Although it is said that a family needs to help each other. The teacher said that if you need help, your family will definitely help you. But don’t go too far. Just like the thing in the article, it is simply too much. Let alone your wife, even if it were me, I would divorce you. Who can blame this ending? If this man hadn't gone too far. How could
lead to this ending? I hope this case can remind all men. Even if it is between a family, it cannot be too much. If you go too far, you are not treating the other person as a family. Let's take a look at this matter together. The mother-in-law was hospitalized, and the husband asked her to take care of her. The husband said he had no money to hire a nanny, and the wife said she wanted a divorce.
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36-year-old Ms. Li:
My mother told me that in the worst case, I will continue to take care of your mother-in-law. Don't divorce your husband. If you divorce your husband, I'm afraid you will regret it in the future. Some things are like this. When you do it, it feels like nothing happens, but you will regret it later.
But this world is like this, there is no turning back. If you divorce your husband, even if you remarry later. You can't go back to the past, so it's for your happiness and for me to have someone to take care of me in the future. I think I'd better take care of your mother-in-law.
I told my mother that since my father passed away. You live a hard life alone. I want you to come to my place for retirement, but you don’t want to. Are you going to be bullied by your mother-in-law now? To put it nicely, this is a family helping each other. To put it bluntly, they don’t treat you as family at all.
I will definitely make the decision for you. If I am not responsible for you, if I don't care about you. Then who cares about you in the future? Don’t talk about this matter. I know what to do. My mother said to me, what do you know? If you get divorced, you will definitely regret it in the future. Never return to your family because of me. You and your husband are together for happiness, not for divorce.
I told my mother, they are bullying you like this, what can I do? Can I just ignore it? If you don't even care about me. How can I be responsible for you in the future? Once you get started, there will be no end. They just went too far.
My mother told me, what if it is too much? You have been with him for so many years and have children together. What happens to the children if we get divorced? You are such a big person and you don’t need others to take care of you, but your children need others to take care of you. You also know that your husband is not good to your two daughters. If you divorce your husband, will your two daughters be beaten directly by your husband?
These things are all possible, and you have to endure it no matter how difficult it is for your children. And your mother and I are strong. What happened if I went to take care of your mother-in-law? It's just a matter of helping each other as a family. I told my mother, don’t I know about you and my mother-in-law?
Just stop making things difficult for yourself. I know how to do this, so don't worry about it, I'll handle it. Today I am telling this matter, and everyone can help me comment on it. If it were you, would you choose to divorce? Faced with this matter, shouldn’t we choose divorce? I think I am not wrong. Why do I say my mother said I was wrong? Why didn't my mother divorce me?
I have been with my husband for over 6 years. And now I have two children, both daughters unfortunately. Originally I thought there would always be a boy, but the two in a row were girls. I don't have anything to say, after all, I am also a woman, and I will definitely not say anything to girls.
But my husband feels that girls are being forced. If I hadn't protected these two daughters. I even thought my husband would give his daughter away to someone else. My husband always tells me that life is stressful, but you have brought two money-losing products to our family. Where can we afford it?
My husband also drinks with friends. When he is drunk, he always says that he wants to give the child to someone else. If only those people hadn't known that my husband was drunk.Maybe they will believe it. But what I am sure of is that my husband definitely has this idea, otherwise he wouldn’t always talk about it. My husband would rather be nice to his brother's children.
will not be kind to his daughter. In my husband's heart, our children are losers. My husband said to me, what are girls for? Sooner or later, you will have to marry someone else, and now you can't accept a lot of betrothal money. Keeping these two children would be a disaster. I don’t know how I survived. Every time my child was bullied, I would stay by his side to protect him.
Later I had to go to work, and I asked my mother to come over and take care of the children. My mother protects the children for me. I can't help it. My mother-in-law always bullies my children when my husband is not at home. My mother-in-law still pinches the child sometimes. It is normal for a child to cry at such a young age. If I see that the child is disobedient, I will pinch the child with my hands.
I just don’t understand why there is a wolf mother-in-law who pinches the child until it turns red and blue. The child is still so young. When I came back and saw all this, my heart ached. That's why I asked my mother to come and take care of the children. When I first started, I did not ask my mother to take care of the children, but my mother-in-law. On the surface, taking care of children is actually child abuse.
Sometimes I don’t even feed my children at noon. The child is still so young, so he must be fed. The mother-in-law thinks the child is troublesome and doesn't care. I had to ask my mother to come over. In this way, my mother took care of the children at home for 5 years.
In the past five years, my mother not only had to take care of the children, but also had to serve my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law always wants to bully my mother. Then my mother endured it again and again, and I knew all these things. Sometimes I quarrel with my husband because of such things, and I hope my husband can stand up and seek justice. But my husband told me that one more time is worse than one less time.
How do we manage other people's affairs? Let them handle their affairs. You asked me to help your mother. So what did my mother say about me? I don't want to help either of them, and I don't want to take care of them. On the surface it doesn't help. In fact, my husband still helps his mother. In my husband's heart, his mother is definitely more important than my mother. Then I would stand by my mother and help my mother.
said that if I look at my mother-in-law too much, I will scold her. As long as my mother-in-law doesn't do this again, otherwise don't blame me and you, don't push yourself too far. Because of such things, we often quarrel and make noises. I don't want to be like this, but my mother-in-law is too much. How could he bully my mother?
