There is a saying circulating in the world: Men are not bad, women do not love them.
Pictures are from the TV series "Crazy Cleveland"
In fact, this sentence also applies to women. It is becoming more and more to find that "good women" in the standard sense are not cherished by men, while those women who are a little bit of good deeds are easily coaxed and distressed by men.
From male psychology analysis, why do I advise you not to be a "good woman" after middle age?
01
movie " July and Ansheng ", July and Ansheng are friends with very different personalities.
Ansheng is unique and follows the rules in July.
Ansheng is a wild child without anyone's care, and July is a gentle and kind lady.
Ansheng has no education and no job, his work is stable in July, his original family is good, and he is very filial.
Su Jiaming is engaged to July, but he loves not July, but the Ansheng who is incompatible with the standards of "good girl" and never wants to "sansheng".
July knew that Jiaming had cheated. Looking at the colorful underwear in the bathroom, she pulled her clothes open and cried: "Jiaming likes me, Jiaming likes me likes me. "
picture from the movie "July and Ansheng"
July represents a kind of "good woman" in the secular sense.
They dress conservatively and old, and taking care of their husbands and children is all the focus of life.
They think that family is their most important career, they are dedicated to giving their men, and they want them to eat, drink, and sleep well. No matter what mistakes a man makes, they will take the mistakes on themselves.
Because such a woman is so good, she doesn’t have to worry about it, and it also makes him not know how to cherish it.
For men, a "good woman" like July is like a string wrapped tightly in her hands, while Ansheng is like a kite that is far and near, a bit mysterious, a little challenging, and mixed with a little sense of conquest.
02
In " Ode to Joy ", Qu Xiaoxiao and Guan Juer both fell in love with Dr. Zhao.
Whether in terms of family background, personality, or appearance, we all think that Dr. Zhao and Guan Juer were born together. Perhaps people who are too similar are destined to be unable to get together. Dr. Zhao likes Qu Xiaoxiao.
Guan Juer is gentle and considerate, a standard lady, but it always makes people feel that it lacks some interest and less of the taste of life.
Qu Xiaoxiao is sure that she likes Dr. Zhao, and will express her likes bluntly and strongly, will boldly kiss Dr. Zhao outside the door, and will take Dr. Zhao to the bar. These are things that the mature and persistent Dr. Zhao has never experienced before.
The picture is from the TV series "Ode to Joy"
I feel curious because I have never experienced it; I feel fresh because I have never been exposed to it; I feel exciting because I have never indulged it. When curiosity, freshness and excitement are mixed together, love will certainly be born.
Qu Xiaoxiao was called a composing fairy. Perhaps in the mind of Doctor Zhao, the confusion, stimulation, novelty and joy brought by Qu Xiaoxiao is indeed a fairy-like existence.
In real life, there is a kind of good woman who is completely opposite to Qu Xiaoxiao. They never go to places like bars and nightclubs, and even when their husbands invite them to go, they will advise their husbands not to go to places that are not uncommon and crowded.
They never express their intimacy in public, they are standard virtuous wife and good mother .
They use sensible and mature to demand themselves, and do not make them look naive, first in the family, and second in the self-help .
But for men, they will feel that such women have no interest and are as bland as boiled water.
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There is also a kind of male psychology that thinks that women are too good, so that they have no room for display and lack a sense of value in marriage.
In the TV series "Where is My Home", Qin Yue and Han Suru are both teachers in colleges and universities. Han Suru has a decent job and is also very filial to her parents-in-law, and is even nicknamed the female elegy class monitor by netizens.
is such a good woman. She can’t tell any problems all over her body, and her husband Qin Yue still cheated on her.
picture from the TV series "Where is My Home"
Qin Yue's cheating even his brother can't stand it.
He said: My sister-in-law is so good, why do you want to find another woman?
Qin Yue said: Han Ru vegetarian is good everywhere, but it is just too good, but it is not as interesting as her. A good woman like
makes men feel that their wives are taking over in the family and have no place to use their own skills. They do not feel like they are needed, and this has become a reason for their cheating.
So, is more encouraged to be a little "bad" and a little "bandit-inspiring".
"bad" In terms of mentality, love yourself first, then love others, and put yourself before the family and men.
"bad" In action, spend less time on housework, spend more time creating your own image and enriching your soul.
"bad" In terms of thought, break out of the boundaries, have your own career, and cultivate your confidence.
To be honest, women who are lucky actually have a little bit of "bad".
