In life, I often realize such a strange phenomenon:
Some parents drive their children to and from school, park their cars at random at the school gate, regardless of traffic congestion; some parents lead their children across the zebra crossing, running red lights as if no one is around... They are them, who teach their children to have a sense of rules.
Someone was spraying this and that without any cover at the table, and then turned around and told the children around him: Don’t talk nonsense when you go out.
While playing mahjong on the table, someone shouted at the child: Go and do your homework quickly.
Some people are extremely irresponsible for their work. They are already in a mixed unit, but are educating their children with a sense of responsibility...
As parents, we not only give birth to children's lives, but also shoulder the responsibility and mission of nurturing them to grow up, raising them to adulthood, and educating them to become talents. This is the human genetic code , which is biological evolution theory , which is due to nature.
undoubtedly, parents are the first teachers of their children. This position does not require an job certificate , no assessment, and no annual inspection, which has little to do with education, money, and status. Children cannot choose, and parents cannot choose either. However, being a good first teacher requires wisdom. The wisdom of love, the wisdom of education, the wisdom of growth.
Before we became parents, in addition to receiving education from our own parents, we had also received formal nine years of compulsory education. Most of us also received high school education, and the proportion of college education is not small. After entering society, we also received social education, vocational education .
However, once a parent, everyone needs to learn a new course on "educating children" from scratch. It includes the learning and practice of grand curriculum systems from love to body, from pregnancy to childbirth, from genetics to nutrition , from prenatal education to newborn care. There are still several large books like "parenting collection" stored in my bookcase. When I saw these books, I remembered the jokes of being a father who worked hard to read the script according to his book.
How can we be the first teacher? My answer is: while educating children, we will continue to learn from them and let them become their last teacher.
Newborn baby is lying in the cradle, the sun shining on his face, his eyes shining with gold. I stared at the child and reflected on my already rusty soul. If I don’t learn purity from my children, what qualifications do I have to educate my children to be clear?
In childhood, children were innocent and carefree. And I have learned to be good at calculating and responding in society. If I don’t learn simplicity and happiness from my children, what qualifications do I have to use darkness to educate the brightness?
When I was young, my children were positive and sunny, worked hard and made progress, but I was already tired and content with the status quo. If I don’t learn from my children, what qualifications do I have to educate and be diligent with laziness?
Don’t worry that children will always live in fairy tales. Compared with what we call reality, why do we have to let children recognize reality instead of returning to fairy tales?
Children grow up, we need to learn more from their children. For example, the new knowledge, new concepts and new ideas he possesses, such as his dealing with people and dealing with people, such as his resistance to stress, his persistence, and other abilities.
even in some details, children still have a lot to learn from. Let me give my child an example: the child is far away from home and has not met him for several years, but he often calls me and waits for me: "Is he going back to my hometown to see if he is grandparents this week?" Of course I understand filial piety, but the child's nagging is as friendly as the teacher's teachings. How could you worry about having a child like this?
For example, when I post an article online, I think that he often has to post a reading review, and I feel like a student handing in his homework. Because he would warn me: writing is pleasant, don’t be false, don’t go against common sense, don’t be vulgar, don’t talk nonsense, don’t be disrespectful to old people.
As for the major issues involving the feelings of family and country, I also choose to believe in the judgment and determination of young people.For example, when my child was in college, he participated in an international teaching activity one year and formed a teaching group with students from Japan, India, the United States and other countries to go to the Philippines to teach. When he first arrived at the school, the principal treated international students equally, arranged dormitories, accompanied them to visit, and assigned tasks... But at the welcome meeting that night, during the self-introduction session, when he introduced him from China, the principal who had just greeted him with a smile immediately changed his face and then transferred his dormitory from American college students after the meeting.
That night, he reported this serious injustice to me on the phone, saying that he had encountered a great humiliation. He said excitedly, you can humiliate me personally, but you cannot contempt my motherland.
After hearing this sentence, as his father, I can feel relieved: I will not raise an ungrateful wolf.
Obviously, in the face of such a major joint, my experience can no longer give him specific guidance. Finally, the child chose to meet the challenge without being humble and not being arrogant and to do his best in teaching... After more than ten days of teaching work, the prejudiced and proud principal finally apologized to him sincerely.
Dad, this is an apology to the Chinese. He told me excitedly on the phone.
, child, you have used practical actions to polish the true nature of the three words "Chinese".
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If we don’t bend down and build a dialogue platform that is the same as our children, what qualifications do we have to educate democracy with authority?
When we "educate children" in the attitude of "learning from children", we will find that while children grow up healthily, they will gradually become warm, generous and connotative. So, before we knew it, the roles of our children have been exchanged, the children have become our teachers, and we are also willing to be obedient and good students.
As the last student of your child, will you get a graduation certificate from your child for qualified parents?
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