Abuse is divided into verbal abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse.
There are too many parents who abuse their children with language. Language is energy, and language is the manifestation of cognitive patterns. Cognition is the real reason behind language.
Violent language is not only a language habit, but also a presentation of various problems in people's hearts. We must work hard on the reasons and explore the cognitive system and habitual language patterns behind the language.
How deeply does language violence hurt children?
If you know how to love, you are called love, and if you don’t know how to love, you are called hurt. People's language can penetrate a person's soul. The so-called good words are warm in three winters, and bad words hurt people in six months. What's more, it's your own parents. The verbal abuse of children by parents will cause great psychological trauma to their children.
From the child to this world, parents are his heaven and his earth. Every word from parents is full of weight. Language can make a child either make or destroy a child.
There are four types of violent languages, namely judgemental language, comparative language, escape language and command language.
Judgemental language
only makes one-sided evaluation of the other party through its own experience as the standard or based on its own needs as the starting point. This is called linguistic abuse. Everyone has their own cognition, their own value standards and belief system. Judges often judge others from their own perspectives, from their own standards, from their own needs, and then put labels. Especially parents who regard themselves as authoritative. The evaluation of children is actually an expression of parents' own experience and their own needs and beliefs, and is imposed on children.
Many children live as their parents without realizing it. It is because he always accepts the judgment of his parents and always uses his parents' standards to judge the results he causes.
