Wen丨Tao Xiaojing, the spring breeze is not as good as yours, Xiaojing is here, waiting for you! 01Writer Yamada Muneki wrote this sentence in the book "The Life of the Disliked Matsuko": "A person will meet many people in his life, but truly beautiful encounters are rare." He dee

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The spring breeze is not as good as you, Xiaojing is here, waiting for you!

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Writer Yamada MunekiIn the book "The Life of the Disliked Matsuko", he wrote this sentence:

"A person will meet many people in his life, but truly beautiful encounters are rare. "

deeply believes that countless encounters in life almost always end in tragedy.

Even lovers who are in love without doubt, and couples who are committed to life and death, will take different paths due to various problems in life.

This is not only the normal state of life, but also the law of life development. Although it is difficult to accept, there is nothing we can do about it.

There are many encounters, and they are beautiful at first, like blooming flowers, charming and fragrant.

As the time spent together increases and we understand each other more thoroughly, many problems gradually become apparent.

These problems may seem to have little impact, but they invisibly create resentment. When the dislike becomes more and more intense, separation becomes inevitable.

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No one wants to be disliked by others, no one wants to face separation, but how do you know if others dislike you?

It is actually easy to tell whether a person dislikes you. Even if he didn't say it explicitly, you could hear the disgust in some of his other words.

observed that if a person often says these words, it is obvious that he dislikes you, so don't ask for trouble.

"Can you please stop bothering me"

If a person says "leave me alone" to you, then he may be busy working and doesn't want to be disturbed.

But if a person often says to you "Can you please stop bothering me", it means that he has begun to dislike you.

Adding the words "can you" seems to be discussing with you, but in fact it reflects his intolerance.

He really doesn’t want to be disturbed by you, but he can’t stop you, so he can only complain to you about his dissatisfaction with you in a helpless tone.

If you hear this sentence once or twice, you don’t need to pay too much attention to it, but if you hear it all the time, then you should wake up in time.

You have to know that if a person often says "can you please stop bothering me", it is clear that he dislikes you. No matter how thick-skinned you are, you should not ask for trouble.

Not stalking others when they hate you is the best respect for others and the best protection for yourself.

"You don't understand even if you tell me"

I believe many people have heard this sentence. Although many people don't care, I have to say that what this sentence contains is disgust.

When you ask others for advice on academic problems, and others say this, they actually dislike you for being uneducated.

When you ask others for advice when you don’t understand something, and others say this, they are actually mocking you for your lack of knowledge.

Although he did not use any insulting words, the disgust, contempt, and ridicule contained in this sentence are very heavy.

When a person says this to you, it is clear that he looks down on you. Don’t be stupid and don’t understand.

Even if you can tolerate the ridicule and hurt of others, you cannot deceive yourself. Once you find someone teasing you in this way, you should distance yourself from them and don't ask for trouble.

You have to know that the best way to face dislike is to stay away in time. Only in this way will you not be harmed.

“You can’t do anything well”

When you don’t do something well, you may hear someone complain that “You can’t do anything well”.

When you hear this sentence for the first time, you may not take it to heart, or you may think that others are motivating you, but in fact, your ideas are all wrong.

People who say this to you are not trying to inspire you, but they are looking down on you from the bottom of their hearts and think that you are not good at anything you do.

Although he did not clearly express his dislike for you, the dislike in this sentence cannot be ignored. Even if you don't want to care about it, you shouldn't understand it.

You have to know that if a person often complains that you "cannot do anything well", it is clear that he dislikes you.

If you don’t want to be disliked all the time, then work hard and strive to achieve results.

Once you have achievements, others will look at you with admiration, and fewer and fewer people will dislike you.

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Maybe you still feel good about yourself and don't notice others' dislike, but you have to know that just because you don't notice others' dislike, it doesn't mean that no one dislikes you.

People who dislike you won't say it outright and will only express it in euphemistic words.

Therefore, if a person often says these things, it is clear that he dislikes you. Don't be stupid and don't understand, and don't ask for trouble.

Although it hurts to be disliked by others, you cannot turn a blind eye, let alone escape.

You will be disliked by others, which means you are indeed not good enough. If you want to stop Youyou's mouth, you must improve yourself and strengthen yourself.

Only if you work hard to make yourself better, those who dislike you will change their view of you.