Text/Ukiyoe t An old classmate who I had not seen for a long time told me the story of her mother one afternoon. After listening to it, I felt overwhelmed and couldn't calm down for a long time. I instantly thought of my parents, who are nearly octogenarian, and each of us. What

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An old classmate who I had not seen for a long time told me the story of her mother one afternoon. After hearing this, my heart was turned upside down and I could not calm down for a long time.

I instantly thought of my parents, who are nearly octogenarians, and each of us. What should we do if one day we become old and sick?

The classmate said slowly that her parents were both senior intellectuals and worked in public institutions. He has a brother who is out of town.

After their parents retired, their lives went smoothly.

But the old man was old after all. One night in winter, the weather was very cold. Her mother accidentally caught a cold and felt hot all over. I don’t know what kind of cold medicine she took. After a while, she fell unconscious. She was so scared. She and her father quickly called 120 and sent their mother to the hospital.

Thanks to the timely rescue, her mother saved her life.

But what people didn’t expect was that her mother’s brain was broken and she became a vegetative state . When someone called her, she could only move her eyes but couldn’t do anything else. She lay straight on the hospital bed.

Seeing my mother like this, my classmates didn’t know what to do and could only listen to the doctor’s arrangements. After

stayed in the hospital for a period of time, the doctor suggested that let her mother go home or go to a nursing home for recuperation.

My classmate has to go to work on time and take care of her children to go to school. Her brother works out of town and cannot help. Her father is old and sick, so it would be good if she can take care of herself.

Suddenly there is a new patient at home. My classmate is at a loss as to what to do.

Finally, under the persuasion of a well-meaning friend, she had no choice but to send her mother to a nursing home and find two day and night shift nurses to take care of her mother.

When she has some free time, she goes to the nursing home to visit her mother. In this way, she rushes back and forth between the nursing home, her work and her family.

She was too busy by herself, so she had to find a caregiver for help. Although she paid high daily care fees, it was worth it for her father.

She told me that her parents had a very good relationship. Her father could not accept it psychologically when he saw his wife suddenly turning into a vegetative state. cried every day, hoping that his wife would wake up one day and still be like a normal person. He talked and laughed, and they happily enjoyed their wonderful retirement life together.

The old man's wishes are beautiful, but the reality is often not satisfactory.

was like this, one year, two years, three years... it was unimaginable that after 's long wait, her dream finally came to nothing. Five years later, her vegetative mother finally left them forever.

Five years is a long time. During the five years when my mother was bedridden, my classmates were busy all day long, running back and forth between the nursing home, work and home. They experienced so much care and reluctance in their hearts that outsiders cannot empathize with them.

Because of overwork, her black hair turned into white hair unknowingly.

After listening to her mother’s story before her death, I felt mixed emotions in my heart.

When people are old and sick, they are very fragile and cannot withstand hardships.

If the life of a loved one has counted down, what should we do to make him feel no pain and uneasiness in his last days, and leave him peacefully and peacefully?

In addition, there are many people around us who are suffering from incurable diseases . In the days after diagnosis, their bodies and minds are suffering. They go to the hospital to receive chemotherapy and radiotherapy, or they should go home and use mild treatments to spend their lives slowly. What about the last moments?

If you are facing these problems now, how will you choose?

Ohno Yuko, a 72-year-old Japanese female, suffers from uterine tumors, effusion in both lungs, ascites and other diseases. The doctor told her that would only live for 5 days if she left the hospital.

Now, five years have passed since Ms. Ohno was discharged from the hospital, and she is still living well.

What is the reason for this?

It turned out that when Ohno was hospitalized, the doctor once told her that if you stay in the hospital, you can live for one month, but if you are discharged, you may only live for 5 days.

But even so, she still wants to go home, because she is worried about her son , who has visual impairment, and is waiting for her alone at home. She is worried about her son being alone at home, for fear that something will happen to him. Oh, I pity you, the parents in the world. where!

When she was hospitalized, the doctor used two automatic suction machines to extract pleural effusion from her every day. Each time, 600 ml of fluid was extracted from the two pleural cavities.

