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Many parents have been beaten and scolded by their parents since childhood, so they are also very simple and crude in educating their children.
Little did you know that the method of beating and scolding in the past is not applicable to children today!
or even When parents say some catchphrases, they are also hurting their children's self-esteem . A child who cannot get love and respect from his parents will easily become an unfilial child when he grows up and becomes an ungrateful child.
7 catchphrases that parents often say, see if you say it often, and correct it quickly if there is one. Sentence 1: If you don’t do anything, you will cause trouble for me
Many parents will be very angry when their children make mistakes, thinking that their children are not good, and that they will only cause trouble!
For children, makes mistakes is a necessary process for growth, If children do not make mistakes, it will be difficult to grow up!
But when the child makes a mistake, parents say that the child causes trouble with disgust, Then when the child grows up, they will feel that the old parents will cause trouble for themselves and are unwilling to be filial to their parents.
Sentence 2: I am your mother, I have the final say
Many parents will put authoritative in front of their children. always stipulates that children cannot do this or that, or must do this, treats children as their own private property .
But when the parents are getting older, the children grow up and find that their parents protect themselves too well, and it is difficult for them to be independent in this society.
At this time, the child will resent their parents. Why did he not let himself be independent when he was a child and take care of himself so well? This led to his inability to do anything now, so he might as well go home to lemate his parents .
Sentence 3: Look at others and look at you
There is a kind of disgusting creature in this world, that is, other people's children.
Many parents always say that other people's children are good and that is good in front of their children. This will make the child feel that his parents don’t love him at all and that his parents are disgusting him.
Children who do not have abundant love in their hearts are not confident enough when they grow up, and it is difficult to achieve great success, and it is easy to become a dependent on their parents.
Sentence 4: Mom works so hard to support you, you must be obedient
"Mom works so hard every day but it's not for you!"
This will make the child feel guilty, and feel that it is all because of his arrival that the mother works so hard. This is an unbearable weight for children who have not grown up.
This kind of guilt will make children feel weak and cowardly, and will not be valued in the workplace when they grow up. Such children do not achieve success after they grow up, and will blame their parents in turn. Why did you give birth to me at the beginning!
Sentence 5: 321 Quick stop
For example, when the child is crying, or when the child is doing something, parents like to threaten the child by countdown.
This method is indeed very effective. After all, when the child was young, he could not live alone with his parents. He could only stop reluctantly under the pressure of his parents, but he was not convinced in his heart.
If children like this grow up, they will easily fight against their parents and become ungrateful.
Sentence 6: Why did I give birth to such a stupid child?
I saw a parent on the Internet so angry that he vomited blood because of tutoring his children's homework, and even High blood pressure attacks!
indeed children's understanding is fast and slow , or children mature early and late. Some children mature earlier, so they understand faster, and some children mature later and slower.
But if parents label their children as "stupid" from the beginning, the children will really feel that they are stupid and simply break the jar and smash it.
Children always feel that they are stupid, of course they have not achieved anything. They even grow up and find that they are not stupid when they grow up, but because their parents always say they are stupid when they are young, which leads to their missing the best time to study.
At this time, you start to resent your parents and easily become ungrateful.
Sentence 7: You just need to read books and do your homework, and you don’t need to care about anything else
Many parents think that their children’s as long as their academic performance is good, and they don’t need to care about anything else.
Little do they know that the child’s ability to take care of himself is also a very important part. If the child does not know how to wash clothes by himself, does not wash socks by himself, and does not put on quilts, then he needs to go to school to live in school . What should he do at this time?
Children who do not take care of themselves will feel that they are inferior to others in school. This will not only affect children's academic performance, but also affect children's work ability as adults.
At this time, the child will resent their parents. Why did he always ask himself to learn to read books before, which made him unable to take care of himself now, but instead he would resent his parents.
If you don’t want to raise a ungrateful child, parents should never say the above words to their children easily.
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