When a person enters a "breaking state", his subconscious reaction is not to forget, not to escape, but to "repay".
For the party who is broken up, the failed relationship often makes them fall into a psychological state of self-blame, inferiority, and low self-esteem.
Someone said: The best way to forget your ex is time and a new love.
If a person is always addicted to the past, unwilling to accept the status quo, and unwilling to live his own life well, it means that he has not forgotten his ex.
So, what will happen if you completely let go of your current situation?
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’s attitude towards you is like facing a “stranger”
Really letting go of someone is not to ignore him, but to forget from the heart.
is probably:
Even if you walk along with the other side, there will not be too much emotional fluctuation, and you just treat the other side as a stranger.
What posture do we take when facing strangers?
of course "maintaining sufficient safe distance".
For example:
When you are waiting for the bus outside, you will deliberately keep some distance from the people around you, which will make you feel safe.
If you are too close to strangers, you will be irritable and anxious.
Ex-wives forget you, and this is the same attitude.
It will no longer forget you, nor will it pay too much attention to your life, but just silently hides you in your heart, not remembering you or recalling you.
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no longer disturbs your life
This reminds me of a consulting case.
After the girl broke up with her boyfriend, the boy pestered her for several months.
Later, in order to get rid of the boy's entanglement, she quit her job, moved out of the rental house, and returned to her hometown to develop.
She thought that not deleting the other party after breaking up was a respect; but the boy's excessive entanglement made her feel stressed.
"Since you have broken up, why do you still disturb my life?"
There is a saying:
"A qualified ex should disappear from the other party's life."
does not disturb, no longer contact, even if you miss it, you just digest this longing alone.
To put it another way:
If you always pester your ex and disturb your ex's life after breaking up, then he will only hate you more and more.
Your hard work will not only not change your ex, but will instead exhaust his little affection for you.
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The opposite of love is "indifference"
Some people say: The opposite of love is hatred.
In fact, the opposite of love is indifference and indifferent.
You suddenly discovered:
Just separated, the ex always pays attention to your life, your current situation, and all your social platforms.
But after breaking up for a while, he no longer disturbs you, as if he suddenly disappeared from your life, just like this person has never been here.
Out of curiosity, if you contact him on your own initiative, the news will be like a rock sinking into the sea and you will not get any response.
Actually, this is the manifestation of your ex forgetting you.
In love, the other person's indifference is enough to explain all the problems.
Just like some people are used to ending a relationship by "cold treatment", their indifference is to send you a signal that "I don't love you anymore".
And in social relationships, indifference is also a straightforward reply:
means that the relationship between you ends here.
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Love breakup is one of the most painful experiences for adults
I read a study and the point mentioned in it is:
When people are heartbroken, the pain is real.
And, some people's pain during a broken heart will deepen over time, constantly amplifying the status of their ex in their hearts.
Every adult may experience a broken heart.
I can’t love but cannot get it, it is a kind of helplessness.
But compared to loving each other, we should learn to "let go".
There is a concept in psychology called "crocodile effect".
A person is bitten by a crocodile's leg. The more he struggles, the more fierce the crocodile bites it; at this time, if he does not abandon this leg in time, he may pay more. The same is true in love.
When it breaks, break and stop the loss in time to avoid causing more losses in the future.
Instead of being obsessed with the past, it is better to seize the present and welcome the future.
Today's topic:
Have you put down your ex?
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