Why do some "good-tempered" parents speak rudely to their children?
I found that in family education , there is a very "weird" phenomenon:
Many parents who smile and are submissive in front of outsiders, when supervising and guiding their children to learn, appear to be grumpy, impulsive and reckless, often If they disagree, they will start beating and scolding the children at will.
Judging from the results, it has many negative impacts on children's physical and mental development and academic growth.
So these parents, on the surface, discipline and reason "for the good of their children". Why, after all, because of their own emotional control and speech habits, they criticize their children unscrupulously and do not care about their children's emotional feelings at all. Woolen cloth?
First, care too much about your own feelings.
Some parents are always easy-going and honest outside, but at home they often "hate iron but not steel".
knows that when educating children, there are some things that are forbidden to say, and once spoken out, the children will feel aggrieved and sad, but they will still give their children a "critical blow" emotionally and emotionally.
In fact, it is a kind of selfishness.
As a parent, you have spent all your time and energy raising your children. Naturally, you hope that your children’s academic performance will allow you to show off in front of your colleagues and friends.
Unfortunately, in real life, other people's children often have high scores in and are proficient in everything, but their own children are always "lagging behind" and are asked to be parents by teachers every day.
Because many parents appear to be emotionally out of control.
But if, in the process of getting along with their children, every parent listens carefully to their children’s inner thoughts, starts from the child’s current learning level realistically, and does not blindly pursue and raise expectations for their children’s academic performance, but gives them in a clear and calm manner. Children's emotional care and learning guidance.
Then I think that a parent-child relationship like will definitely be more harmonious and warm.
Second, don’t be too “controlling”.
Many parents do not realize that their child is an independent individual.
Especially children who have entered adolescence have deep and heartfelt views on their studies, family and life.
In this case, if parents still hold on to their own outdated ideas and insist on arguing with their children about what is wrong and who is right on trivial matters, they want to completely control their children physically, mentally and in life, and make them " Forced together" under his own protection.
tends to be counterproductive.
Because children are in a critical period of physical and mental development and need more living space.
And this space includes not only a living environment with no worries about food and clothing, but also a tolerant and harmonious family atmosphere.
But as a parent, you are always thinking about "controlling" your children both physically and mentally.
Obviously is not in line with modern education laws, but also goes against the growth nature of children.
Third, don’t rush to deny your child.
Every child has his own interests, talents, self-confidence and dignity, but the excellent qualities of some children will gradually disappear due to improper education by parents and families.
and The constant denial of parents is the key reason for all this.
I don’t understand either, Why some parents like to hit, hurt and belittle their children so much.
It seems that if you criticize and criticize your children in front of them, the children will learn to make progress;
seems to tell your children that your children are not good in front of others, and your children will learn to be humble;
seems that if you belittle and ridicule your children after they have achieved great achievements, the children will continue to work hard.
But the truth is exactly the opposite. I don’t know how many outstanding children have become sensitive, extreme, rebellious and perverse because of the scolding, denial and blow from their strict fathers and loving mothers day after day, and ultimately achieved nothing.
In short, the rebellion of adolescent children is inseparable from the education of parents and family.
Why do "good-tempered" parents speak rudely to their children?
The main reason is that some parents, care too much about their own feelings, are too "controlling" and like to belittle and deny their children.
If things continue like this, it will naturally be difficult to cultivate a positive, confident, happy and intelligent child.