I asked my mother to resist, but my mother chose to tolerate it. In fact, I know that my mother chose to be patient, wasn't it just for me? Just because of me. My mother will endure it again and again. Still together to this day. It has been 5 years, who knows how my mother came here.
My daughter is such a failure. My mother made me endure it every time. Now I can't bear it anymore. One day my mother-in-law fell ill. My husband told me, you see my mother is in the hospital, why don't you let your mother take care of her. Your mother has nothing to do at home anyway.
Then I said to my husband, why is there nothing to do? Don’t you have to take care of the children? The two children needed my mother's care. Then my husband told me that the child is still so young and does not need anyone to take care of it. Just wait until your mother comes back to take care of it, or wait until we come back and take care of it.
My mother's affairs are more important. You know how uncomfortable it is for my mother to be alone in the hospital now that she is old. Let your mother go to the hospital to take care of him. I told my husband helplessly that the child was still so young and it would be difficult to have an adult at home to watch the child. What should I do if something happens to my child? And you also know that your mother is older.
My mother is older. In your knowledge, is your mother the only one who is older? My mother is older than your mother. It's not good to ask my mother to take care of your mother. I thought I was speaking very politely.Then my husband won't worsen the problem.
Unexpectedly, my husband angrily told me that I have the final say on this matter, even if your mother is older than my mother. so what? Aren't you going to take care of my mother? Do you dare to say no? Do you have any say in this family? I was so angry that I endured it again and again, for so many years. Now my mother is actually asked to take care of my mother-in-law. I angrily told my husband, "Can't I hire a nanny?"
Your monthly salary is more than 20,000 yuan. You can save a lot of money every month. And you never gave me this money. Can't you use some money from your salary to hire a nanny? My husband told me, don’t talk to me about money. Doesn’t it cost money to hire a nanny?
Hiring a nanny is a waste of money, and if you hire a nanny to take care of you, I don't feel at ease. I can only feel at ease if your mother takes care of you. So let your mother take care of it. This is not only for your own good, but also for the good of this family, if your mother doesn't take care of my mother. What about my mother?
Do you have our family in your heart? Don't tell me this again. Your mother packed her things and went to the hospital to take care of my mother tonight. I left my mother's affairs to your mother. Only then did I understand it completely. There is no place for my mother in my husband's heart at all. I am an only child, and now I only have my mother.
If I am not responsible for my mother now, or don't care about my mother. Then can I be responsible for my mother in the future? My mother tolerated it again and again in this family, always swallowing her anger. For what it is. Isn't it for me? Now they are going too far. Now my mother has to take care of my mother-in-law. You can obviously hire a nanny, but you don’t hire one.
said there is no money. Those are all lies, my husband is able to save a lot of money every month. Every night I go out to eat, drink and have sex with my friends. But he told me that he had no money to hire a nanny. I didn’t think about it, I just didn’t want to hire a nanny. Since this is the case, what else is there to say?
I told my husband, that is your mother, not my mother. If you have to find someone to take care of you, then hire a nanny instead of my mother. Over the years, my mother has been very tired of taking care of us and our children at home. Do you still want my mother to take care of your mother? Obviously I was reminding my husband to let him know my mother's sacrifice. But my husband said to me, why don’t you listen to me?
They all said that if you don’t have money to hire a nanny, let your mother take care of my mother. I don't want to say it a second time... I couldn't bear it anymore. I told my husband, if this is the case, let's get divorced. In your heart, your mother is more important than everything else between us. I have to make the decision for my mother. I don't want my mother to live with me anymore.
I endured it again and again, and finally I couldn't bear it anymore. divorce. This is how things are, what can I do about this? Shouldn't we choose divorce? Was it wrong for me to choose divorce? If it were you, what would you do? Will you choose to divorce?
Conclusion:
This matter is indeed very difficult. If it were me, I would choose divorce, although I don’t know how to live my life after divorce. But if you don't divorce, it will be really difficult for you to be responsible for your mother, because there is no place for your mother in your husband's heart.
To put it bluntly, your husband would rather go out with those friends to eat, drink and have sex. You won't hire a nanny, he'll take care of you. It is precisely because of this that you have to be responsible for your mother. Doesn't your mother pay enough for you these people? Without your mother, there would be no you. Since this is the case, you should be even more responsible for your mother.
So this matter requires divorce. There is no place for you in your husband's heart. If you don't get a divorce, things will definitely get worse in the future. One day, you and your mother will be useless, and your husband will probably kick you away by then.
So you must choose divorce no matter what, even if you lose everything, you must choose divorce, and your husband will lose everything. One more thing to say here. Men can't be like this, then you don't just have your own family in your heart. There is also a maternal family. If you are like the man in the article, you will lose everything in the end. Then don’t blame others. If you want to blame, blame yourself.
