Original: Yimi Sunshine
The crisis of middle-aged people: I don’t want to go to work and dare not resign
In the first few years of working, I was ignorant and had a lot of things to learn every day. I wanted to learn anything new. At that time, I heard the hissing sound of the skill tree every day I slept. But 10 years later, I suddenly realized that there were fewer and fewer partners moving forward together. Also slowly lost.
There are more and more trivial things in life with age. Today the child is sick, and tomorrow the elderly needs to go to the hospital. Various expenses and bills at the end of the month are overwhelming, such as mortgages, car loans, and interest classes for children. . . . . I didn’t pay my salary, and then I began to doubt my life.
I am getting confused about the order of my values. Going out to work every day: is always an invisible pressure . Just get through day after day. The salary growth is still so slow, and I don’t see any growth in the current job. I feel that my competitiveness is gradually declining, and I have fallen into a bottleneck period. I can only stick to a relatively stable job.
If you lose your current job, you don’t know what else you can do?
Has your career life span reached the upper limit? But there is still such a long road in life, how can this be broken?
Burnout in the mid-career crisis
When I was in my 20s, my ideal career is to work continuously from the beginning of graduation, and always go upward.
is the reality,Almost all industries and companies have a pyramid structure . Every few years, a group of people will get stuck on the original step and cannot go up.
How many white-collar workers, go out and crowd the subway every morning, get home late at night, and they are busy every day.
But it took him a few years to realize that the promotion and salary increase he received before was essentially a bonus of education and age. After the golden age, if he did not rise to an indispensable position, most of them People quickly enter a stagnant or even downward channel. This is that the dividend period of each age has an upper limit, and it is impossible to rise indefinitely. This stage is like the neck of a bottle, it is a barrier. If you don't find the right way to break the game, you may be stuck there all the time. It is inevitable that I will feel that this is the way I will be for the rest of my life.
Is there a professional crisis at this time? actually not. During the initial period of rapid progress in work, I feel that I can learn a lot every day, my proficiency in doing things is increasing, and my vision of looking at problems is constantly changing every year. As long as you practice makes perfect in a certain field, you will experience "job burnout" . On the one hand, it means that you are doing a good job and doing well, but it also means that the progress you can make in this field will become smaller and smaller in the future. In economics, is called "diminishing marginal benefit"
It's like you are hungry and you are full after eating three steamed buns. Although these three steamed buns are all the same, they certainly mean to you. The first one is the most fragrant, the second and the third will appear "diminishing marginal benefits".
" marginal benefit diminishing" is actually a normal state of life. If you can continue to maintain output in this state, the boss will not lower your wages because you have made less progress.
But if the " marginal effect" decreases to zero or even a negative number, this means that progress is truly stopped and output decreases simultaneously. This is the common conscientious but limited ability of old employees in the workplace and cannot afford anything. The blow of career change- This is the true career crisis .
Burnout is only a problem of psychological expectations, but occupational crisis is a real survival problem . So most of us are thinking about how to delay the arrival of professional crisis at this stage.
How to cross the inflection point
Many times, I get anxious, confused, and panic. It's just the feeling of the status quo, and the feeling itself is complicated and vague. Only when you are willing to transform the feeling of confusion from the thinking in your brain into an objective cognition, that is to say, when you can clearly describe your confusion, can you truly locate the root of the problem behind the confusion , So as to have the opportunity to choose a correct way to move on at the fork in life. Here are some tips for everyone, how to get through this critical turning point.
1. Learn to connect new skills with old skills
Uncertainty in future career development When the ability requirements break through the original skills,Need to keep learning to add more new skills.
At this time, it is not to give up the original project work experience, but to migrate the original process and management ability to the new job, and gradually increase the content of the new job, let the old skills help you successfully complete the grafting of the new skills. The advantage of
is that you will not dare to start because the new skills are unfamiliar, and you can also learn new skills as soon as possible with the help of the original skills experience.
2. Cross-border thinking
Take the designer's career as an example. Many middle-aged designers have anxieties from the future, and they do not have a clear view of career development and job development.
develops to a certain extent, crossover becomes inevitable, cultivate one's own integration ability, begin to try to think about product problems, operation problems, and even technical problems.
In this way, your career path will not be limited to the executive end, more macro . Such designers are scarce.
3. Improving soft power
After passing through the early stage of technical improvement in the workplace, most people are already familiar with the implementation, but they are still unwilling or not good at communication. This is not good for your professional development.
Almost everyone I know who breaks through the bottleneck period can communicate, be good at observing, and be good at disassembling the real intention of the demand. If you really can't let yourself know how to communicate, then it is difficult to go further in the depth of execution.
So you have to be clear, doesn’t talk, doesn’t like to deal with people, this has nothing to do with your personality, it will affect the depth of your execution .
4. External help
has fallen into a career development bottleneck, which is also a internal volume .
To solve the trap problem of 's involution of , it needs external help, that is, it needs to be pulled by the outside world. is what everyone calls the noble .
The so-called noble person is actually someone who is one rank higher than you. Your problem is not a problem with him. He can pull you from the bottom of the negative cycle. When you have the ability to form positive feedback, You will be able to carry out a virtuous circle at a high level.
If you are less capable, you may be locked at a slightly higher level, but it will definitely be stronger than you were before. Looking for professional mentors to communicate and accumulate experience , such as senior employees of the company, seniors in the alumni group, etc. People who are willing to be career mentors generally love to share and ask them about work, interpersonal relationships and even career development. The advice they give may only be part of their daily life, but for you, it may be a career transition or an overnight mental breakthrough. key.
Learn to evolve yourself
Don’t treat the workplace as a school,Here you are receiving a salary and doing work worthy of the salary, it is justified.
If you want to grow, make yourself more valuable. Please learn to evolve and increase self-value
Begin to change the passive, slow growth in value brought about by the accumulation of time into an active, rapid and more effective input and output of higher explosive growth in value .
Although using scattered time, don't study monotonously, learn scatteredly, or learn passively. builds a self-evolving cycle ascending system
metaphorically says to develop a second career after work, part-time, etc. One day in the future, you can use your side business as your main business.
1. Choose your own vertical field for future development
2. List the necessary abilities for the second career direction (sales director? Professional accountant? Communication expression?)
3. Targeted Learning (precipitation of thinking at work, chatting with people, reading)
4. Form a professional knowledge system
5. Practice mechanism to ensure that you internalize knowledge into ability
6. Form Ability model
7. Correct your career direction and ability model framework
Take a weekend to sit down,Organize the above content carefully and do a review every quarter.
In a society where competition is fierce and changing so fast, in addition to lay flat and exit, can go upstream from the "diminishing marginal benefit" and achieve "increasing" people who have strong learning ability and can continue to iteratively update
Either accumulate capital as soon as possible, go ashore earlier, and have enough wealth to automatically accelerate appreciation. The reason why a person has a sense of crisis is caused by unknown fear and uncertainty . mid-life crisis is a hurdle set by social rules and a product of social competition.
Living in this society, we need to adapt to the rules. To solve the midlife crisis is not to let it not exist, but to face its existence, grasp the variables that we can control, and then bravely break through it.
One's progress needs to be continuous. If you don't make progress, not only the middle-aged crisis, but also the youth and young people are in crisis.
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