was chatting on WeChat with my son who is on the other side of the ocean today, and mentioned to him something his grandma told us a few days ago.
Grandma said that twenty years ago, my son’s cousin, her grandson, once gave my son 100 yuan. His cousin was in college at that time, and it was said that he made some money writing online novels.
I asked my son if this happened and gave him some reminders to help him remember. Unexpectedly, my son did not answer yes or no, but said, "Family political games."
's son has been abroad for more than ten years and is still single. I thought he would have little understanding of family relationships, but I didn't expect that this kid could say such a highly generalized word that hits the point directly. The word
is composed of three concepts. The first is family, which limits the nature of interpersonal relationships; the second is politics, which gives the family management method; and the third is game, which indicates the non-serious attribute. Taken together, it’s the unserious interactions of family members in a family setting in the manner of politicians.
This awkward concept solves some of the mysteries of family discord. Because the members of these families, mainly the heads of family with the highest authority, have transplanted the skills of controlling people in the officialdom and workplace into the family.
One is to bully the weak. Everyone uses their absolute strength to bully everyone, including their spouses, mentally or even physically.
The second is to form gangs. With the head of the family as the core, family members are divided into close and distant relationships, so that they can fight against each other as they please and achieve the goal of using one to control another.
The third is spreading rumors to cause trouble. He spreads some unsubstantiated rumors overtly and covertly, seemingly unintentionally, but in fact the drunkard's intention is not to drink, sowing the seeds of resentment in the hearts of his family members to highlight his transcendent and supreme status.
The fourth is to take credit and pass the blame. I try my best to take advantage of any good things at home. What I often say is "I told you so...". When there is trouble at home, not only does he not take responsibility, but he first averts responsibility. Instead of actively remediating, we strongly condemn as the incarnation of justice until the trouble is pushed out.
five is moral kidnapping . In order to show their absolute authority, they make trouble out of nothing and intensify conflicts, and then put a moral label on them so that no one dares to question them, and finally bow to them and admit their mistakes.
There are countless similar types of using the power tactics used in political battles in families. Friends are also invited to participate in the discussion.
After writing this, I can't help but feel a little emotional. This person born in the 1990s should not be underestimated. He used one word to clearly summarize the problems that have troubled me for decades. Why can he do this? I think it is nothing more than free thinking and independent spirit. Thinking of this, I feel very happy, because in the future his family will most likely escape the curse of family political games. Such a family must respect and love each other, be harmonious and happy.
