Finally, the students also shared their feelings about participating in this salon:
"In this activity, I deeply felt. I feel that when I am doing consultation, I don’t seem to put myself in the position of the consultant, and my emotions are easily influenced by the client. Being aware of this problem is a good reference for future improvements.”
“I used to. I am not very good at expressing my feelings. During the exercise, I discovered that I have so many feelings, and I can express them. I gained a lot. "
"This is the most touching psychology class I have ever taken, and I experienced the counselor and the teacher at the same time. It feels very good to have two roles as a visitor! ..."
Undoubtedly, this salon gave everyone a deeper understanding of psychological counseling and their basic skills were effectively polished.
Naben Psychology has a group of high-quality teachers and supervisors to provide systematic basic training for entry-level counselors, help build an internship platform, and build a complete professional growth path for counselors.
also provides entry-level salons, training courses, and targeted psychological counseling services for psychology enthusiasts. Enthusiasts with zero foundation can also benefit from psychology and better improve parent-child relationships, husband-wife relationships, workplace adaptation, and self-growth.
Looking forward to the next salon being more exciting!
