People say: Mother-in-law is not a mother, and daughter-in-law is always someone else. ”.
This sentence seems ruthless, but it actually reflects the relationship between many married women and mother-in-law.
Why can't daughter-in-law be accepted by mother-in-law? After all, it is because they love the same man.
Mother-in-law thinks that she has devoted all her life to her son, and the son should be close to him, so she always adopts a rejection attitude towards another woman getting close to her son.
Unfortunately, you always encounter someone like others The mother-in-law is like a human. The daughter-in-law has a difficult delivery, and the mother-in-law prevents a caesarean section. Please don’t waste my money.
Duanli met her husband Zhang Yi in college. She had been dating for five years and got married after graduation. Three years of marriage.
After marriage, Duanli and Zhang Yi spent a sweet world of two.
Duanli always thought that their lives would be so sweet, but the arrival of her mother-in-law changed all this. Two and a half years ago, Zhang Yi’s father died of cancer.
Zhang Yi is a filial child. He was worried that his mother would not be able to stand on her own in her hometown and would not be able to stand on her own. She didn't know anything about her, so Zhang Yi and his wife Duan Li discussed and brought her mother-in-law to her home to live. They took care of each other.
Dun Li was a little hesitant at first, but she felt very sympathetic to her husband who lost her father in grief. Now her only relative is her mother-in-law, so she agreed to her mother-in-law come to her home to live with her.
When my mother-in-law first came, she had a good relationship. In her spare time, she shopped with her mother-in-law and sometimes bought gifts for her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law was very happy every time she received the gift.
Duan Li was also very good to her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law always made a lot of Duan Li likes to taste food and snacks.
But as Duan Li and her mother-in-law extended their time together, they began to rub.
Two people were very busy at work, so their clothes were either washed with a washing machine or dried.
Mother-in-law has a lot of opinions on this matter. She thinks using a washing machine costs electricity and water, and dry cleaning costs both money. Duan Li really can't stand the savings of her mother-in-law. After all, she is very busy, so she can do whatever she wants.
Duan Li knows that her mother-in-law comes from the countryside and is used to being frugal and doesn't care about her mother-in-law's words. Later, Duan Li started shopping again. Usually likes to shop online. When doing activities, he will have a large number of daily consumables, such as laundry detergent, toilet paper, etc., and Various skin care products, cosmetics, clothes, etc.
result Duanli takes nearly 8 to 10 express delivery each time, and the house is full. My mother-in-law said it was too wasteful. Is this the person who lives?
Duanli is not willing to accept it. These express delivery is also bought for the family, and the activities are very discounted, not for me. The whole family needs daily consumables. Why did I waste it?
So, Duanli began to complain, but her husband advised his wife not to make a move. My mother is aware that her mother had just arrived in this city and could not adapt to the lifestyle here. Then her husband agreed to discuss with her mother and told her not to say this again, "daughter-in-law".
Since then, the mother-in-law really stopped nagging her daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law thought it was okay and stopped. But she accidentally heard a sentence that broke the daughter-in-law's fantasy.
That day, the daughter-in-law got off work early and opened the door and saw that there seemed to be no one at home. She thought her mother-in-law was out to play and planned to go back to her room Room.
However, when I passed by my mother-in-law's bedroom and heard a sound inside, my mother-in-law seemed to be calling. My daughter-in-law didn't want to listen to her mother-in-law's phone number, but I heard the name of my daughter-in-law mentioned on the phone. So Duan Li stopped and listened carefully.
Son, it's not me that I said you, you have to control your daughter-in-law. She wasted too much money every day. I cleaned your bedroom today. I looked at the bottles and jars on your wife's dressing table, the white powder cream inside, and the cosmetics on her face It's really expensive! You work hard to make some money every day and make your wife bankrupt for you! …”
When I heard what my mother-in-law said at the door, my wife was very angry and regretful. When I agreed to take my mother-in-law to her home, I now have another love rival in the family.
Cosmetics and skin care products are obviously bought by myself, and I didn’t spend my husband’s money. My mother-in-law is really. She didn’t make trouble in the open, but started to play tricks in the dark.
Duan Li decides how to live and does not argue with his mother-in-law.She wanted to see what her mother-in-law could do for herself.
However, I didn’t expect my mother-in-law to be so vicious. One month ago, Duan Li and her husband's child were about to be born. Having a child was originally a happy thing, but for Duan Li it was the fuse for the breakdown of the marriage.
