Introduction:
Some couples seem to be in love, but suddenly break up; while some couples, after a lifetime of fighting, no one can live without the other. This in the end is why?
As the saying goes, horse spoon How can you not touch the edge of the pot? Not to mention couples who live together every day, even ordinary colleagues and friends who have been together for a long time will sometimes have disagreements.
In fact, it is normal for couples to have differences and even quarrels. It is not worth making a fuss about. The key is how to recognize the problem and how to solve it.
Just like the 63-year-old Aunt Liang in the courtyard, she and her wife had been quarreling for half their lives, but they missed each other after they separated. Therefore, she often laments that the happiness of the old couple is "pinched".
63-year-old Aunt Liang’s self-report:
01
Lao Zhou and I have been married for more than 30 years. We first met through a matchmaker and we only dated for two months before we got married. This is not considered a flash marriage, but it can also be considered a "quick marriage", right?
Most people fall in love first and then get married, but I get married first and then fall in love. At that time, we only had a general understanding of each other, and there was no relationship at all. We bumped into each other occasionally. We were both concerned about face and were embarrassed to "fall out", but as time went by, we got to know each other better, " The battle gradually escalated.
One time when I went back to my parents’ home, I gave him a lot of advice and advice, reminding Lao Zhou to eat more vegetables and drink less alcohol. Unexpectedly, he didn't listen at all. He drank more and more, and in the end he started to make a fuss like my father.
I was so angry and resentful that I slapped Lao Yiyi on the spot. Not only did I scold him afterwards, I even filed for divorce. Maybe he felt that he had gone too far. Lao Zhou did not only "beg for mercy", but also said good things and promised again and again that he would listen to me on everything in the future.
Seeing his pitiful look and thinking about my precious son, I had no choice but to endure it. But to put it bluntly: a dog cannot change its habit of eating shit. In the years that followed, we had countless arguments because of his drinking.
02
Lao Zhou doesn’t have a bad temper, and he lives his life in a muddle-headed way, which is very different from me who is competitive and desperate for face.
I bought a wedding house for my son that year. I knew that my neighbor’s house bought a three-bedroom apartment, so I wanted to buy a house with three bedrooms and two living rooms. However, Lao Zhou strongly opposed this and insisted that it was not necessary for the young couple to live in such a big house, and if the house was big, everything would cost more.
For this matter, we both hold different opinions and argue almost every day. We often get red in the face and have thick necks, and no one pays attention to the other. Sometimes, my son couldn't stand it any longer, so he pretended to be helpless and said: "You two, stop arguing, I don't want to get married."
At this time, Lao Zhou and I suddenly became "combatants in the trenches" "Comrades in arms", they all reprimanded their sons for being heartless and daring to challenge us now that their wings have become stiff.
In desperation, we each gave in and bought a house with three bedrooms and one living room, which finally ended the "battle".
03
When I retired, I thought I had passed the "running-in period" and could finally enjoy my old age in a down-to-earth manner. However, the real life of staring at people all day long is not that simple.
At first, after dinner every day, Lao Zhou would hang out or play cards with a bunch of "husbands and dogs", leaving me alone at home, which was so boring. As time went by, the resentment in my heart accumulated more and more. When he wanted to go out, I would either make a noise or stop him from going.
Later, Lao Zhou didn't dare to go out to play, but he started checking his mobile phone again without knowing it. He didn't do any work every day, and even had to shout several times to eat.
How could I spoil him with my little temper? Without hesitation, I made a "three-part agreement": wash your own clothes; cook one day per person; and "draw lots" for cleaning.
Lao Zhou was naturally very dissatisfied and often complained while working. But when I saw it, I felt happy in my heart.
04
Having said that, for a clumsy man, there are some housework that he is not very good at.
Once, Lao Zhou did his own laundry. It may not be rinsed cleanly, and after drying, there are many white marks on the clothes. While wiping it with a wet towel, he said angrily that he couldn't live this life, so he might as well live happily separated.
I was just "gloating about others' misfortune", but when I heard what he said, I immediately became angry and said angrily: "Let's divide it. Who are you trying to scare? I'll pack my things and go to my son's house."
After arriving at his son's house, , although the young couple were very enthusiastic, I don’t know why, but I couldn’t feel at ease. And one night when I was dreaming, I dreamed that Lao Zhou was starved to the point of being black and thin, and I started crying anxiously.
Early the next morning, I quietly went home before my son and daughter-in-law got up. The moment he saw me coming in, Lao Zhou suddenly hugged me, crying and laughing like a child.
is written at the end:
Many old couples have been together for a lifetime and have never said those "three words" to each other, but the deep love has been buried in their hearts unconsciously.
In fact, whether it is noisy or complaining, it is a way and a tool to convey feelings to each other. When they meet, they "pinch", and when they are separated, they become confused. This is the "love" of an old couple.
When people get old, no matter how filial their children are, it is difficult for them to accompany them every day and be considerate of everything. Only their wives are each other's most convenient "crutches."
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Thank you for your reading and support, and I wish you health and happiness!
Author: Yi Diaolu, a cheerful and joking emotional narrator who is willing to accompany his mentors and friends to taste and laugh about life.
