"Hear the voice of my heart
Be the light of my own world"
My Niang, who grew up in a single-parent family, has always felt guilty towards her father. She was determined to be the best person and make up for the hard work of her father as both a father and a mother in those years.
After successfully starting her business, she gave her family 8,000 yuan in living expenses every month. Every time she goes back to her hometown, the first thing she does is to take everyone in the family to the mall and buy all the clothes, jewelry, cosmetics and food. She even took good care of her stepmother's aunts and aunts, hoping that her father could enjoy his old age in a complete family.
Like those children who are spoiled by their parents, the father and stepmother are becoming more and more greedy under Mei Niang's uncontrollable spoiling. After asking for 10 million but failed, my father made a new request a week before Mei Niang got married: put the 990,000 yuan gift in front of me.
The following is Mei Niang's story:
narrator｜ Mei Niang
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I want to give my dad the best life
I have always felt sorry for my dad.
My parents divorced when I was very young, and I live with my grandmother, dad, younger brother and sister. My father was only in his 30s at that time, and he was both a father and a mother alone, taking care of his family. When I was 10 years old, he finally met a suitable woman, but after getting married, the woman hit me, and he drove her out of the house without saying a word.
It was more than ten years later when my father decided to get married again. On the wedding day, I cried very hard as he watched him lead his little wife to the dinner, greeting and toasting with his relatives, and the corners of his eyes and mouth raised gently. I felt very guilty, thinking that it was all because of me, my father has been alone for so many years.
I am determined to be a particularly outstanding person and compensate him for everything in the world.
That aunt is a few years younger than my dad, but she is very considerate and very nice to my dad and grandma. I have always been very grateful to her. So later I started my business successfully and earned my first pot of gold in my life, so I bought them a house of more than 200 square meters.
Actually, I didn’t have enough money at the time, but I must do this. So I just stole everything from home and lived alone for half a year in a difficult situation. Finally, I moved my father and stepmother into a bright and comfortable big house.
Let the family live a good life. It was once the greatest happiness of Mei Niang
In the years since then, I would give them 8,000 yuan in living expenses every month. If I get sick or buy other bulk items, I will give them another money. In my hometown, where the average salary is more than 2,000, they don’t need to do any work. The only "task" is to eat, drink and have fun, travel around the world, and have traveled much more countries than I did.
I hope my stepmother can be with her father for a long time and take special care of her. Every time they quarrel, I would buy a bottle of perfume, a bag, or a suit to coax her. She posted a photo of herself having an infusion on her Moments, and I would immediately post tens of thousands of dollars. In two days, I told me that I was under great pressure and felt insecure. OK, I would call her immediately.
I tried my best to meet all their needs, and even I included all the aunts and aunts in my stepmother's family. During the holidays, the first thing I do when I go back to my hometown is to bring everyone in the mall. I will buy all the things I need, whether they are clothes, jewelry, cosmetics, or food, and I will pay the bill.
In addition to seeking economically, I never neglect emotionally. No matter how busy I am, I will take one to two hours a week to chat with them, listen to them complain, listen to them tell me about the village affairs, whoever fights with whom, and whoever makes up with whom. I do my best to help them maintain their marriage. I hope they can live happily and relaxedly in this kind of material and spiritual worry-free life.
I made no complaints and contributed regardless of rewards. Like those parents who spoiled their children, I wish I could cut them out and show them. It was not until a long time later that I realized that under my unintentional indulgence, my father and stepmother had been completely spoiled.
I raised two ungrateful wolves
Although I send money to my family every month, my father still asks me to pay for extra bills, shop online, treats dinner, etc. I often throw a link to ask me to pay him. I know that he needs to prove to the people around him. Look, although we have been suffering for so many years, our daughter is so outstanding now and we are living a very good life.
He needs this kind of vanity, so I will satisfy him. Until his greed swelled so much that I couldn't bear it.
