A professor at a medical university said in a speech:
"95% of the diseases are brought by marriage."
She said:
In long-term practical work, she found that many marriages in our society will not only bring happiness to both men and women, but will instead end up with endless troubles and pain.
It can be said that some people are very happy and happy when they were single before marriage. After marriage, the woman becomes a "family resentful woman" who complains all day long, and the man becomes a "work machine" that is insensitive and only knows how to make money.
In her opinion, most of the diseases come from the inability to express "emotion", such as anger, sadness, pain, anxiety, anger, etc., which accumulate deep in the heart and slowly sit down, causing various harmful physiological phenomena.
When you are single, what you are worried about is nothing more than your own work, making money, and career things, but things in the outside world are ultimately a choice.
For example, if you think this job is not good, then we can change jobs at the very least, anyway, there are so many job opportunities now.
But if you get married, you are not satisfied with your partner or with your marriage, but you cannot change your partner as simply as changing jobs at this time.
Although divorce can be done after getting married, divorce is not that easy for modern people.
Why do most diseases are caused by marriage?
Because our society has three major characteristics:
first, it has a distinct trading nature.
Second, mutual inconsideration in marriage.
Third, there is no interference from people and others.
first point.
Why do many marriages have a buying and selling nature?
Of course, this is not about real transactions, but about many marriages nowadays are marriages, but actually between the man and the woman, and also about their own exchanges.
For example, if the woman wants to pick up gifts, no matter how nice it sounds, its essence is the "buyout fee" that the woman's parents ask the man's parents for.
After collecting this money, the woman's parents seemed to have received the parenting expenses for so many years.
Because from the traditional perspective, marriage is when the woman gets married to the man's house. From then on, the woman has nothing to do with her parents. She has to be filial to the man's parents and also has to use her income with the man.
And the man paid this money, naturally it was not for nothing. They also wanted to "use the best of their money" and even expected "high value for money" and "high quality and low price".
So you will see that after the woman marrys the man, she works all day long, earns money, serves her in-laws, husbands, etc.
In addition to housework, of course, you also have to bear the most important obligation as a woman: to have children.
"Sending the family to the old X family" has become the obligation of the woman. If it cannot be done, the man's family will blame him, believing that the woman has not fulfilled her obligation, which implies that "the money is wasted."
However, the essence of our human beings is human, not objects.
, treating people as objects and clearly marking prices, will feel a strong sense of humiliation and disillusionment when placed on anyone.
The second point is that each other is inconsiderate in marriage.
In many marriages, when the woman gets married to the man’s house, she naturally has to take on various housework, give birth to children, take care of the child, and sometimes take care of her parents-in-law, etc.
Many girls grew up in an environment of indifference, exclusion, and favoring boys over girls in their original families. They are extremely eager for care, preference and a sense of security.
They will desperately seek out what they cannot get from the outside in their original families.
And many boys are not angry during their growth because of their gender.
However, society imposes some responsibilities on men's gender, such as "If you are a man, you have to support your family", "Men cannot be weak", etc. stereotype , isn't it another kind of gender shackle.
So in this place, both men and women are not free and have their own pain they must face.
So in marriage, it is even more difficult to understand the other party because they all think they are more painful than the other party.
The third point is that there are many unrelated people and others interfering in marriage.
On the surface, a man and a woman form a family.
In fact, we attach great importance to family here. Behind the formation of a young man and a woman is actually the marriage of the two families.
Both parents are unwilling to let go of their children and always want to interfere and participate in their children's marriage.
One thing, the more people get involved, the more troublesome things will be.
How many marriages are there? It is all due to the interference of elders. The young couple who were originally doing well were forced to break up.
But they will never understand:
Married children are already adults and can be responsible for their decisions.
But many parents are willing to let their children be giant babies forever.
To sum up three points:
Many couples in marriage have not been satisfied with their needs and do not understand each other. From the very beginning, marriage is based on the exchange of material interests. Naturally, they will become more and more frustrated, and the more they look at each other, they will be disliked.
Gradually, various diseases are found, forming a pathological marriage model.
Discussion:
After getting married, do you feel your health is getting better or worse?
Does marriage bring you happiness or pain?
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