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Letter from readers:
Once upon a time, I particularly believed in love and felt that love is omnipotent. With the blessing of love, I can accomplish anything, and my life will definitely be rich and colorful.
Now, I can no longer believe in love, because love is made up of people, but if mortals are wrong, everything will go wrong.
Although my personal love cannot represent everyone, although there are many people who are very happy in love, and many people love the right person, but others are others, I am me, and I seem to never meet the right person again .
Just paying for a relationship has exhausted almost all the feelings. Moreover, when the relationship ended, I was already middle-aged, and my life circle became very narrow. It was difficult for me to even meet a new friend, and even more so. Don't talk about meeting a lover.
My tragedy is due to my ex-wife.
We started falling in love the year we graduated from college. The years we worked after graduation were the best years of our relationship. We work hard together, save money together, and pave the way for our future life together.
Later, when the time was right, we got our wish and entered the palace of marriage. Everything went smoothly, including the birth of the next child, which went exactly according to our plan.
However, since the birth of the child, she had no time to take care of the child at home, and our marriage began to have problems.
I always hear people say that it is very hard for women to raise children. They have many trivial things to do and have no time to do other things. I thought she should be the same, so I worked harder to make more money and make her life easier.
However, the reality is different from what I imagined. She did not devote herself to taking care of the children, but was busy making friends online, so there was the tragedy of her betrayal of me and her abandonment of me and the children for an online friend.
After her secret was exposed by me, she did not hide it, but openly admitted everything she had done, and made it clear that she wanted to divorce me: "Don't worry, I won't let you suffer, I will clean it up." When you leave home, you will leave your children and house to you. I don’t need it anyway. That person has everything, and he can really make me happy.”
I was very angry at first, but when I heard that we were getting divorced, I gave up. It was a very strange feeling. I didn't dare to blame her anymore, and I didn't dare to make the decision to divorce. I just wanted her to stay because the child was still young and it would be very bad without a mother around..
But she insisted on getting a divorce and didn't even listen to her parents. My mother kindly tried to persuade her, but she even humiliated her, saying that my mother was not a good mother-in-law: "Don't you just want me to stay in your family to help the poor? Keep it. Go ahead and deceive fools! I won't fall for you again!"
She couldn't keep her, and I loved face and didn't want the family scandal to be publicized, so I agreed to the divorce.
Frankly speaking, I was in a lot of pain when I was just divorced, and I was lucky, hoping that she would suddenly realize her conscience and come back to me and my children. However, my wish has never been realized .
Although my mother helps take care of the child, the child is still young. The effect of grandma taking care of the child is very different from that of mother taking care of the child. However, there is nothing I can do.
The more I feel sorry for my children, the more I hate my ex-wife, feeling that she has messed up everything. I told myself that I couldn't miss her anymore, I had to completely break up with her, and then spend all my time on my future life..
I didn’t expect that she would come back to me to remarry, but even if she did, I didn’t want to remarry her because I have mysophobia, and my mysophobia only targets her. After all, she hurt me too deeply.
I told her clearly: "I don't want the garbage that other people don't want! When you insisted on getting a divorce, you should have thought of this ending! "
Although my rejection made me feel relieved, but after the resentment was resolved, I feel so lost because my life is not getting better. How I wish someone would come to me and give me a hand! However, such a person has never appeared. My life has always been hard and I am very anxious. I don’t know when this hard life will end, even if someone gives me a clear time!
Donglin Xiting Emotional suggestions:
Victor Hugo's "Les Misérables ": "I would rather rely on my own strength to open up my future than ask for the favor of a powerful person."
From a psychological point of view, Everyone hopes to be supported by noble people and favored by powerful people. However, such good opportunities are rare. For people who never have the support of noble people, it is better to give up their delusions as early as possible. Otherwise, if they want something but cannot get it, they will only make themselves suffer.
The reader finally said that he was anxious and wanted to be helped, but in fact he had delusions. Although people will inevitably have this kind of thinking when they are at a low point, it is better not to be too persistent, otherwise you will dream of being supported by noble people, but when you wake up, you will continue to face the cruel reality, which will only deepen your anxiety. .
Whether it is the path you choose, or your life is in trouble because of the destruction of others, when the facts are before your eyes, the only thing you can do is to accept the reality, change what can be changed, and accept what cannot be changed.
Don’t always think about what you lack, think more about what you can do with what you have. Don't always be anxious because your life is in trouble, learn to look at the problem from another perspective: if your life is not going well right now, it just means that there is a lot of room for improvement, and you just need to grit your teeth and persevere.
These principles also apply to his ex-wife. She originally insisted on getting a divorce and marrying her true love. She wanted to be a wealthy man, which was also a manifestation of her desire to be supported by noble people. It's a pity that the noble man she identified is not a real noble man, but a scumbag who can talk sweet words, otherwise he would not abandon her.
She went back to her ex-husband to remarry, which was also a sign of her hope to be supported by a noble person. But given what she had done in the past, her failure to remarry was already doomed. It can be said that her life difficulties after the failed remarriage were similar to those of her ex-husband. Since two people can't start over, they can only live their own lives and be happy.
