As the saying goes: In the first thirty years, look at your father and respect your son, and in the last thirty years, look at your son and respect your father. It is the long-cherished wish of all parents in the world. Cultivating the next generation is the first responsibility and priority of any family and even the entire society. This is a public consensus. However, in the process of raising children, I believe that most parents will be puzzled by their children's at a loss during their rebellious period. The international community recognizes that the rebellious period of children is roughly as follows: the rebellious period of babies is 2-3 years old, the rebellious period of children is 7-9 years old, and the rebellious period of youth is 12-18 years old.
In fact, nothing can be achieved overnight. As long as parents guide them during the rebellious period of the baby and the rebellious period of the child, there will be no rebellious situation in the rebellious period of the youth. Responsible parents, please try to do the following seven points:
1. Don’t speak too democratically.
When children are 2-3 years old, their self-awareness is gradually forming. In this case, if you ask your child "Is it good?", most of them will answer "not good". Then the parents will start to lose their temper or reason, and the baby will be even more indifferent.
2. Let the child do multiple-choice questions.
Before asking your child, give him two choices in a way that you can accept, such as if you want to eat rice or noodles, we will go out after 5 minutes. Many times, children will not cause too much impact on parents. Generally, they will make choices based on your scope. On the one hand, this can give the child a good atmosphere, and on the other hand, it makes the child feel that you respect him very much and have a sense of being the master of the family.
3. Don’t always communicate in the tone of command.
For example, if a child throws toys everywhere from time to time, in fact, you directly say that the baby should put the toys well. This sentence is easier to accept. Parents will learn to eliminate violence by being rude, and then they will use violence to fight violence endlessly. So parents need to change 1%, and the baby will change 99%.
4. Give the time to prepare for children.
The child thinks playing is his main business, but in fact it is also his job. It is not something you must stop when you are rude to him. You have to give him time to react, such as washing his hands and eating quickly and not being too slow to change it to "Baby in 5 minutes, we will have to eat." Think about which method is easier for children to accept, and the results will naturally be different in different ways of communication.
5. Let more people participate in the growth of children.
The child is not the mother alone. The child raised by the mother has long understood his temper, so he can easily win in the battle of wits and courage. If the father can communicate with the child more, he does not need to be disciplined or reasoned. As long as he plays with him and shows him, he will naturally understand what rules are and what must be followed.
6. The family atmosphere should be harmonious. In families that often quarrel, children are insecure all day long, and even parents quarrel sometimes because of their children's problems, parents' disagreements. This is likely to point the finger at the child. The child may feel innocent. If this continues, the child is prone to having problems and not tell them to the parents, which will eventually lead to running away from home.
7. Let your children participate in housework more.
Let the child participate in more housework. In addition to exercising his hands-on ability, he can also realize that he will not be clean without washing his clothes, he will not be clean without cleaning the toilet, and he will not be cooked by himself without cooking the food... Under the influence of his eyes, he will accept that when his parents assign him to work, he will be more accepting in his heart, and can also create a good family atmosphere and environmental sanitation, and ultimately win multiple goals.
Children are the hope of every family, the future and flower of the motherland. Cultivating good children is the greatest and most important cause in life and the source of motivation for parents to struggle. Only when parents are good at learning and trying can they go more steadily and farther on the road of cultivating children!
