In an era that advocates free love, it should not be difficult to find true love, but the reality is surprising.
As a result, many people can only use the blind date model to contact more members of the opposite sex and gain more choices.
But we have discovered that two people who seem to be a good match may very well dislike each other when they first meet.
After dozens of blind dates, no one matched their eyes, which left many "introducers" speechless and embarrassed.
And "high vision, picky, and assertive" seems to have become a conspicuous label for contemporary young people.
Why is the success rate of blind dates so low? You will know the answer by listening to the self-reports of these three “leftover women”.
01. Xiaoxuan (pseudonym) is 33 years old this year. She has been on a blind date journey since she was 27 years old. Almost all relatives and friends introduced her to someone, but after fifty or sixty blind dates, she still had not found true love.
"The boys I like think I'm too old, and I'm not satisfied with the boys who like me. I just want to find someone who is sunny, handsome, has a stable job, and makes me happy."
is interested in looks, personality, and abilities. There are demands, but they are unwilling to spend more time getting to know each other. This is the reason why some people have never been able to get out of singles.
In this era of fast food, people's hearts have become very impetuous, and they are unwilling to spend energy to adapt to and accept someone, and happiness will pass by.
There is no need to rush into relationships, but when faced with an average-looking member of the opposite sex, many girls instantly lose interest.
In a blind date, the first thing you notice is your appearance. People who don’t have a good eye for each other are bound to have a hard time getting together. It is this first impression that imprisons many people's love.
02. Xiaoru (pseudonym) comes from an average family background, looks poor, and has no stable income. She has been living at home all year round. Although she is in her thirties, she is not worried about her life events at all.
"I will go wherever there are handsome guys. I don't care about anything else when I find a partner, but he must be handsome!" In Xiaoru's view, appearance is the reason.
In the past few years, she has met no less than thirty boys, most of whom she rejected outright. Sometimes she even bluntly said that the boy was not good-looking.
Although he fell in love with two boys, they both declined politely. Xiaoru still refused to give up and always insisted on her own standards for choosing a spouse.
Now, at the age of 34, she still regards finding the "Prince Charming from fairy tales" as her goal, but she no longer has any high-quality resources around her.
lack of self-awareness and always live in fantasy. This unrealistic demand makes some people run into obstacles on the road to finding love.
03. Xiaomeng (pseudonym) is a lively, cute, sweet-looking girl with a well-off family. She has a correct view on love and just wants to pursue a normal and warm love. But after dozens of blind dates, she still hasn't found her destination.
"I don't have any requirements for appearance. I will try to get to know boys who I like. When I go out to eat with them, I will sometimes take the initiative to propose AA, but no one really walks into my heart."
"Either it's a trick. Improper and poor character, either arrogant and arrogant, stingy and immeasurable, dull and boring, without a common language, or frivolous and too oily... In short, no one likes "
." A decent image, a bright heart, a high emotional intelligence, and a sense of responsibility are the qualities that men should have.
It is really difficult to combine these advantages. To sum it up in one sentence, there are too few outstanding boys nowadays.
It’s really aggrieved to choose to make do even though you have good conditions. It is worthy of recognition to be stricter in major life matters.
Emotional message:
The term “leftover women” is inappropriate after all. It is not only a derogation of identity, but also a way of labeling people randomly when they do not understand the truth.
As a girl, it is not terrible to be single for a long time, but it is not advisable to stand still and be passive all the time. You can stick to your own views on love, but you must keep making progress.
When you become better, you will naturally have more charm and capital, and there will be better quality members of the opposite sex around you. By that time, finding true love will no longer be difficult.
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