Since ancient times, people have always had greater expectations for boys, such as hoping that their sons will be more sensible, smart, responsible, responsible, courageous, and courageous. They always feel that boys are the pillars of the family, so when educating boys, they will be stricter and not let their children do this or that.
But in fact, sometimes parents allow boys to do things that seem "inappropriate", which will make the boys' growth effect better.
Every time I encounter an important festival, the whole family gathers together. I remember one time, my cousin's behavior seemed generous. Although he was a little naughty, he often showed a kind of temperament that a boy should have.
But the younger brother is different. The younger brother seems to be more "mature" and "steady" than his cousin. He doesn't speak much, and just sits there very quietly, feeling that his enthusiasm is obviously not high.
And, I also found that my brother was very careful when doing things, and I couldn’t see the feeling of sunshine on his face. I always felt that my brother was worried.
Later, I realized through communication with my younger brother that when I was at home, my younger brother was always strictly controlled and was not allowed to do things that were "not in line with the identity of a man".
such as naughty, longing for "childish" things, crying, etc., so I don't know what I should do or what I can do.
If my brother continues to develop like this, I feel that I will not become a "male", because a man should not be so exaggerated.
Compared to my younger brother, my cousin's personality is much better. is very cheerful, proactive, active, and sunny. Although he seems to be a little "unstable" in his words and deeds, he is very careful in doing things and knows to take the initiative to take care of his younger brothers and sisters younger than him. In addition, this kind of care is not deliberate, but a natural, subconscious reaction.
In this regard, I feel that without having to wait to grow up, my cousin is already a responsible, responsible, and sunny "man". So, how did the uncle educate my cousin and let my cousin grow up so well?
Parents with boys in the family allow their son to do these 3 things. The children will be better every day
If a boy becomes an excellent man, he does not have to restrain him by the standards of a man when he is born, but to let the boy grow up first. Therefore, when , when raising a boy, you must allow your son to do .
✔ Allow your son to cry
Children crying is a very normal thing, but when many parents see boys cry, they always use the sentence "A man is a real man sheds blood but does not shed tears" to restrain their children, so that their emotions cannot be released through tears. The impact of doing so is very bad.
The process of children crying is an act of releasing and regulating emotions. Through crying, you can release and balance your own emotions and make your psychological environment more healthy.
If parents prohibit their children from crying, not only will the negative emotions of the children be released , but will also cause problems in the children's concepts and consciousness , and will even affect the children's sense of happiness and security, which will put the boy in an unhealthy state of growth.
So, if you have a son at home, you must allow your son to cry, just like the song "Men cry, cry, it's not a sin."
✔ Allow your son to be naughty
Boys are more lively than girls, which is a natural trait for boys. Therefore, during the growth of a boy, he will naturally show a state of "infinite vitality".
For example, jumping up and down at home, running around in the community, teasing something at home, and tearing it up in a mess, etc., are all very normal.
Famous mathematician Hua Luogeng When he was a child, he liked to disassemble things, and when he was a child, he liked to disassemble electronic products.
Therefore, parents should allow boys to be naughty, but at the same time, they should guide their children to form correct habits and help them establish basic safety awareness.
✔ Allow your son to be "timid"
Many parents think that boys should not be "timid". Whether they encounter difficulties or dangers, they should be brave people. This idea is actually very dangerous.
Boys should Strong and brave is good , but all of this should be based on the basic conditions of the child themselves .
For example, when encountering bad people, boys are not the opponents of bad people at all. It is best to use indirect methods such as asking for help from adults and calling the police to fight against bad people, rather than "being forced".
In addition, in terms of psychology, although boys are "men", they are also children. No child is afraid of anything. The courage of boys is the result of tempering their own body and psychology in the process of continuous growth.
So, it is normal for boys to be afraid of things, What we need to do is to encourage children to eliminate fear, rather than directly not allow children to be afraid.
In the process of raising boys, there are actually Many behaviors that seem to violate the characteristics of "good children", which are the key factors that make boys become good children . Parents must pay attention and never restrict boys' behaviors incorrectly.
If you are also confused about raising boys, it is recommended that you read the book "Raising Boys".
This book explains in detail a series of questions about boys in the process of raising children:
Part 1 "Accompany him through the 5 stages of growth", in the order of time, 2-22 years old, explains the roadmap for a boy to become a man, helping parents to understand the boy's growth process more comprehensively.
Part 2 About boys’ brain development and learning methods, as well as the key Physiology issues in a boy’s life, helping boys face themselves more openly.
Part 3 "Entering the Boy's Inner World" emphasizes the development of boys' emotions, spirit and morality, so that parents can clearly understand how they should raise boys so that their children can grow up healthily.
There are many very classic questions in it, such as what qualities should a boy have. Many parents just roughly think that boys should be "upright", but they don't know anything about the details.
So, parents can read this book when they are confused and understand their children and find solutions instead of torture each other.
This book is very operational, with theory and case analysis, and specific solutions, which can help parents solve various difficult problems in raising boys. It is recommended that parents with boys at home read this book.
Conclusion
The parenting process of a boy may make parents feel "tough", but parents should understand that sometimes, if you are more attentive and patient, the result of your child's growth will be completely different. Therefore, parents are asked to raise boys with an objective and scientific attitude and correctly turn boys into "male".
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