The emotions of a man towards losing his wife are the first priority; secondly, it depends on the status and role of the wife in the family; secondly, it depends on how he died, the death of long-term illness without treatment, the sudden death of a sudden disaster, the long-planned murder and extreme behavior negligence, the psychological impact of various situations is different; finally, it depends on the will quality of the widowed man; in addition, it also needs to consider the age of the widowed man, the length of the widowed man’s time, family conditions, etc. It cannot be generalized, but specific personnel and matters must be analyzed in detail. Generally speaking, widowed men are painful
Most of the time, normal feelings do take a considerable time to heal themselves. The pain of being ununderstood and the sadness of the death of a loved one, the meaning of life is far more than that. Even if you don’t have children, your life has other meanings and find the support point of your life. Find what you are most happy to do. Since you know that you need psychological counseling and healing, then do it. Do what you want to do and what you can bear.
was once a terrible disaster.
Most of the people who are middle-aged are experienced and have a fixed view of life. You should have a clear understanding of feelings, marriage, and family, and have a personal understanding of the encounters and helplessness in life. If you remarry at this time, two situations will usually be considered: one is interests and the other is feelings. The former is particularly important.
Do they want to continue looking for their partner?
There is no need to hide it. When people are middle-aged, they have old and young, and they have a job. They can't stand the troubles of remarriage at all. Therefore, choosing a partner to remarry must be able to help each other financially, and second, it must be aligned in terms of three views. If you still have unrealistic fantasies when you reach middle age, you don’t know what to say. For financially independent people, it is not even ruled out that they have been dating for a long time, but they do not promise each other's marriage. This is normal and also in line with the mood of middle-aged people.
How to get them out of the haze?
key depends on the true thoughts in your heart, how strong your motivation is, what your inner requirements and expectations for the other party are, whether you are willing to adjust, whether objectively reasonable, how to analyze yourself, and how to implement actions, it is definitely not just a few sentences that can be clearly explained, it can be changed, people's hearts, and even you cannot really understand yourself. It is recommended to try to find someone to have an in-depth chat, talk, listen to other people's thoughts and communicate and interact, slowly understand yourself in the process, recognize your inner heart and absorb experience suggestions.
really think clearly, it is not easy, it is really not easy, it is really good, it is even more difficult, but I think as long as you really think clearly and do it, it is always much better than you are confused and hesitant, even if there are setbacks in the process, so what?
This is a widowed man's self-report:
Mr. Li
47 Grey man. My beloved wife suddenly passed away for a month, living in pain and tears every day, she has been together for twenty years, and she has been in harmony with each other. She is used to whispering before going to bed, and when I cook and come to her to do laundry! Everything, such a beautiful and comfortable life will never return, leaving behind a heartbreaking, lonely, and helpless heartbreaker! The eldest is the junior in the UK. The second brother is in the third grade of elementary school and is in debt of millions. His business is still suffering. Although he is not insolvent, he faces interest of tens of thousands of yuan and expenses of hundreds of thousands of yuan every month! I can only bear it silently and endure it! I quit drinking, and I abandon all social engagements, and the three of me slowly adapted to all this together! Let’s vent my feelings here. If you can’t think about it, who can compare to her beloved? I guess I can’t tolerate it. Who is not afraid of a debt of 5 million? Tears fall down and make people feel involuntarily! Without the love of life, you are confused and in a daze, and you must be strong and pretend to be happy when facing your children! Crying hard and crying hard! ! !
Mr. Wang, 47 years old, widowed for 8 years
My wife has been leaving me for eight years. What is my mentality now? I only have two words: miss .
No one knows how I survived these eight years. My wife and I met through blind dates, and we got married first and then fell in love.
My wife is gentle and kind, well-educated and well-educated. Over the years, she has given me great help in her career. She has always been the woman behind me. If I had no wife, I would not have achieved what I am now.
I spent a million to save her from the god of death. Looking back now, I still feel guilty in my heart.
Now, I have met a woman again. She and her wife have very similar personalities. We can talk about her very well. To her, I am just like my former wife. My life is short, and my life is too lonely. It may be much better for two people to walk together. I miss my wife very much.
There is another even more distressing thing:
29 is considered middle-aged or not, and the child also followed him, leaving himself alone. It has been a year and a half since the incident happened. I still remember him, often dreaming, and I forgot when I wake up, remembering many beautiful things, but I seem to have forgotten them all. When thinking about the past, there is no regret or annoyance, occasionally joy, but more peace. Regarding love, continue to believe, continue to embrace, continue to experience love and be loved, but just fear of marriage. Love is a matter for two people, but marriage is a matter for two families. Thank you very much for everyone I met later. I am willing to wait for me and be willing to hold my hand and walk through the rest of my life. Personally, I think that feelings themselves have nothing to do with widowhood. They are just an accident in life. They just have an accident and need to take on more responsibilities. They do not affect who you continue to fall in love with. In this life, you can like many people, and then choose one, and accumulate into love over time and integrate into blood. I hope that widowed people will be sunny and optimistic, maintain good integrity, courage, fearlessness and sympathy. There is a saying that God has given you setbacks, which makes you worthy of having better. If it is a woman, I suggest you take a look at "Gone with the Wind", a woman's Homer epic, second widow, still has the love and tolerance of Mr. Breed , and I still believe that tomorrow will be better.
