Marriage requires mutual understanding and tolerance from both parties, rather than blindly blaming each other's faults. When the husband has shortcomings, the wife should guide him to correct his mistakes and let the marriage continue, instead of using divorce to solve all problems. A man named Bo said that he and his wife had been married for more than a year, and his wife refused to live as a couple. Now she lives in her natal family and wants a divorce. He hopes his emotional teacher can help him persuade his wife to come back.
Bo is 30 years old this year. He and his wife Yan got married through a matchmaker. They have been married for a year and a half, but for most of that time, the wife has lived at her parents' house. Not long ago, my wife took all her things away with her parents and filed for divorce. Bo said that he and his wife have been married for so long and he has never touched her once, which makes him feel that this marriage is very frustrating. The emotional teacher said: "She has lived in her house for a year and a half. Didn't she live with you for a day?" Bo said: "I have lived there several times, but I have never been allowed to touch it."
Then Bo took us there Where Yan works. When asked about the fact that the two have not had sex for a long time after marriage, Yan said: "How dare you say, do you think it's because I don't let you touch me even once, or because you are incompetent or stupid? You say it yourself." In Emotions Under pressure from the teacher, Bo admitted that his wife had asked him to touch her several times, but without success. Later, his wife stayed at her parents' home. Yan said: "It's my fault that I've been married for more than a year. I won't let you touch it, okay."
When asked why he often goes back to his parents' home, Yan said: "Ask him what his attitude is towards me. Do you think of me as your daughter-in-law? On the second day of the wedding, he asked me about the 50,000 yuan gift. He said that the gift was borrowed money and he had to pay it back. I said that I would pay it back now that he was divorced. He stopped talking. He said every day that I spent his money and took advantage of his family. Why did I go to your house to take advantage of it? Why did I spend my money? What’s wrong?”
When the teacher persuaded Yan to go home, Yan said that after more than a year of marriage, they always quarreled. Now she has no feelings for her husband and is tired of his home. Yan felt that she had never quarreled with her parents-in-law at home, nor had she shown her face, but her husband criticized her everywhere and she really did not want to continue this marriage.
The emotional teacher said to Yan: "I listened to your conversation. In fact, there is not much conflict between you. Bo is still a very honest person. He can easily hurt others with his words, but after all, he has never hit you once. Bo has consummated the marriage. Knowing nothing, it shows that he is not a romantic. You should be more considerate of him and give him more opportunities." But no matter how the emotional teacher persuaded Yan, she still insisted on divorce.
Seeing that Yan really didn't want to compromise, the relationship teacher had no choice but to negotiate for their divorce. Bo asked the other party to return the bride price of 50,000 yuan and the wedding expenses of more than 10,000 yuan. Yan only wants to refund the bride price and does not want to bear the wedding expenses. In the end, Yan returned the bride price of 38,000 yuan, and the two parties signed a divorce agreement.
Faced with Yan's choice, some people said that she went too far. After all, she should be a good wife when she gets married and should not dislike her husband's incompetence. Moreover, it is normal to quarrel and quarrel in marriage, but it is unacceptable for your husband to nag you. Even if she finds another family, she may not be able to integrate into the new family. I don’t know if you think it’s reasonable for a woman to divorce?
