Although it is said that women can help their younger brothers. But don't go too far, otherwise divorce will definitely be waiting for you. Just like the woman in the article, you are undoubtedly ruining your marriage by doing this. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how good your family is, you will destroy it.
hopes that through this case all women will pay attention. Don't do this again. It's okay to help your brother, but you must be measured. What is going on? Why is this happening? Let's take a look at this matter. When I came back from get off work, my savings were gone. My wife said she had advanced my salary to buy a house for my brother. I said, "Get out."
case story sharer,
33-year-old Mr. Song:
Many people say that I should not impulsively choose divorce. Even my mother said so. My mother said to me, is it easy for me to raise you by myself? Your father divorced me. I also impulsively agreed. What happened in the end? How hard it has been for us over the years.
If I had not divorced your father at that time, maybe this would not be the case. When I divorced your father, you were at least a teenager. But how old is your child now? If you divorce your wife, what will your child do?
Don’t forget that you have two children. If you and your wife divorce, I'm sure your children will suffer much more than you did when you were a child. By then, you will have grown up a little, and at least you will be sensible. Those children are still so young, do you think they can understand you? And you are still so young, you will definitely need to find another partner in the future.
Who did you live with? Didn’t you live with someone? Why can't you live with your wife? Isn't it good to live with your wife? Living with your wife is the best outcome for the family and you. If you are with someone else, it will not only be your children but also you who will be affected. And I won’t tell you how difficult it is to find a wife now, but you also know that there is an obvious gap between more men than women.
Divorce is really not possible. You will definitely regret it after the divorce. Have you forgotten the pain of childhood? At that time, those people bullied you for not having a father. When you don’t have money to buy something, I don’t have the money to give you if you ask me for money. Do you still remember that helplessness? Forget it, for the sake of the children. But for yourself.
I don’t know what to say. I think I have to choose divorce, so today I will do this. Please help me comment. If it were you, what would you do? Faced with this matter, shouldn’t we choose divorce? I have been married to my wife for 5 years, and we have two children. Everything is there.
I was quite happy, but one time I couldn't bear to go home. That was half a month ago. My wife and I have been separated for half a month now. I came back from get off work half a month ago. It seemed to me that my wife was not at home at that time. This is strange. It's almost 12 o'clock now. Where is my wife not at home?
I told my wife where are you? The children are hungry and I am back. Where are you going? My wife doesn't have to go to work, so she just cooks at home honestly. Even if you want to go out, you have to tell me. Tell me, I'll come back early to cook, so that the children don't have to go hungry.
My wife told me, I forgot to tell you about this, I have something to do. Now on the way back, I'll be home soon. You cook first. Whatever you want to eat, I'll buy some later. Then there is no need to stir-fry later. I was speechless for a moment, and he didn’t talk to me when he went out.
At that time, I was thinking, what is it that makes my wife so anxious? What is more important than children? If you have to go out at this time, why can't you wait until after dinner? Or should I go out earlier and come back to cook? I really couldn’t understand it, and my wife didn’t tell me.
I wanted to ask something else, but my wife went to hang up the phone. After hanging up the phone I received a message.I discovered that my deposit was gone. I haven’t bought a house yet. The house I live in now was assigned by my employer. If I stop working here, the house will be taken back unless I work here until retirement.
I have also saved a lot of money, which I plan to use to buy a house, about 400,000 in total. After hanging up the phone, the message told me that all my deposits had been withdrawn. What is going on? Why is the money automatically withdrawn? Where did the money go? The more I thought about it, the more I felt there was something wrong, but I didn't know what it was. I'm really anxious.
At this moment, I suddenly thought of something. My wife just told me that she was out. What could possibly make my wife so anxious? Could it be that my wife took out the money? I quickly called my wife. I told my wife that it was just 10 minutes ago. The bank sent me a message saying that our deposit has been withdrawn.
Did you withdraw our deposit? Ten minutes ago, you told me that you had something to do outside. Could it be that you took the money away? I'm just guessing. But my wife told me to wait until I get back to talk about it. The signal here is not good right now.
It’s not that the signal is bad, it’s just that my wife doesn’t want to tell me. What else do I want to ask, but my wife hangs up the phone again. But I can be sure that this matter is related to my wife, otherwise my wife would not be anxious. After all, 400,000 is all we have, and now it is gone all of a sudden.
If this matter has nothing to do with my wife. My wife would definitely be very anxious, but now my wife is not anxious at all. Instead, she will tell me when she comes back. That means that this matter is related to my wife, and it is very likely that my wife took out the money. Then the problem comes. My wife has nothing to worry about in this house. She has everything.
Then why does my wife want to withdraw the money? Where did you take the money? I was planning to use it to buy a house. It’s almost enough for the down payment of a house. Do you still want to buy a house now that you have no money? The more I think about it, the angrier I get. Then I advised myself not to think so much. Let’s wait until my wife comes back first.
About half an hour later, my wife came back and I had finished cooking by then. After my wife came back, I quickly asked him what was going on. I told my wife, you just told me to talk about it later, so you can tell me now, where did our savings go? That's 400,000.