That day, my dad suddenly said to me, "Can you give me ten million? I want to build a battlefield." I was particularly surprised. An old man living in the countryside turned out to be such a huge sum of money. I calculated that even if I really wanted to build a battlefield, I wouldn't have to spend so much money.
Although I started my business smoothly, I couldn’t afford so much money. Unexpectedly, a few days later, he followed me again, "Then give me two million. I want to build a bath center in the local area."
I can actually guess what my dad really thinks. He has a group of friends who often drink together, and it must be their idea to ask him to test how much assets I have or what I have. The older generation always feels that the water thrown by a married girl is afraid that I will ignore my family after getting married, so I want to get a lot of money at one time before that.
History and stepmother have been testing how much deposit Mei Niang has
probably really responded to the saying, "It's not that one family doesn't come in the whole family." After I discovered my father's little thoughts, my mother soon showed her foot.
One day, the stepmother's sister suddenly found me and said that there was something I wanted to tell me so that I could prepare myself.
She said that her stepmother applied for a card in the bank in her name and saved all the money I gave to her. I probably guessed what she meant, She was afraid that I would get back the previous money one day, so she secretly exchanged the money for her to keep it in her sister's name.
I felt a little uncomfortable, but I could accept it. I just felt that this was a sign of her insecure.
But another thing makes me feel like I'm in my throat. I pushed my purchasing agent to her a long time ago. She could get any cosmetics and skin care products she wanted to use. I regularly asked someone to buy the order. She always gets a lot of goods, and I didn't care about it, thinking that she gave her relatives a favor. But her sister told me that in fact, the stepmother sold a lot of cosmetics.
The aunt said that their family, her own two children, had received too much help from me, and she really couldn't bear to see me in the dark and was deceived by two ungrateful wolves. More importantly, she was afraid that one day if I discovered these lies myself, the whole family might have dispersed.
I finally decided to turn a blind eye and not pursue what had happened. How difficult it is to form a home. I really don’t want to completely break it just because of a little money.
"I want 990,000 yuan of betrothal gifts"
I was pregnant before marriage. My father was very unhappy when he learned about this and asked me to get married immediately. No matter how bad it is, I have to go back to my hometown to have a wedding. I was forced to do nothing by him, so I agreed to get married.
Dad is very concerned about my marriage. is not about my mood or my wedding ceremony. What he values most is the issue of bride price.
From the moment I learned that I was going to get married, he asked me to change him a car. Actually, the one I bought for him before was fine, but he was very persistent in the new car and kept saying that this was the last time he bought a car in his life. After buying it, he no longer asked the man for a bride price. I thought about it and it was worth it to be happy for my dad.
However, a week before the wedding, he suddenly said that he wanted us to give him another 990,000 yuan in bride price, otherwise he would be very embarrassed. I asked him if he wanted a dowry, should he also give me a dowry, otherwise it would be unfair to the man. My dad said that would not work. That 990,000 is equivalent to saving for me first. If I encounter difficulties later, he will take it out for me.
Actually, my husband had already given me the bride price and agreed to hand over the money to my dad. But I don't want to indulge my dad's greed again and again. So I took the pressure and collected the money myself.
Because of these things, my dad and stepmother were obviously not very happy. They were still as usual in front of outsiders at the wedding, but they became increasingly alienated from me in private.
Wedding became the turning point in Mei Niang's relationship with her father
On the day of the wedding, I rushed to finish all kinds of things, hoping to save some time and fly directly to the honeymoon the next day. When I counted the gift, my father and stepmother were always standing beside me, without saying a word, staring at my every move.
I couldn't bear to look at the lost eyes of both of them. I took 200,000 from the gift of more than 1 million yuan to them. The rest was packed and sealed with a belt for the driver and his assistant, preparing to send it to the finance department, and then boarded the plane to Yunnan. I posted a message on my Moments before I got on the plane. After so many years of growing up and exploring, I finally have my own home, and finally there is someone that can fill my empty heart. I feel like my heart is wet, for the hard work of so many years, and for the new life waiting for me, which is bright and sunny and spring flowers blooming.
