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people, always prone to a prejudice, a prejudice restricted by cognition.
For example, a woman who looks weak without makeup and wearing glasses will think she is a teacher; for example, a man who wears casually and drives a luxury car will think he is the boss; for example, a new beauty in the workplace will keep rising, and colleagues will think there is something tricky; for example, a girl in her 20s who drives a luxury car worth millions will be considered a "three"...
These are the results obtained by the influence of the stereotype in our hearts.
In fact, when we really know these people, we know that many of them are actually provided by our parents. In this open era, the difference between boys and girls is constantly narrowing, and the conditions that parents can provide to boys can also provide to girls.
A friend I know is that her husband drives BMW and her wife drives Land Rover . This friend is easily stared at when she goes out, probably just by looking at her appearance and figure, which makes her very annoyed. Once we went to have hot pot together, and three big men looked at us without any concealment on the street, and then looked at the car.
But in fact, the car is the dowry of my parents, it is just a relatively expensive gift that my parents buy for their daughter.
The prejudice against girls in this society still exists. Fortunately, it has improved a lot of
0 In fact, this kind of cognition is indeed because of such a group of people, but Guo Meimei is a minority after all, and on the other hand, people still have some prejudice against girls.
Just like the topic of "Is it a last resort to give birth to only one girl?" Is it the last one to be concerned about? Many people will still believe from the bottom of their heart that girls will not be from their own family when they grow up.
But what is gratifying is that this phenomenon has improved a lot, because more and more enlightened parents come forward to protect their daughters, and more and more parents let their daughters get what their sons could have obtained in the past.
There is a friend who is the only daughter of the family. She is from Northeast China. Now she lives in Nanjing. Her husband is also an only child. Both parents are alive, and grandparents and grandparents are also alive. The elderly on both sides will inevitably think of "how to support their elderly in the future". When discussing this issue, the initiative is in the hands of the couple. Even the parents of the man will not say strongly, "Of course I will follow my son." Both parents are humble, and only she insists on bringing the elderly on both sides together.
"The child's heart is good, but it must not be feasible." This is the attitude of both parents.
If you follow the old idea, it must be the man’s parents who said strongly: Of course, I live with my son.
The era is really changing. The concept of a son and a son living with me has long been outdated. Nowadays, whoever has time will live with his children, which is basically 50% . It is very common for grandparents to take care of children, and it is also very common for grandparents to take care of children.
Daughter is also the heart of parents
In fact, even my parents will keep an old idea when talking about property distribution: of course it is left to their son.
In , Jiangsu and Zhejiang , the parents here are more open-minded in this matter. The son and daughter have a higher chance of equal division.
A local girl in Nanjing is a demolition household and has four houses. She and her brother share the same distribution, mortgage the house, and there is no bias at all. Her brother has no objection to this, and she thinks that it is fair for her parents to share this.
Her parents often say: Daughters and sons are the same. After getting married, they have to live by themselves. Leave some for their daughter. The daughter has confidence and live with dignity. . There is no need to let the in-laws look down on me. Moreover, my daughter doesn’t have to rely on who to live. With us, we are her confidence.
In fact, when she graduated from college, her parents invested to buy her a car worth hundreds of thousands of yuan. Although it is not a luxury car, it does provide her with a lot of convenience. She is very grateful for her parents' enlightenment and dedication.
On the other hand, she treats her parents the same as her brother, and even more attentive than her brother. Although both of them are married, she goes home more often because she is a girl, so she is more careful. Now her parents can not see her son for two days, but they must see their daughter every day. If their daughter doesn't go home for a day, they will be worried.
Conclusion
Times are changing, concepts are changing, and we should also change our old concepts. When we see a girl walking on the street, dressed pretty and wearing famous brands, or driving a luxury car, the first thing we think of is not that the girl has gained these material enjoyment through improper channels. Perhaps the first thing we think of is that this girl has a good family background. has the support of her parents, and she lives a very moist life, and it is very likely that she will continue to be moisturized like this.
The reason is very simple. Parents have the confidence. Whether a girl gets married in the future will not affect her quality of life. They can always live with confidence.
So as parents, what we need to do is not to evaluate others, but to work harder at the moment, work hard for our own descendants, and work harder to make the descendants' children survive easily.
