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people have to face many choices in their lives, and marriage should be the most important choice. When you enter marriage, you have endless beautiful imaginations and expectations for your future life.
However, the road to marriage is not smooth. Some couples start to doubt their original choices as they live, pushing all their mistakes on each other, and their lives are messy.
When the days are about to be settled, the marriage is coming to an end.
Most people who have been divorced have the following mentality: either they will not remarry or they will find someone who is stronger than before.
Indeed, who doesn’t want to be happy?
However, remarriage is the most difficult multiple-choice question. If you choose the right one, you will gain happiness. If you choose the wrong one, life will only make it worse.
A 53-year-old man married a 34-year-old woman in the second marriage. A year later, he became a nanny. What is the purpose?
Marriage is sacred, responsibility, responsibility, and not a person's business. The marriage cannot continue, and the first thing that comes to mind is divorce.
Will you remarry after divorce? The 51-year-old Deng Ge’s answer was very straightforward: not only do you have to remarry, but you also have to find a young one to remarry.
Group Deng divorced when he was 49 years old. He and his ex-wife have always been in small business.
What you make in a small business is small money and hard-earned money. Although you don’t make much money, you still live a good life, not as good as the top and more than the bottom.
They only have one daughter, because they are busy with business on weekdays, so they rarely care about their daughter’s studies. At the end of the period, after seeing their daughter's report card, the couple will have a big fight and blame each other. Especially when my daughter failed the college entrance examination, the couple even had a fight.
My daughter didn't want to study anymore, so she followed a relative to learn beauty.
Group Deng felt that his daughter was not promising enough, she lacked fighting spirit, had no intention of doing business, and she drank and played cards all day long, and she couldn't tolerate her wife saying a word.
Later, Brother Deng's wife became lazy. Gradually, the business could not continue and the marriage reached the cliff.
After their daughter got married, the two agreed to divorce.
After Deng divorced, he chose to do business and rented a shop to sell children's clothing.
Life alone is free and easy. You can spend whatever you earn. No one interferes with or obstructs it. It is very comfortable.
However, it is still very upsetting to have a life of eating alone and not hungry for the whole family. The idea of remarry began to rise strongly in the heart of Brother Deng.
He thought that he was not short of money. If he remarried, he would not say he would find someone who was more beautiful than his ex-wife, at least younger.
It turns out that soon, he dated a young woman named Xiaoqing.
Xiaoqing is 19 years younger than Brother Deng. She is divorced, has no fixed career, and has an 8-year-old son.
Gradually, Brother Deng fell in love with Xiaoqing and was willing to do his best to take care of Xiaoqing and his son. He proposed to get married, and Xiaoqing also agreed.
Brother Deng took out the money he had and bought a house belonging to him and Xiaoqing with a mortgage. On weekdays, Brother Deng picked up Xiaoqing's son to and from school, and then the couple ran a store.
The old couple’s life is very beautiful, which has attracted a lot of envious eyes. However, the good times did not last long. Xiaoqing was no longer satisfied with this ordinary life. She was dissatisfied with Brother Deng, saying that he had no ambitions and could not make a lot of money. For the sake of her son, she wants to go out to make money.
go out to make money, what should I do? When Brother Deng asked Xiaoqing this, the answer he got was: Since he had already obtained a marriage certificate, his son belonged to two people and could not be shirked.
Xiaoqing acted coquettishly in front of Brother Deng. After getting married for a year, she handed over her son to Brother Deng and went out with her friends to make money.
Group Deng picks up his son to and from school every day, opens the door to do business, is busy with housework, and provides homework. He is still thinking about Xiaoqing in his heart. After a day, he is exhausted.
When you buy goods, you have to ask someone to take care of your son. You are always worried, afraid that your son will have something to do.
If you are tired, you will be tired. Brother Deng is strong and can endure hardships, but he feels uncomfortable.From beginning to end, he didn't know what Xiaoqing did outside or what money he earned, because he didn't answer every time he called, and after that, Xiaoqing would call back. Brother Deng asked Xiaoqing the reason many times, either saying that he was busy or saying that he didn't hear it.
Group Deng is a father and a mother, it’s very hard. When he came back from a parent-teacher meeting that day, his son said that he was too old, not like his father but like his grandfather, and he was embarrassed and no longer allowed him to go to school.
That day, Brother Deng hid and sighed, married a young woman, fulfilled her wish, but lived a nanny life, without warmth, only fatigue, why?
is written at the end
Lu Yao wrote in "Ordinary World": "The reason why people suffer is because they pursue the wrong things. If you don't cause trouble for yourself, others will not cause trouble for you." Brother Deng remarried and found the person he loved, and he was so young. But he had married a young wife and became a nanny at home. He revolved around other people's son every day, and was worried that he would not take care of the child. Everyone who knew him said that he was asking for trouble and should not marry such a young woman.
Some people say that marriage and divorce are for a new beginning. This new beginning requires careful consideration and no sloppy. After decades of life, when he reaches Brother Deng's age, he really can't afford to make trouble.
However, marriage is chosen by yourself. No matter how you choose, don’t be in trouble with yourself, especially remarriage. After experiencing a failed marriage, you should be more cautious when remarrying. If you choose the right one, you will be happy for the rest of your life. If you choose the wrong one, you will be in great pain.
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