1 months ago, Duan Li took a shower in the bathroom, but amniotic fluid suddenly broke and was rushed to the hospital.
When we arrived at the hospital, the doctor told Duan Li’s husband that the fetus was too big and it might be difficult to give birth naturally. There is also life danger, and the doctor recommends a caesarean section, but the current situation is not very good. Hope to make a decision sooner.
But my husband is a little confused now and doesn't know what to do. After hearing this, what is cheaper, natural childbirth or caesarean childbirth?
The doctor told my mother-in-law that is born naturally for a few hundred yuan. It is more expensive to produce children with caesarean section. Then come true! Work hard and you can give birth to a child.
Suddenly Duan Li's parents knew that their daughter was going to have a baby, so they rushed to the hospital to visit their daughter. They happened to meet Duan Li's mother-in-law and heard the conversation between the mother-in-law and the doctor. The mother-in-law said, "Try hard to give birth, don't spend money.
Don't listen to her. It's safe to choose a caesarean section. Duan Li's parents answered. Duan Li's parents paid the surgery fee from their own pocket, and then signed the medical record and paid the money!"
They often hear their daughters say that the mother-in-law valued money very important. However, as parents should not interfere in their children's marriage, they did not interfere. But I never expected my mother-in-law to be so cruel. Even they took their daughter's life for money.
What are you waiting for? After my daughter came out, she suggested a divorce. More than an hour later, the mother and son were safe after the operation and were taken to the general ward.
When the mother-in-law went in to see the child, she was blocked by her parents. Duan Li’s parents said, “You like money so much, just keep it. We paid for this operation. This child is ours. In the future, the child will take his mother’s surname and have nothing to do with you!”
After hearing Duan Li’s parents, the mother-in-law still wanted to make trouble, but the doctor cannot let the mother-in-law make trouble in the hospital. The mother and son must go home first.
The next day, Duan Li woke up and looked around, but did not see Zhang Yi's husband, and asked his parents where Zhang Yi was.
Mom tells your daughter what happened yesterday and suggests you get a divorce. Duan Li, she said she wanted to talk to her husband before making a decision.
A week later, Duan Li took the initiative to contact Zhang Yi and said he would talk to him. After a while, Zhang Yi came. Duan Li asked her to go. What do you think about our marriage? Things have become like this.
If two people want to continue living, the only way is to send their mother-in-law away. But the husband still hesitated and had nothing to say. In the end, the husband chose to keep his mother-in-law.
Half a month later, the two divorced and the child was too young. The court awarded the child to his mother Duan Li. In Zhang Yi's mind, mother is still the most important thing.
But the son will always grow up. They have their own work and family. As a parent, it is best to be a bystander of the children's marriage. Can listen and watch, but can't say anything. Otherwise, parents will become killers who ruin their children's marriage.
But in real life, parents have to live with their children for various real reasons, which often happens to men. What should I do at this time?
The husband should do a good job in mediation to avoid a quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. First of all, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to deal with, and this requires the son to mediate and reconcile. As the saying goes, "Women will not make things difficult for women."
But in real life, women always bother women.
So, where is the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? The daughter-in-law's husband and mother-in-law's son.
These two women regard this man as their whole body. The daughter-in-law believes that this man is her favorite person, so the man is her own husband and the son is born to her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law thinks so too.
The woman thought she married this man and formed a family, so this man belonged to her.
Therefore, there was an uninterrupted entanglement between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. However, due to the dispute, a good family had to leave.
This is not good for anyone. So don’t make things difficult for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
So sometimes it is embarrassing to the daughter-in-law, and mother-in-law should know that it is not easy for a daughter-in-law to be. Therefore, mother-in-law must learn to be considerate of her daughter-in-law.
The husband must complete the mediation. It turned out that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were strangers. The mother-in-law should treat her daughter-in-law as her daughter and let them be closely connected. Moreover, most of the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are caused by husbands.
Therefore, the son needs to be responsible for maintaining family harmony. But the reality is that in the face of conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the son chooses to escape, but this method is not a long-term solution. Over time, contradictions are like an inflated balloon that will explode sooner or later.
Therefore, it is very important to mediate immediately. When the
conflict occurs, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law further communicates face to face with
on the basis of mediation to solve the problem. Only in this way can conflicts not accumulate.
Marriage is a matter of two people, sometimes three people. No matter who we need to manage together.