For seriously ill patients like Ohno, doctors will not easily discharge them because the hospital shoulders the obligation and responsibility of "saving the patient's life" and they will repeatedly weigh the timing and pros and cons of discharge for the patient.

Under such circumstances, Ohno's sister had no choice but to turn to Dr. Ogasawara , hoping that he would help find a solution.

In order to satisfy Ohno's wish and allow her to be discharged smoothly, Ogasawara led seven staff members from the internal medicine clinic to the hospital to discuss with the attending doctor.

They assured the hospital, : If the patient feels that the hospital is better when she goes home, we will send her back immediately.

With the promise, Ms. Ohno returned home as she wished, receiving home hospice care from Dr. Ogasawara.

The so-called home hospice care refers to helping patients achieve a "safe, carefree and cheerful life at home. About 30% of them will also prolong their life.

Based on Ohno's current physical condition, Dr. Ogasawara decided to reduce the amount of fluid rehydration and Daye's water intake was reduced to one-fifth of the original amount, and her calories were reduced to one-tenth. After Daye's stomach became empty, she could eat by herself, and the edema all over her body also subsided and her breathing became smooth. She was very happy, with a bright face. She showed a long-lost smile.

Ohno's health gradually improved, and more importantly, she was able to stay with her son again, which made her feel at ease and cheerful.

Five days after being discharged from the hospital, she regained her energy and was in good condition. .

One month later, Ohno could go to the yard to bask in the sun.

Two months later, she was able to work in the fields.

Four years and ten months after she was discharged, her tumor marker CA125 was measured. The "2040" when she first started receiving home hospice care dropped to "9".

Ms. Ohno was very happy. She said: "If I went to that world, I wouldn't be able to talk and laugh with everyone like I do now. , now, as long as can live in the present, I will be very happy! ”

I really didn’t expect that this patient, who was judged by the hospital to have only five days to live if he left the hospital, miraculously lived an additional four years and 10 months, and his body has basically recovered.

The reason why Ms. Ohno has gained so much The results are thanks to the support and help of the Ogasawara team of doctors

Fumio Ogasawara was born in Gifu Prefecture, Japan in 1948. He is a doctor of medicine and the president of the Japan Home Hospice Care Association. He is a special associate professor of the Nagoya University School of Medicine and the clinical department of the Gifu University School of Medicine. Visiting Professor .

He has been engaged in home care for more than 30 years, and has provided home hospice care experience to more than 1,500 patients, including more than 100 people living alone, with a home death rate of 95%.

He has been committed to home hospice. To popularize medical care, he called "living happily and dying peacefully" as "a gratifying death"

. So, he wrote his many years of personal practice and understanding into this book "Happy Death". "The End of Life".

After this book was published in June 2017, it aroused great response and resonance in the seriously aging Japanese society and became a best-seller.

He won Japan's 16th Healthy Society Award, which is recognition of his career in home hospice care.

"Life is as gorgeous as summer flowers, and death is as quiet and beautiful as autumn leaves."

Life from the beginning to the end is a process that life must go through. Man himself is a living organism in nature, and he will eventually return to the earth.

Population aging is an inevitable trend. China has entered an aging society. People over 60 years old account for 18.7% of the total population, and people over 65 years old account for 13.5%.

Another factor that affects human health and life span is disease, mainly cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases and cancer . Three million patients die from cancer every year.

In real life, people often like to talk about issues about life and death, but they are taboo about talking about death and dying. However, the death of will not slow down because of taboos and fear, it will still come.

When the end of life comes, how should we face it calmly? The question

is worth thinking about for everyone.

In "A Glorious Death", Dr. Ogasawara, president of the Japan Home Hospice Care Association, uses his own 46 home death stories to provide us with a choice of death methods - in oneself Leave the place you like calmly and happily in your own way, so that your loved ones can say goodbye with peace of mind.

The book conveys a concept: if the deceased can die full of hope, contentment, and no worries, even if the separation is sad, the family can still send each other off with a smile. This is the "happy death".

If a person can truly understand the "joy of death", it should be an extremely happy thing.

hopes that through the book "A Gratifying Death", more people can understand hospice and palliative care, so that dying becomes gratifying and life comes and goes more calmly.

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