I believe that when many mothers face their baby's crying, their first reaction is to ask their children to stop immediately. At this time, parents are usually prone to blurt out these three sentences.
"You are crying, mom doesn't want you anymore"
"The police will catch you again"
"It's useless to cry, you have to take responsibility yourself"
When you finish these words, most of them will work immediately, but when you encounter similar situations next time, the child may cry more seriously.
These three sentences are all hope that the child will not cry immediately, but in fact, they will eventually do the opposite. When the child is crying and losing his temper, these three sentences will suppress his emotions, and even think that he is a bad baby, and whether his parents don’t love me anymore, and thus fall into self-doubt.
His emotional problems were suppressed, and the parents cut off the output of negative emotions, and changed from a child's perception ability to a pleasing personality. They dare not reject others or express their own demands.
In fact, the correct way to deal with it is to encourage children to lose their temper.
First understand his emotions from the perspective of the child and start from his position to see the child's inner world and thus relieve the child's inner small emotions. You might as well say, "I know you will be sad, you can cry for a while."
and guide the child to feel emotions. We can help him explain the reason for his temper and crying, so that the child knows that his parents understand me, and his mood will calm down.
The second is to accept the child's behavior. "When mothers were young, they would cry." If parents can look at their children's behavior positively and reduce restrictions on their children, and the child will not be rebellious in their hearts, of course they will become obedient.
Finally, it helps children learn to "vent their emotions". In life, they will inevitably encounter all kinds of unhappy things. Only by learning to vent their emotions reasonably can they grow up healthily.
