Why do teachers and parents like "obedient" children?
has the following two reasons -
First, "obedient" children are easy to manage. "I" is worry-free.
Second, the child is "obedient", which means that "I" teaches him well.
has no "third".
"I"'s position is an adult position.
"Obelief" is an adult position. The inherent concepts, the set answers, and the established procedures are all available. Doing so means being obedient. Questioning is often "disobedient".
"teaching" is also an adult position. The child does not understand it, so he has "teaching".
In fact, children are emotional. Some things can be understood based on their intuition, but they are not taught at all.
31 years ago, I was the principal in a rural school. I am going to form a school drum team. When I bought the drum trumpet back to school, no teacher even saw the drum trumpet, including me.
I called some elementary school students who were seven or eight years old and asked them to try to blow the trumpet one by one. There were actually about 20 children who could immediately play the high-pitched melody of "da da ding--" immediately. Immediately, these children became the first generation of masters of the drum team.
But we do not believe that children have such geniuses, nor do we allow children to have such intuitions. Often, we always prepare a "disobedient" hat. As long as the child does not follow our ideas, we will always wear this hat on the "unusual" children's heads.
There is another story: When my child was four or five years old, he loved to play and made his whole body dirty every day. I'm very busy and don't have time to do laundry for my kids.
I often scold my child for "being hygienic!" The child always answers "Okay", but he is still dirty and has a look of grievance when he goes home every day.
I observed the child playing. I found that children like to play in corners and other places. Children are very short and appear in places below 1 meter in height. These places are not places that adults pay attention to. The height of attention for adults is above 1.5 meters, and the height of touch for adults is above 1.5 meters. The corner of the wall with a height of less than 1 meter is the dirtiest place, and these "dirty" have to be "cleaned" by children with clothes.
don’t care about him! When the child grows taller and stays away from the blind spot of 1 meter, he will naturally "love hygiene" and has nothing to do with "bad habits".
This is the child's perspective.
Teacher Zhu Yongxin said: You should always remember two sentences in education - if I were a child, if I were my child.
