Let us announce the correct answer! The answer for parents who value their children's emotional intelligence will be the last "D"
. What is the reason? Because the basic skill of an emotional intelligence expert is to detect your emotional state, that is, you must be able to quickly understand your current emotions. Therefore, in this case, parents should first help their children identify their existing emotional states. ", so are you unhappy?", "So you feel wronged?".
Helping children identify their emotional state will bring 7 great benefits.
First: Children can understand from this
What they need to deal with next is their own emotions. Instead of that " opposite ". In other words, what you really should do now is not to ask the other party to argue because of your grievance, but to realize that the real trouble is actually your own emotional reaction. Then what you should work hard to do is how to debug your emotions and make appropriate reactions.
Second: Children can learn the ability to think from others' perspectives
This time I was beaten, and I will know that if I hit others, others will feel like this. This profound emotional experience of helps improve children's ability to think from the perspective of others. So from the perspective of emotional intelligence education, this will be a way to learn two things.
After helping children identify emotions, parents can then: "Do you want to tell me what happened?" This is a very important parent-child communication method. When parents learn to ask questions and listen, children will be willing to speak. cultivates good parent-child communication habits and will make each other's communication smoothly.
Third: Management skills to help children develop negative emotions
In some primary and secondary schools in the United States, add meditation exercises to the course, let the children sit down, close their eyes, and concentrate their minds and sit in meditation for 20 minutes. Recent experiments have found that meditation can help reduce a person's anxiety, and can strengthen concentration and further improve learning efficiency. If you learn these well-designed relaxation techniques like children and learn them early, they will be helpful to their future stress resistance.
I know a mother who will take her second-year junior high school children to yoga classes on weekends. The reason was that she found that her child became impatient after going to middle school. She had the habit of doing yoga herself, so she took her children to children's classes. Children gradually learn the skills of calming down and relaxing, and their temper becomes much gentler. In addition, parents can also encourage their children to develop healthy interests and preferences to help them relieve stress.
For example: take your children to exercise physically, draw, sing, etc. Psychological research shows that exercise is one of the best ways to relieve stress . Continuous aerobic exercise for more than 20 minutes will promote the secretion of endorphin in the brain, thus playing a physiological role in soothing stress.
Fourth: Help children build self-confidence
Self-confidence is the cornerstone of emotional intelligence ability. Confident children can be calm when facing malicious attacks from others, and have good resistance to setbacks and stress, and will be able to be able to handle interpersonal relationships.
How should parents start and cultivate their children’s self-confidence?
In fact, parents’ evaluation of their children has a direct impact on their confidence! Therefore, if parents only criticize but rarely praise them, they will unknowingly create a bad self-image in their children's mind. , so it is recommended that parents sit down and write down the advantages that their children deserve to appreciate. . I would like to remind parents here that these advantages of should not be the result of comparing children with others, but the characteristics of children themselves. For example, "is very caring, very good to small animals; very polite, and will take the initiative to say hello to friends"! These personality traits such as are not based on comparisons such as "ranking at the top every time". If you want to praise your child's learning performance, "Study is serious and responsible, and will supervise yourself to study" will be a better reason.Encourage and affirm the child more and give him appropriate confidence in himself, which will greatly improve his emotional intelligence ability.
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