My wife told me that she was just about to tell you about this. You see, I gave birth to your child and took care of you and the child. Do you want to compensate me? If you hire a nanny to take care of you at home, it will cost you at least 5,000 yuan a month. Then I said to my wife, what’s wrong? Isn't this what you should do?
You are my wife, I support you. I give you money every month to spend, give birth to my child, and then take care of the child, isn’t it right? Also, this child is not mine alone, it is our common child. Shouldn't I help take care of it? I also want to take care of my children, but I have to go to work to make money. If I don’t work, where will I get the money?
My wife told me that you have money from work, but I have no money. So I think you should give me some compensation. I'm so helpless. I helplessly told my wife, should you just take away the 400,000 yuan, and then regard the 400,000 yuan as your compensation first?
Unexpectedly, my wife almost told me, you are really smart, you knew it before I even told me. That's it. Look, if you hire a nanny, it costs 5,000 a month or 60,000 a year. I only took away 400,000, so it’s just an advance salary. It won’t cost 400,000 to be with you for a few years. But I will always be with you from now on, and I will take care of you and your family.
So you have to give me money. I paid 400,000 in advance.I will still take care of you and live a good life with you in the future... Before my wife could finish speaking, I interrupted her and told my wife, didn't I just tell you? The child is not just my child, and the family is not just my family, it is your family, and it is your child.
Why should I be the only one to bear the responsibility? Also, I usually give you pocket money. Why do you need so much money? You still told me 5,000 per month? Do you really think you are working at home? It's hard work for you at home, but there's no need to give so much.
Where did you get the money? What do you want with such a lot of money? My wife was not happy to hear me say this. Then he said to me unhappily, is 5,000 yuan a lot? 5,000 yuan is not much at all, okay? It must be useful for me to ask for money. The money can be regarded as an advance on my salary, 5,000 a month. If you let a nanny take care of you, wouldn't it be enough to pay 5,000 yuan a month, let alone let the nanny sleep with you?
Do you think the nanny agrees? I definitely don't agree with it. I only agreed with it because of your wife. So it’s okay if you give me 5,000 a month. I have bought a house for my brother before, but my brother is still close to buying a house because he has no money. So I helped, and I gave all the 400,000 to my brother.
Don't think you have lost. You have never lost. If I take care of you for 5,000 a month and a year, I will be able to save 400,000 and pay it back to you in just a few years. dont you agree? Besides, he is my brother and your brother-in-law.
We are all a family, and we must help each other if we have problems. Isn’t my brother’s matter your matter? He is my brother and your brother-in-law. We are all a family, so don’t think it’s too much to say that we have to help each other. I didn't tell you this because I knew you didn't agree.
That’s why I will kill it first and then tell it later. And you didn’t suffer any loss. I will live a good life with you from now on. You just think that if you find a nanny, it will cost thousands of dollars a month, so you might as well give me the money and I will take care of you and give birth to your child. You only give me 5,000 a month. 400,000 minus the previous money, the rest is considered as my advance payment.
will live with you from now on, and that money will be considered as future salary. I can't bear it anymore. When I told your wife, didn’t I make it very clear to you? This family is not just my family. It's your family. Go and get the money back quickly. You can’t get back even a cent of the 400,000 yuan, otherwise don’t blame me for divorcing you.
You have gone too far on this matter. My wife said to me, do you not want to live with me? Didn't I say that? I take care of you and give me 5,000 yuan a month. What's wrong? Is it much? I don’t think it’s much. You also want to divorce me. If you insist on divorce, then divorce.
After my wife and I got into a fight over this matter, no one gave in to anyone else. Later, my wife took the children back to her parents' home and insisted on getting a divorce. He also said that I don’t love him anymore. Unless I can accept this, I won't come back. This is how things are. Faced with this matter, shouldn't I choose to divorce? Is it wrong for me to choose divorce?
Conclusion:
Faced with this matter, if it were me, I would do the same. To put it bluntly, your wife doesn’t care about you at all. What your wife cares about is his brother. If your wife cares about you, she won't threaten you with this matter. 400,000 can do a lot of things.
And your wife actually gave all the money back for her brother, and she said she was talking about an advance on salary. Your wife takes care of the family and earns 5,000 yuan a month. You have taken care of him and made money for your wife. Why don't you see your wife giving you 8,000 yuan a month, or 5,000 yuan a month? Has your wife given you money? You give him pocket money and support him, but you don't let him work.
This is already very good, but he still wants you to give him 5,000 yuan a month. Your wife does not regard you as her own at all.Since your wife doesn't treat you as one of her own, just get a divorce and it will be over. If you don't divorce your wife, these tragedies will still happen in the future. Today I will advance my salary to my brother-in-law to buy a car, a house and get married.
Should I advance my salary to support my brother-in-law tomorrow, or should I advance my salary to support my father-in-law and mother-in-law in their old age? If so again. Do you want to live your life, so you must choose divorce? Not only do you want a divorce, but you also want to get back everything that belongs to you. I hope this case can make all women pay attention.
