No matter how old you are, marriage is a very important thing for men and women.
When young people get married, they have the concerns and worries of young people; when old people get married, they also have their own considerations and worries.
People are social animals and need companionship. There is no doubt that remarriage will be more complicated than first marriage.
Men or women who have just been emotionally hurt may be very resistant to marriage and the opposite sex, but after a transition period, most people will have the desire to remarry and want to find a suitable person.
The first consideration when getting married is spiritual needs and life needs. Usually, elderly people choose to remarry for the sake of a comfortable life, so they raise many practical questions.
It is very difficult to satisfy all these practical problems, so these problems can easily become a stumbling block to remarriage.
When two people form a family, there is a problem of "eye compatibility". On the basis of seeing each other in the eye and then considering these various requirements, a large number of people will be screened out, and maybe even the person who meets your requirements. You don't have a chance to meet it.
Sister Wu wanted to remarry five years after her divorce. She had met no less than ten blind dates, but she had never met the one she wanted.
There is no story of bitterness and hatred between Sister Wu and her ex-husband. After thinking about it, the reason for divorce is just that they are not on good terms and the two of them cannot get along.
For example, even a small matter like doing laundry is worth a big quarrel between two people. As the days went by and we became more and more tired, we gave up and finally broke up peacefully.
Sister Wu had two good friends. One time, Sister Wu wanted to go on a trip, so she asked the two of them who was free to accompany her. The process turned out to be tortuous.
Sister Wu, who was originally planning to spend the rest of her life alone, was touched by this incident. I started to think more clearly and wanted to find a partner who could accompany me for the rest of my life.
What touched Sister Wu was that one of the two best friends had to take care of her own grandchildren, and the other was interested in seeing Sister Wu’s travel plan, but in the end she chose to go with her husband, leaving Sister Wu in the dark. aside.
The heart will be tempted, and the action will be the action. It is not an easy thing to find a satisfactory partner. After several blind dates, Sister Wu even wanted to give up.
Sister Wu’s personal conditions are not bad. Although she doesn’t earn much, her job is fairly stable, her temperament is cheerful and optimistic, and she looks younger than her actual age. But why didn’t Sister Wu’s blind date go smoothly? This starts with the three conditions she proposed for remarriage.
Sister Wu said that when she chooses a remarriage partner, she does not need a bride price or a house, but she needs to meet these three points:
The first point is to be healthy, have a financial foundation, and live a stress-free life
As the saying goes, a healthy beggar is better than a sick king. Happier. Good health is the foundation of everything. No one wants to become a caregiver and nanny just after getting married.
Sister Wu said that her physical condition is very good, and she hopes that the person she remarries will also have a good body. The two of them can go out to the park, travel, climb mountains, ride a bicycle, etc. together.
Rather than wanting to go out alone after marriage, there is a patient at home who worries about her.
Of course, if two people decide to get married and the other person has any physical discomfort, they can work hard to take care of it and adapt to it. But the premise is that the other party cannot deceive you about his health status.
One of my sisters was deceived by a remarried man. The man said that he was in good health, but his old illness relapsed two years after the marriage. It turns out that there is a genetic history in the man's family, but these men did not disclose it before marriage.
In addition to a healthy body, an important component of marriage is basic material security. Sister Wu said that she can be financially self-sufficient, but her husband must be stronger than her financial situation.
In this way, the survival and life of two people do not have too much pressure. After all, there are too many cases where the relationship between two people has broken down due to financial disputes.
Sister Wu also admitted that she remarried not to endure hardship. At least after remarriage, her living conditions should not be lower than when she was single.
The second point is to run a life together, be able to do housework together, and treat yourself wholeheartedly.
Sister Wu said that she suffered a lot in her previous marriage. What often happens at home is that I am extremely busy, while my ex-husband is drinking tea with his feet up beside me.
Therefore, after remarriage, the two people must run their lives together and be able to think about the family together, rather than one person contributing unilaterally.
Now that I have reached a certain age, I have no unrealistic needs. I just hope that the man can treat me equally, and that the two of them can share the housework and handle things together.
Many people think that doing housework, taking care of children, and other things within the household are the work that women should do. If there was a man with such thoughts, Sister Wu said that she would never consider it.
A family must be cohesive. Only by paying more for this family can we have more care and responsibility for this family.
The key factor in forming a family at the same time is self-discipline, not only in life, but also in emotions. Sister Wu requires the man to be single-minded in his relationship and to treat himself wholeheartedly.
For those men who have too many confidantes and friends of the opposite sex, no matter how good they are, they will not be considered by themselves.
Now that I have broken the original confinement, figured it out, and decided to remarry, I want someone to accompany me for the rest of my life, so I cannot accept the turmoil of marriage and giving up halfway.
The third point is that she hopes that her remarriage partner will be more generous and provide financial assistance for her only son's marriage.
Sister Wu said frankly that her request may be unfair to the man, but it is her actual difficulty and cannot be avoided. .
Sister Wu has a boy from her previous marriage who is 25 years old and has just graduated from college. The child was awarded to her ex-husband. Originally, Sister Wu's ex-husband had a good financial situation and ran a small company of his own.
Sister Wu said that apart from her emotional care for her son, she did not pay much materially. There is no need to worry too much about financial issues.
Things are unpredictable. Sister Wu’s ex-husband fell ill the year before last. Although he was rescued in time, he basically no longer had the energy to run the company.
Moreover, during the two or three months of hospitalization and recuperation, a big business was delayed and I had to pay liquidated damages. Gradually, the company's management was not good. Not only was the capital chain broken, but it also owed a large amount of money.
My ex-husband sold the wedding house he prepared for his son, and the company also disposed of it. With his own savings, he could barely survive the crisis.
Sister Wu predicts that her son will get married in three or four years. Now it is difficult to find a wife without a house. Therefore, I hope that the remarried husband can do his best to help appropriately.
This is the knot in Sister Wu’s heart. I hope someone can help to untie it. Of course, the other party does not need to bear all the costs. Sister Wu also has savings and is preparing to sell her existing house.
Sister Wu said that if she needs some help from others, she will also remember the kindness others have done to her and do her best to repay it.
I don’t know what everyone thinks about Sister Wu’s three requests for remarriage.
PS: Do you think Sister Wu will be able to find a partner that will satisfy her and truly accept her?
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