My husband and I gave birth to a baby girl in 2018, and we took care of the baby all by ourselves. We know how hard and exhausting it is to raise a child.
This is what we call pain and joy.
So we are determined not to have a second child, even though my mother-in-law has always been in disguise. It gave birth to us, and we did not let go
We have a child. Although it is a girl, it is also our spiritual support. We do not care about men and women, and we do not have hundreds of millions of wealth to inherit.
A child is the treasure in our hands, and we will pamper him. Can give more care, give as much as you want
You don’t have to think about how the first and second children get along
You don’t have to think about the uneven distribution of care
Today’s children don’t want all the care to be shared, because they have a second child. With the third child, there is no more energy to pay attention to the older child, which makes the older child feel left out, and the first child and the second child will fight for various things.
There is an eldest brother in their hometown. When the child was about ten years old, he asked for the second child. Since the second child was born, the eldest child has become rebellious. He does everything the opposite of his mother. He often quarrels with the second child and will not yield to the second child. Flying dogs are jumping, and there is no peace as long as the two children meet.
You see, not all families have one child, two children and three children, and they are harmonious.
It is more trivial matters.
The children are used to being alone, and the parents have no communication. , suddenly a younger child came, taking away the attention of the family, and naturally there was nowhere to vent his dissatisfaction.
Today's children pay more attention to communication and understanding, which is different from ours in the 1980s. We are very independent. Who cares what we think at that time?
The problem with just one child is that the child will have no closer partner and no relative to help. In the future, the pressure on the adoptive parents will be great
I There is only one child in my uncle's family. His younger brother has already started a family and has his own business. It is prosperous and life is very nourishing.
The child was not even one year old when he was born. My uncle suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and became a vegetative state. The burden on the family suddenly fell. It all falls on this younger brother.
My aunt loves to be clean and is not very willing to clean up my uncle's dirty things. Many of them were done by my younger brother.
She has to take care of her own business, farm dozens of acres of land, and take care of her father. , I have to take care of the younger ones in the family, and there is no one to help me. It’s so tiring and mentally and physically exhausted.
A person’s ability can only support the sky. It’s been a very difficult journey.
So is it important to have a second child? Each has its own pros and cons. , Just think about your future path, work hard for yourself, wouldn’t it be good for many of those who want a child?
Anyway, I don’t have the ability to have a second one, so I can give myself more space to improve our lives, so that We are more nourished, and it is also critical to educate this child well. Having one more child means having one more person to discuss when extubation is done in the future [呲呲]
