I met Ree, a new baby daddy, who came to the company for a meeting again. I asked him how he was doing, and he said that he needed to find an aunt as soon as possible, otherwise the confinement nanny would be too expensive. It's too expensive. My mother-in-law has helped me since

met Ree, a new baby daddy, who came to the company for a meeting again. I asked him how he was doing, and he said that he needed to find an aunt as soon as possible, otherwise confinement would be too expensive.

"It's so expensive, can't your high salary support it?" 

"Ten thousand, I think forget it, I'll be a confinement nanny." 

"...I'm ignorant, eighteen thousand, anyway I can't afford it. "

is too expensive. My mother-in-law has helped me since my daughter was born, and I have enjoyed the convenience of raising children. I really have never been exposed to this field. Although I also wanted to ask a confinement nanny to give me scientific and reasonable confinement care and childcare to make me feel more relaxed, but based on various practical factors, it turned out that my mother-in-law and I were able to support ourselves.

Speaking of which, I have to thank myself for being self-taught and strong and self-reliant. On the road to childbirth, I basically explored it on my own, taking courses, reading books, and leading my mother-in-law, who was still relatively conservative in this regard, into a relatively scientific field of childcare.

is not easy.

It’s no wonder that so many people don’t want to have children now. The decline in fertility rate in recent years is obvious to all. Pregnancy is a problem, and eugenics and education are also a problem. Whether we can afford to raise them is the big problem.

DINK , in addition to being a personal choice, it may also be done as a last resort.

Tracy is from the DINK family. She is nearly 50 years old and she really has no children.

Our workstations are close to each other, and we often chat about various topics every day, but we rarely talk about fertility issues. Mainly because I restrain myself and do not want to take the initiative to mention it.

Not long after I joined the company, Sister Lan secretly told me not to talk to Tracy about children, because she has no children. Judging from the way she kept it secret, maybe something happened before, but I didn't ask any more questions and just remembered this.

Maybe she has a hidden illness and is having trouble finding a child, so she just wants to be a DINK; maybe this is just a mutual choice made by the couple through friendly negotiation, and there’s nothing to dig into; if she can’t afford it, it’s definitely not a problem for her, there should really be other options The reason...

is unknown. I am very curious, but I dare not ask, out of politeness and a kind of vague sympathy.

But recently, Tracy has frequently taken the initiative to chat with us about this aspect, such as gynecological examinations, whether you have given birth to children and are not so afraid of pain; for example, she has had an intrauterine ring, so she sometimes has pain now, which is so annoying. , it depends on medication; for example, confinement care is so expensive, how do you solve it, and it is very tiring to carry it yourself...

We each expressed our opinions and talked a lot, and I was even more curious, but to this day, that sentence " Why don’t you have children?” Even though the words were on my lips, I still held them back.

Curiosity killed the cat. Since she didn't take the initiative to reveal anything about herself in this conversation, then outsiders like us shouldn't try to pry her mouth.

In order to satisfy one's own selfish desires, one may cause inhumane harm to the other person. This is not what a decent adult should do.

respects everyone's choice. As a woman, she should have the right to choose not to have children. "Why don't you have children?" should not become an invisible shackles holding her back.

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