If you are already married and often chat with a certain opposite sex, late at night and reluctant to leave, have you ever thought that this is an ambiguity in itself.
The so-called ambiguity is essentially a subtle and vague relationship.
is between getting and not getting, which makes people experience the pleasure of "stealing" and there is no need to bear any responsibility. In fact, in an ambiguous relationship, no one is innocent, and even the person who leads the ambiguous relationship has a clear goal, laying the foundation for the final relationship.
No profit, no matter how early we are, what we pursue is a kind of passion and joy that is irresponsible. It can truly fill the emptiness deep in one's heart. The same is true for extramarital affair, and this kind of thing is premeditated. Because in this world, no one thought about cheating at the moment. Even if you can talk to each other from a different perspective, you can often chat together, which is a seed laid for extramarital affairs.
Alien affair, is it a “chat”? To be honest, it's really OK!
1. Chat is a process of continuous fermentation of favorable feelings.
You often chat with each other, or you are willing to chat with each other, so have you ever thought about what this means? It shows that even if it is not exaggerated to the level of love, at least there is definitely something to like. Even if it is not exaggerated to the point of liking it, at least it must have a good impression.
is not good, and they are more pleasing to each other, so they will feel and desire to chat. Therefore, maintaining frequent connections is itself a process of continuous fermentation of favorable feelings.
is also equivalent to this kind of favoritism, a seed buried for the occurrence of relationships. As time goes by, this seed will gradually take root and sprout, and finally grow into a towering tree. Then, it will be really hard to control one's feelings.
The moment when you are in love, people lose their minds and the emotions deep in their hearts are no longer controlled by themselves.
only needs one opportunity in the end. When the right time, add a fire, and the next two people will be out of control.
While maintaining frequent contact, you may try your best to explain to your partner that you are just an ordinary friend, and you may try your best to comfort yourself, just chatting normally. In fact, your performance and behavior all come from the psychological and emotional fear of losing the other person.
So I often suffer and struggle, but I always feel firm in my emotions. No matter what reasons you find or what solutions you think, you must contact us.
In fact, you are no longer you, but you think you are still you. It's also about being at ease.
2. All humans and animals have inertia.
Habits are something more terrible than love, but humans and animals have inertia. During frequent chats, you will definitely keep giving in, exposing more and more things, and share more and more things, including real self, real emotions, real experiences, etc.
In fact, these are the most intrinsic connections between two people. When there are more and more internal connections, a special trust will occur in habits.
Finally, whether in terms of emotions or in life, they will become more and more dependent on each other. You may even feel that you cannot live without the other person. For example, if you just haven’t chatted for a day, you will become restless, as if you have lost something most important.
What is more terrifying?
Habits make people even more crazy. If you are used to each other's company, congratulations and enthusiasm, he surrounds you every day and sends you messages on time and on time. When you suddenly start to neglect you one day, or don't contact you for a few days, and suddenly contact you again, that kind of emotion is like a flood breaking through the dam.
is a very simple truth, it seems to be building a house. The good impression that has always existed is the foundation of the house, and habits and trust are bricks and tiles. Until the construction of this house is completed, it will become your spiritual destination and you can no longer bear the separation from it.
3. A beautiful fantasy of love occurs in imagination.What does
mean? It means that you don’t really live together and have no part of your life, you will not be able to recognize the other person’s true face, and thus fall into your eyes and heart, leaving only “good”.
Even if the other party exposes some shortcomings, it will be infinitely reduced. On the contrary, it will always enlarge the other party's shortcomings infinitely.
So this kind of long-distance interaction is easy to develop spiritual attachment, and it is easier for people to have beautiful fantasies about love in their imagination. You will infinitely beautify the other person in your imagination, and you will infinitely amplify the other person's strengths, strengths, romance and tenderness in your imagination.
In this case, if you have a more heart-to-heart relationship again, it will further encourage the spread of your emotions.
For example, for your partner, there is no passion between you, so it is ordinary in your eyes, and you may even deny your partner. So what does this mean? Emotionally, you will recognize and incline to your "friend".
It can be seen that with the blessing of this halo, the image of this "friend" should be in your heart.
Another one, you and your partner will definitely make unhappy due to trivial matters in life, but for "friends", you only participate in the romantic part of each other's life, and will only follow you, appreciate you, and comfort you, so you have good luck, and you cannot see the shortcomings, and finally sink into your fantasy.
In fact, in this kind of thing, we must not have that kind of blind confidence in ourselves. We are always particularly sure that we can handle this kind of thing well. You should know that people have two things that are not controlled by themselves, one is emotions and the other is thought.
When your feelings accumulate and develop to a certain level, you will no longer have the ability to refuse, and you will even be unable to control your body.
Why do many people do many things that they don’t even understand after they have a relationship? He is really obsessed with the idea of nothing in his mind, he has nothing, he only knows that he can't lose the other person.
so it is best to keep a safe distance from friends. If you are friends, you must have a sense of boundaries between friends. Don’t be lucky, curious and ambiguous, and be greedy for temporary stimulation. Being able to kill goodwill in the cradle in time, otherwise it will be more than just the fall of emotions.