However, when I arrived in Yunnan, where all seasons were like spring, I had trouble at home before I could feel my new life.
Finance called me and told me that it should have been a gift of 800,000, but when it came to him, only 600,000 were left. I immediately called my dad, and he admitted it with peace of mind, "I took the money, remember it, I took it, not stole it."
I asked whether he took it or his stepmother. He didn't say anything, and I called the stepmother on WeChat again, but she blocked it directly. When I called the phone again, she just said arrogantly, "Ask your dad!" even more, I didn't expect that it was all. She actually cursed the child in my belly: "You are pregnant, don't have an asshole when the child is born!"
I was completely collapsed, tears burst out from my eyes. I have never cried as hard as I did that day. She has been in our house for ten years, and I am obedient and extremely pampered with her. People who love and tolerate like that actually say such words to me.
My heart is extremely broken. It's not a matter of money from beginning to end. If they really need it, I will give you 200,000, not to mention 2 million. I can't accept that my true heart was so disappointed.
Later, my brother stood up and said harsh words to my family, asking my dad to return the extra 200,000 yuan to me. My stepmother became even more angry because of this. She called over and scolded people several times. My father ignored her. It was not until her stepmother ran away from home that she spoke to me: "Go and apologize to her, otherwise she won't come back."
Spoiled person
That wedding really became a turning point in my life.However, it is not the starting point for the love and happiness of husband and wife and family, as I imagined before, but the beginning of me and my spoiled father and stepmother getting farther and farther away.
For many years, for the sake of my father's happiness, I have been holding back and retreating, but I am not a fool and will not let others stab the softest part of my heart again and again.
I decided that from then on, I will bear the responsibility for me and the obligations I should fulfill, but I will take back the rights of both of them to hurt me.
I will still give them living expenses every month, but I will not ask about the expenses other than that. But after more than half a month, I was a little soft-hearted again. When I bought a house, I bought two buildings, one for myself and the other for them. However, how can stepmothers who are used to living a "rich wife" accept the sharp drop in pocket money in their hands? Not long after, he left my dad.
Mei Niang doesn’t want to spoil her father anymore
From then on to today, three or four years have passed, and my relationship with my father has been maintained both far and near, neither salty nor light.
I have already arranged his life for him. I opened a company in my hometown and asked my dad and my brother to invest some money before, so he didn't have to work every month, and he earned almost 100,000 or 80,000 yuan. He could still live a life of food and clothing without worries.
During the holidays, I will prepare red envelopes and gifts for him, and I will buy good clothes for him during the season change. But when you are fine, you will definitely not make a single call. In terms of emotions, I will no longer have any emotional input or output, and I really don’t have the strength to give or love.
My dad has never kept my love. His motto of life is: I am your dad, I will always be right. If I raise you, you should pay all your efforts to me.
He has been waiting for me to bow his head.
I always thought that as long as I work hard and give more, my family will be happy. I never thought of asking for rewards from my family, all I wanted was not hurt. But it was not until he spoiled his father that he realized that love must be moderate, whether it is parents to children or children to parents.
unilateral and unlimited efforts are another kind of cruelty to oneself. Because once a person is spoiled, he will never be satisfied.
This article is a true story. In order to protect the privacy of the respondents, Mei Niang is the pseudonym
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Another background of Mei Niang having the ability to "spoil" her father and stepmother is that she had already gained over 100 million yuan before she was 30 years old. She is highly self-disciplined. For many years, she has woken up at 4 o'clock every day, only ate one meal, and does not eat after lunch. In order not to make her mind hot and fall into a teacher-student relationship, she even shaved her head for a time and cut off all possibilities.
She also had a marriage that ordinary people could not imagine. On the ninth day after the child was born, her husband was arrested and imprisoned. Until today, Mei Niang is still taking care of her husband's mother, ex-girlfriend and ex-girlfriend's children.
Mei Niang's story in the next article "My husband only made one request after he was imprisoned, "Help me take care of my ex-girlfriend"", please stay tuned.
