Author | The little boy downstairs from Dong Lin Fu is Shuai Shuai, who is 7 years old. He is a lively and cheerful little boy. Recently, Shuai Shuai has been very unhappy and looks wilted. It turns out that Shuai Shuai has encountered something troublesome.

Author | Dong Linfu

The little boy downstairs is Shuaishuai, who is 7 years old. He is a lively and cheerful little boy. Recently, Shuaishuai has been very unhappy and looks wilted. It turns out that Shuaishuai has encountered something troublesome.

Shuaishuai’s mother said that Shuaishuai suddenly developed a bad habit, that is, he likes to interrupt when adults are talking, especially when someone comes to visit the house. When adults are chatting, Shuaishuai always likes to interrupt and express his opinions. This This made Shuaishuai's mother very embarrassed. She felt that Shuaishuai was ignorant, so she would scold Shuaishuai. After a few times, Shuaishuai stopped interrupting, but Shuaishuai became depressed and looked unhappy all day long.

Many parents will encounter this problem. Children who are 7 or 8 years old suddenly talk too much and have many ideas. They like to express their opinions when adults are talking, and parents often scold their children. Don't interrupt when adults are talking. Here is what parents do. Is that true?

7. The reason why 8-year-old children like to interrupt when adults are talking:

1. Children begin to develop self-awareness around the age of 2. By the age of 7 or 8, children begin to have their own opinions on many things. When children hear adults talking, they also want to express their own opinions. This is a normal phenomenon and does not mean that the child is talkative or impolite.

2, 7, 8-year-old children are very curious. They begin to pay attention to what adults say, unlike when they were younger, who were not interested in adults' conversations. Driven by curiosity, they like to express their own opinions while listening to adults' conversations. If adults forcibly stop them at this time, it will be a big blow to the children and will frustrate the children's curiosity and self-esteem.

3, 7, 8-year-old children are very curious about knowledge. When they hear some novel parts in adults' conversations, they like to interrupt to find out. At this time, adults impatiently refuse or accuse the child of interrupting, which will interrupt the child's desire for knowledge and make the child very hurt.

4 and want to attract the attention of parents. Once, my friend Li and I got together and chatted while eating. Li brought her 8-year-old daughter Dudu over. Li and I hadn’t seen each other for a long time, and we had a great time chatting. Dudu would find various excuses to interrupt from time to time. Come in.

After a while, I understood that it was because Li and I were chatting too enthusiastically and ignored her. She wanted to have some sense of presence and wanted us to notice her existence, so she kept interrupting.

So I would tease Dudu from time to time while chatting with Li, such as asking her if the drinks tasted good, if she wanted to order more dishes, etc. Dudu soon became happy and stopped interrupting very much, focusing on Start eating.

What should parents do when faced with children who love to interrupt?

Parents must first realize that interjection is not a shortcoming of their children, but a normal phenomenon in their growth.

The more active and talkative children are, the more they like to interrupt when adults are talking.

When I was a child, I was also a child who loved to interrupt. I still have clear memories. When I was 7 or 8 years old, I especially loved listening to adults speak, because I thought what they said was very interesting.

In the process of listening carefully to adults, I always like to interrupt to express my opinions or ask some questions that I don’t understand. At this time, my father will always scold me harshly: "When adults speak, children should not interrupt. !"

After being reprimanded several times, I stopped speaking when adults spoke, but I felt very wronged and hurt. I still remember this incident, and every time I think about it, I still feel uncomfortable.

Therefore, when faced with a child who is active in thinking and likes to interrupt when adults talk, parents just scold the child harshly, which can easily discourage the child's curiosity and enthusiasm for learning new knowledge, and will also seriously affect the parent-child relationship. This is wrong.

1. When parents and family are talking, if their children interrupt, parents generally do not need to care. They can encourage their children to participate in family affairs discussions and decision-making, which is good for their growth.

Children will eventually face the society and the collective, and gradually grow up. It is not a bad thing for children to participate in adults' discussions, which is conducive to the maturity and growth of children's thoughts.

If there are some things that parents do not want their children to participate in and know about, they can avoid their children and communicate and discuss alone. There is nothing wrong with children participating in ordinary family chats and discussions.

2. If there are outsiders, adults are chatting with outsiders, and children interrupt when they are talking about business, parents can communicate with their children in advance and tell them that when there are guests chatting with parents and talking about business, it is not polite for children to come in and interrupt. , if the child really wants to talk, parents can give the child a hint at the appropriate time and give the child a chance to speak.

Generally speaking, children should understand that if there are guests, it would be impolite for them to come in and interrupt. If they have any thoughts or words, they can wait until the guests leave before communicating with their parents.

3. Let children learn to listen.

It is not a bad thing for children to have ideas and talk, but it is also important to listen. Parents tell their children that they must first learn to listen, listen more to other people's thoughts and opinions, and not to interrupt hastily, because it is impolite.

It is better to speak again when others have finished speaking or are asking for their opinions. Pay special attention not to interrupt the other party. This will make the other party uncomfortable and leave a bad impression of being impolite.

4. Treat children’s desire for expression with a normal mind.

Some parents think that their children like to interrupt and have too much expressiveness. In fact, there is nothing wrong with children having expressiveness. As long as they are well guided, it will be beneficial to their children's growth.

If parents blindly suppress their children and do not allow them to interrupt or speak, they will lose the opportunity for thinking training .

A healthy child is willing to express himself, love to talk, is curious, and has a strong desire for knowledge. These are all normal phenomena. For children who like to interrupt, the key depends on how parents guide them. Smart parents will always use a tolerant attitude and a scientific approach. Treat various problems encountered in the parenting process with a unique parenting style, so that children can thrive physically and mentally healthily.