Interpersonal communication is a problem that everyone will inevitably face.
You will meet many people in your life, but not everyone is worthy of close friendship. Some people’s encounter is a mistake in itself, and if you are still obsessed with it, then those fates will become a bad fate.
Not everyone is worth remembering, nor is everyone worth deep friendship.
Maybe, at the beginning, we were confused by a person's appearance and mistakenly thought that the other person was someone worthy of sincere treatment, but whether a person is worthy of deep friendship will definitely tell us the details of getting along with each other.
Sincere intention cannot be hidden by time, false thoughts will eventually reveal flaws.
In fact, people who get along like are worthy of close friends.
01: People who can reply messages in time
In love, we will demand that the other party be able to reply their messages as soon as possible to verify the other party's sincerity. In friendship, the requirements will be much relaxed, but no matter what, we hope that the other party can reply to their messages in time, rather than waiting for several days before coming late, or even not reply at all.
Whenever a message is sent out, it gets the result of a rock sinking into the sea. In fact, even if we don’t say anything on our face, when the expectations in our hearts gradually fade, our feelings will gradually disappear.
takes a step back.
If a person cannot even give you a polite reply, it is enough to see that the other party does not really want to make friends with you.
If you use busyness as a reason once or twice, this is acceptable, but if you use busyness as an excuse again and again, you just want to tell you: he doesn't want to continue communicating with you.
At this time, you should be more sensible in life. When facing someone who doesn’t want to have a close relationship with you, there is no need for you to continue to have a close relationship with him.
. A person who can reply to your message in time may sometimes be delayed because of some things. Although his intentions are late, it is rare enough.
02: Be content with speaking and doing things
When I was a child, I thought that a good relationship was not distinguishing between you and me. It was not until later, when I grew up that I realized that any relationship should be kept at a certain distance before it can develop for a long time.
As Sanmao wrote in the "Random Thoughts" collection:
"No matter how close friends are, they must not lose their sense of responsibility. If they think they are familiar with each other, they will easily become estranged."
There are many people in life who do some behaviors that hurt others under the banner of "for your own good", and they can even blame others with confidence when facing other people's rebuttals.
After all, if a person relies on the intimate relationship between you and does some harm to you, this person cannot be the one who treats you sincerely. He is just using your kindness.
In fact, people who are truly worthy of close contact must be the kind of person who speaks and does things in a proper way.
Because a person with a proper sense will consider the problem for you from your perspective, give you the respect you want, and give you the privacy space you want.
03: In any long-term relationship, comfortable getting along is the only standard
Su Qin once said:
"Whoever is comfortable with you will be with you, including friends, so do you stay away when you are tired."
After all, interpersonal communication is just a way of life we choose to achieve our life goals. What kind of people we get along with is our own choice, so there is no need to torture ourselves in a bitter and tiring relationship.
The fate between people is indeed rare, but if you encounter a bad fate, you should know how to give up instead of being entangled, or immersed in the "sinking cost".
Assuming that your relationship between you makes you particularly painful, then no matter how beautiful the encounter you have ever had, you should let it go at this time.
You must understand that in any long-term relationship, comfortable getting along is the only standard.
If the other party really cherishes your relationship, how can he be willing to make your relationship worse, how can he be willing to let you suffer all the torture in a relationship?
is nothing more than not sincere enough.
Time is precious, don’t make friends with people who are not worth it.
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