A child may encounter various things during his growth, such as after entering a "small society", he may be bullied by others.
. When the child is bullied, some parents often ask the child to "beat back", but in fact this method is not very good.
Although " for tooth " is the most direct and "fair" way to protect one's own rights, if the other party is strong, or the child takes action "no light or no heavy", it is likely to make the originally simple incident complicated.
So, hitting back is not the best way to fight back. Only third-rate parents will let their children beat back. First-rate parents will only use reasonable methods to transform their children into a child that others can't afford to offend.
When a child is beaten, what should parents do to make the child "unable to offend"?
First of all, tell the child how to "play"
We all know that children are more playful. Once, Xiaozhu and Xiaocao took their children to eat hot pot together. While eating, Xiaozhu's children went to the children's play area of the hot pot restaurant to play.
But after a while, Xiaozhu's child came back in shame. When Xiaozhu saw that the child was in a wrong state, he asked the child what was wrong. The child said that he was bullied by other children while playing in the children's entertainment area.
When Xiaozhu heard this, he taught his child to call back. The child passed by after listening to Xiaozhu's words, but after a while, the child came back. Xiaozhu asked the child what was going on. The child of asked the mother in confusion, "How should I call back?"
Adults think that "beating back" is a very simple thing, but in fact, for children, "beating back" is not a simple thing. The child of does not know how to call , so it is difficult for to use the appropriate method to "beating back" to protect their own rights.
Xiaocao's child heard that Xiaozhu's child was bullied and didn't know how to "beat back", so he wanted to call him back, so he pulled Xiaozhu's child back.
After a while, the parents came over. It turned out that Xiaocao's child did not pay attention to the method and strength when he "beat back". He directly injured the child by . It was originally a simple dispute between children, but now a child was injured. The nature of suddenly became much more serious.
So, parents cannot just say "knock back" to their children, but should let their children know how to fight in normal times.
For example, parents can play some games with their children in Ultraman to fight monsters, or some other interactive "fighting" games, so that children know how to fight, and what force and angle to hit will make the other party afraid, but it will not cause any more trouble.
Secondly, we should help improve children's communication skills and let children make more friends
Xiaoshuai is a transfer student. When he first came to the new school, he was targeted by several "bad guys" in the class. These students are the kind of students who are not upright and do things on weekdays. They often like to bully people. At this time, they see a lonely transfer student, so they want to bully Xiaoshuai.
However, several "bad guys" have not attacked Xiaoshuai for a long time. Why is this? It turned out that on the first day of her arrival, Xiao Shuai said hello to his deskmate and nearby classmates very enthusiastically, and naturally and smoothly talked about school affairs with several classmates around him. In just half a day, he almost became a good friend who "talks about everything".
Moreover, because Xiaoshuai has strong communication skills, speaks appropriately and behaves dignifiedly, he won the recognition of many classmates in a short period of time, and soon formed a solid circle of friends in class .
. A few "bad guys" who were originally planning to bully Xiaoshuai, a transfer student, saw that Xiaoshuai often had a group of friends together, so he gave up the idea of bullying Xiaoshuai. After all, if he really bullies Xiaoshuai, his friends will definitely not sit idly by, and he may even suffer losses at that time.
We can find that those children who are often bullied are often single children, with few or basically no friends.
Therefore, if you want your child to be bullied, you must pay attention to cultivating your child's communication skills, so that your child is good at communicating and brave to communicate, and can quickly establish your own circle of friends in a strange environment, so it will be difficult to become the target of bullying for others.
Finally, if you are bullied, you should inform your parents in time
Xiaomei is often bullied at school, but Xiaomei's parents seem to have never been concerned about such things. Xiaomei's good friend Xiao Lei finally couldn't stand it anymore, so he found Xiaomei's parents and told Xiaomei's parents about the fact that Xiaomei was often bullied at school.
After learning that his child was often bullied at school, Xiaomei's parents were very surprised because they had never heard of being bullied by their children.
Later, Xiaomei's parents asked the child and found out that it turned out that the child was bullied by others as a "soft persimmon" because of his introverted personality. In addition, the child did not dare to resist, and he did not dare to tell the teacher and parents. Therefore, other students became even more aggressive in bullying Xiaomei.
However, when Xiaomei's parents learned about this, they immediately came to the school, found the teacher to communicate with the matter, and contacted the other party's parents to go to the school to solve the matter together.
Since then, the people who bullied Xiaomei have never bullied Xiaomei again because they have been "educated" by teachers and their parents.
Therefore, parents must pay more attention to their children's status in daily life and tell their children that no matter how wronged or bullyed you are outside, they must tell their parents when they return home that parents will always be the solid shield behind their children, so that their children have the courage to protect their rights.
Conclusion
After a child is bullied, he is likely to be negatively affected both physically and mentally, which will be detrimental to the health and growth of the child. Therefore, improving the child’s self-protection awareness and enhancing the child’s self-protection ability are things that parents need to pay special attention to. Parents should learn to make their children a child who “can’t afford to offend”.
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