First grade primary school students are still in the initial stage of developing good habits. They have a strong desire to show off, so sometimes they can't control themselves and prove themselves to others by interrupting the teacher's words. Especially some children with lively thoughts do not have a good habit of speaking for the time being and cannot tell the difference between classes and after class. However, this situation not only affects teachers' normal teaching, but also affects other children's listening. In addition, when the first grade is just enrolled, teachers need to establish the order of classes and classrooms as soon as possible. Such expression-loving children will sometimes really disturb the teacher's work. As parents, the effect of relying solely on preaching is very little. We must use intelligent methods to actively cooperate with teachers to help our children learn to "stay in their mouths".
Parents deal with their own mood first
Believe that many parents are under pressure when receiving calls from teachers, especially when they are inviting their parents to school, they feel that it is "shameful", "fair" and "can't raise their heads". In fact, these are not needed. Don't turn panic and anxiety into resentment from adults to criticize their children. The purpose of the teacher asking you to communicate is not to "report" but to find a small problem with your child and want to invite you to deal with the problem together. The teacher is sending a good signal to inform you that he is willing to help the child with you. Some parents are invited by teachers to transfer their anxiety and resentment to their children, which leads to their children becoming more rebellious and small problems become big problems. Therefore, when parents receive a special invitation from teachers to “come to school”, they must first eliminate their concerns and jointly deal with the problem with teachers with a sincere attitude.
Understand the motivation and content of children's speech
Parents should understand what the motivation and content of children's speech are, should they express their own ideas based on the teacher's lecture content, or chat with classmates around them and make trouble. Different situations should be viewed differently. If it is the former, the point that parents should pay attention to in the future is how to speak politely and express their own ideas. If it is the latter, parents should pay attention to the development of good classroom routines and their children's learning status. For example, whether the child has learned relevant content and is not interested in classroom learning.
Sometimes, this situation is because parents are busy with work and don’t have time to chat with their children, which creates a very hope for others to resonate with them, so they keep talking.
Consensus reached: raising hands to speak is a classroom rule
Parents should treat problems from the perspective of their children and let them realize the importance of raising hands to speak. The perspective of teachers, parents and students in terms of problems is not on the same channel. It causes teachers to think important things but children think that things are not important, and parents think that things are serious but teachers think that things are nothing.
In the eyes of children, speaking is so natural, why don’t the teacher ask me to say it? But for teachers, when facing the teaching of dozens of children in large classes, if every child likes to talk so much, how can his class be carried out? Therefore, this is because the two sides have not reached a consensus.
Generally speaking, children who like to talk cannot recognize the importance of raising their hands to speak, or they cannot understand the bad effects of speaking at any time in class on others, so parents can let their children play the role of teachers at home, and parents play the role of the speaking student, so that children can really understand that it is impolite to interrupt others at will.
(excerpted from Parenting Magazine "Must Reading" 2023 Magazine Subscription https://www.zazhipu.com/)
