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01, Volume Beginner
Good friends are like a harbor that can be temporarily avoided in a storm. In interpersonal relationships, those who are good at making friends know how to "pretend to be stupid".
Bai Juyi said: "It is difficult to walk, not in the water, not in the mountains, but in the repetition of human feelings."
If you do not know how to be a human being and do not know how to get along with others with a sense of indecision, it will be difficult to make friends who treat you sincerely.
Social people sometimes act "stupid". Treat people sincerely and it doesn’t matter if you suffer some losses. Abide by the principle of "altruism" and always believe that helping others will also help yourself.
Be kind to others and wisdom to get along with others is to leave yourself a way to retreat.
There are many dangerous roads on life. The more friends you truly make, the easier it is to escape when you encounter danger.
A person is more "stupid" in the following aspects, the more difficult it is.
02. Frequently taking losses from "benefits" is a pattern
People with truly high emotional intelligence know how to "suffer losses" when they get along with others.
"suffered" seems to harm one's own interests, but it can make others gain favor and treat them sincerely. In this world, when building connections, it is hard to find true feelings.
Once upon a time, I saw a story: There was a blind person who always lighted a light when he walked at night.
Many people are puzzled, thinking that he is so useless, and ask him why he wants to light a lamp that he can’t see it and shine the way for others?
He smiled and replied, "It's for others, and for myself. Let others see me and not bump into me."
Think about the problem from a different perspective and you will understand: Sometimes, if you lose some benefits, in other places, you will get more gains.
People who know how to suffer losses will gain the sincerity of others by giving up a small part of their own interests.
often suffers from "benefits", does not fight or rob, is willing to help others, seems to be giving, but in fact, it is because you have made a lot of connections and it is easier to achieve great things.
People who are willing to "suffer" are always easy to usher in cooperation from others and usher in more opportunities.
03. Don’t care about gains and losses, it seems very stupid, but in fact it is an open-minded
The difficulty of life lies in not knowing how to let go.
People who cannot let go are easily trapped by love, or they may draw their own fields as prisons. Trapped yourself in a certain relationship or something. People who cannot let go of
are prone to care about gains and losses. To lose more energy and time.
People who cannot let go like to fight for gains and losses with others. For their own interests, they often break up with each other, and live a tiring and hard life.
People who truly live open-mindedly do not care about gains and losses, know how to take everything in this world lightly, and be good at letting go.
Sanmao said: "What God doesn't give me, no matter how tight my fingers are, it still leaks; what I give me, no matter how I miss it in the past, I will have it."
loses, no matter how much I lose. Knowing how to smile and adjust your emotions will bring more benefits in the future.
If a person always lives in the past and is immersed in pain, then the beauty of the present will be ignored by him.
Learn to not care about it, it seems to be a loss, but in fact, if you manage your current life carefully, you will also gain more happiness and beauty in the future.
04. Frequently "silly" giving is a kind of vision
. People who truly know how to accumulate strength are willing to lower their attitude, constantly learn, and constantly gain experience through the form of giving.
At work, some people think that doing things that are not part of their own will suffer a great loss.
In fact, sometimes, if you are exposed to more work that you have never tried before, you will gain a lot of insight. After a long time, you will find that everything you learn can come in handy.
Awesome people often give "silly" and are willing to help others do more things and give themselves more experience and experience.
If a person is proactive and sincere in giving, he will also receive sincere feedback from others.
Especially in your career, if you want to get promoted and get a salary increase, you often need to take the initiative to undertake some work content.
Only by constantly crossing the boundaries of responsibilities and constantly learning can we continuously improve our abilities; the higher the value of creation, we can obtain a higher position.
In the workplace, people who give stupidly are actually very visionary. They lower their attitude and study hard, but they are just accumulating strength and waiting for opportunities to come and soar into the sky.
05. Summary
In life, if you want to gain connections, the best way is to learn to suffer losses and exchange sincerity with sincerity.
" Caigen Tan " writes: "Training for things is high, and regressing is the foundation of progress; treating others with a little bit of blessing, and benefiting others with a foundation of self-interest."
In interpersonal communication, learn to suffer losses, not be stingy in giving, and not care about small profits, and can show a larger pattern, an open-minded personality, easier to get along with others, and develop better connections.
Learn to suffer losses. If you can "work together with others", more people will be willing to "save together with you".
Everyone has a scale in their heart. How you are a person will make others treat you.
People who know how to "suffer" will often gain the sincerity of others, networks, and opportunities. In life, be a good person, learn to think from the perspective of others, don’t worry too much about gains and losses, but learn to “suffer losses.”
Learn to "suffer" and maybe in the next turn, you will be full of opportunities.
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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
